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What is the worst thing you have ever done? Do you think you can ever forgive yourself?

Asked by wildpotato (14903points) May 26th, 2009

I mean worst in your own eyes, not someone else’s. I am asking this simply because I am curious about the whole range of human experience and how people practically interpret their personal ethical beliefs.

I drove away my best friend by telling his mom he was bulimic. It was wrong because it was none of my business. I will never forgive myself.

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RealEyesRealizeRealLies's avatar

Every time I consider the worst thing I’ve ever done, it turns in time to be the best thing that ever happened.

Tink's avatar

I told my guy friend I didn’t like him like he liked me and he took it the wrong way and it ruined our friendship

steve6's avatar

It is so bad I can’t relate it here but I have forgiven myself. No one else knows about it but I’m sure someone was affected and it happened almost thirty years ago so the matter is forgotten.

Blondesjon's avatar

None of your business and yes I have.

steve6's avatar

Is that Warren Beatty?

wildpotato's avatar

@Blondesjon Hm I guess the anonymity of this site is not quite enough to encourage the level of frankness I was requesting. I don’t want to seem to pressure you to answer, but I just want to point out that you could answer using a different name if you don’t want it attached to “Blondesjon”, Fluther says they allow that for this purpose.

Facade's avatar

I don’t know if I’ve really forgiven myself. What is forgiveness anyway

FireMadeFlesh's avatar

I will not post the worst thing I have done, as the action itself is no longer relevant. I have forgiven myself, and do not dwell on it any more.

Blondesjon's avatar

@wildpotatothere was this one time…at band camp…

MrGV's avatar

When i was in elementary i laughed at the special ed kids and made fun of them…when i think back at it; it doesn’t really bother me.

Macaulay's avatar

I hacked into someone’s photobucket and deleted all of their family photographs, KNOWING the photographs weren’t saved by him anywhere else. He also hadn’t seen his family in years.
He forgave me; l I have not.

RealEyesRealizeRealLies's avatar

The lessons learned from past mistakes are far more powerful than the mistakes themselves. True enlightenment can only manifest through enduring suffering of our own doing, moving past it, and being grateful for the opportunity of that terrible experience.

Without the mistakes, the enlightenment could not birth.

Aethelwine's avatar

I put pancakes in the frizzer once and forgot about them.

I’ll never forgive myself. Those wasted pancakes!

richardhenry's avatar

* hides bodies

What are we talking about?

RealEyesRealizeRealLies's avatar

@wildpotato

As to anonymity, we still have our online identities to protect.

chyna's avatar

Used a tree chipper

Blondesjon's avatar

@chynait’s ok dear…they had it coming…

evelyns_pet_zebra's avatar

What I did will go to the grave with me. I can never forgive myself for something so egregious, even if the persons I wronged have forgiven me or even forgotten about it. I saw a question like this before, and my answer to that one was pretty much the same.

wildpotato's avatar

@Blondesjon Wot’s a frizzer?
@RealEyesRealizeRealLies That’s why I pointed out the option to create a temporary account.

wildpotato's avatar

@evelyns_pet_zebra My bad. I did try to search for something like it from the past questions, and the closest one I saw was “What is the worst thing your pet ever did?” :)

DrasticDreamer's avatar

I ruined someone. No, I will not ever forgive myself.

timeand_distance's avatar

In fifth grade, I decided to make a newsletter thing that I’d give out to the class once a week. Crossword and everything, it was hot shit, if I do say so myself.
This one dude decided he’d try to do the same thing, which SUPER pissed 10-year-old me off, so one time at recess I snuck into the classroom and deleted his from his desktop since he’d stayed logged onto his account.
He cried and went “WHY WOULD SOMEONE DO THAT!?” over and over and everyone felt really bad for him and I just did the shifty eyes and never apologized or anything, even though everyone knew I did it.
I still think back to that sometimes when I’m stoned and it totally ruins my high.

Aethelwine's avatar

@wildpotato This is the frizzer and here are the pancakes. Enjoy! :)

hug_of_war's avatar

This isn’t the worst thing..but a bad thing.

