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Is it a rebound relationship in this scenerio?

Asked by VisionaryAdvait (167points) May 12th, 2009

The person says they stopped having feelings and broke up with the person, and their ex was seeing other people but lived with them for 3 months afterward cause of finances. They moved out 2 weeks ago. With me they seem really excited and say it is because their just glad to date someone new and be out of that bad relationship. Am I potentially a rebound or just exciting new potential to the person?

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mbubbles's avatar

It could be either. To answer the question fully, we would have to know all the details. Is she known for breaking up all the time, or is she a really sweet person? It could be either.

VisionaryAdvait's avatar

They just got out of a long-term relationship of 3 and ahalf years, but it sounded like it had gone really bad a long time ago. My understanding is that rebounds are more about the emotions right after the mental-emotional split in a relationship. Sounds like there has already been a cool down period but I was not sure..

mbubbles's avatar

I think she probably wants to use you as someone to get back into the swing of things again. I also think that she is using you because she likes you. You can believe what you want, but I know a lot about realtionships… except how to keep them moving. Anyway, that’s my opinion.

The_Compassionate_Heretic's avatar

By definition, you ARE the rebound guy right now. Being the rebound person isn’t always a doom position though. Just keep doing what you’re doing and if it works out, awesome.

Keep in mind, the object of your affection is in a period of transition and they could change on you very quickly through no fault of your own.Enjoy the good times while they are here.

Supacase's avatar

I think you probably are, but if you two are right for each other then it won’t matter. My husband had been in a long-term relationship with a girl who treated him increasingly bad. I was his next girlfriend and that obviously worked out pretty well.

basp's avatar

Don’t worry about what label to pin on your relationship just enjoy the moment.

wundayatta's avatar

I’m terribly confused. Is this a plural dating situation?

I guess I’d say that if they want to date you, and who knows, possibly sleep with you, then you are living a guy’s dream. Who cares if they’re on the rebound. Just catch them and have as much fun as you possibly can. If one of them drops out, you still have the other(s).

jj78's avatar

i would say you are a rebound for sure, be very carful here. anytime a person brings up there ex they are still thinking about them even if they bring up bad things about them. see there are comparing them to you and thats not a good thing. she might not addmit it or even belive it but she is rebounding for sure. if you like her take it slow and date for a month or 2 and dont have sex, if you want somthing real keep it to just kissing i mean less then a make out session, really take your time and get to know her. if after a month of doing this she has stopped bring up her ex or past relationships and shows no signs of traman ( ecessive drinking, drugs) then go for it

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