I was on the bus ride home from school and it was yearbook time. The bus driver gave us assigned seats that year and I just sat by the window while my busmate talked and stuff. Well on this day I heard her making fun of one of my best friends and pointing at her picture in the yearbook laughing and I just sat there and didn’t say anything, like a pansy. I should have stood up for her.

Macaulay's avatar

Could someone explain my my answer is “great?”

casheroo's avatar

I’ve lied about some pretty huge things. Lies that ruined my life at that point in time, and hurt people. I also did something that I’d have to say is one that I’m most ashamed of. Actually, there are two of thoses, but I can push the one out of my mind better than the other.
Why would I have to forgive myself, if I hurt others?

noelasun's avatar

@Macaulay because you actually answered the question.

oratio's avatar

I broke up with the woman I loved. She slept with another guy, but was full of regret, and really wanted to make it work. I was to hurt, and broke it up. That was the most stupid thing I have ever done in my life.

wildpotato's avatar

@casheroo I think the motive behind forgiving yourself is that you believe you can still be the person you hoped you would be. If you think you have done something unforgiveable you know that you can never be that person.

ru2bz46's avatar

@oratio I stayed with my wife after she cheated. Several times. Five years later, I finally felt like I could trust her again. A week later, I found out she was making plans to leave me for another guy. She was making these plans for eight months before I found out. She begged and pleaded for me to keep her that time as well. We are currently separated, and she told me she wants to start dating. I don’t think you did anything stupid at all.

RealEyesRealizeRealLies's avatar

@ru2bz46

That’s a fucking outstanding story!

ru2bz46's avatar

I was manipulated into telling my best friend not to contact me anymore. My girlfriend at the time was jealous of my female friend, so she wanted to be sure there was no competition. I stupidly broke down and did it to save our relationship.

I later married the friend I had pushed aside (after I was used up by the ex-girlfriend), but I still wonder if my earlier stupidity partially led to the seemingly unrelated problems that developed later on and ended our marriage.

She is still my best friend, so that makes it easier to deal with what I did.

ru2bz46's avatar

@RealEyesRealizeRealLies Thanks. You can have it.

Gobbles's avatar

Have you heard of Turducken?

need I say more?

Jack79's avatar

I think I may have hit two girls on a motorbike once. I was too blinded with anger at the time to stop, it was not that I was scared of the cops or anything like that. Luckily it was a busy street so I like to think that, even if they did get hurt, someone took them to hospital. Or that they kept their balance and never fell off that bike (we weren’t going that fast). But I never checked.

brettvdb's avatar

I joined Fluther.

I will never forgive myself…

CMaz's avatar

We all have done things that we regret later. You have to and you will put it in a place in your mind so you can, and do, move on. If you want to say you will never forgive yourself. The you are just your own martyr. Learn from it and get on with your life. (as we do)
That is a great question, we tend to be hardest on ourselves. Good or bad, these experiences make us who we are. I regret, I reflect, and I remember. That is about all we can do. Life it hard enough, no need to beat yourself down any more then you have to.

Supacase's avatar

Not the worst, but probably the worst I am willing to answer on here. Also the worst I can currently think of because I have likely blocked some of the others.

I punched my mom in the stomach in 7th or 8th grade. We were arguing and I clenched my fists. She dared me to hit her, so I did. I felt terrible immediately, but never showed it or apologized. I’m not sure about the forgiveness angle, but I think we have both moved on from those years in order to have a better relationship now.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

I don’t know if I’ve ever done something that I subsequently didn’t forgive myself for…I’ve cheated but I only mildly feel badly about those times…there were circumstances

Clair's avatar

i’m so distracted by orgasm pancakes
i forgot the question

Judi's avatar

@timeand_distance ; Do you know what he’s doing in his life now?

Poser's avatar

I tried to change who I was for someone else. I haven’t forgiven myself for it.

timeand_distance's avatar

@Judi
I think he’s just a normal dude these days.
he was a fuckin’ weirdy back then.

blueberries's avatar

ive put my ex boyfriend through hell i still havent forgiven myself :(

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