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How close should a Student-teacher Relationship be?

Asked by rhector63 (219points) May 29th, 2009

Well, i have this teacher and well he likes to act like a teenager. And to tell you the truth its really kind of funny. But does he need to start acting his age or what?

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cyn's avatar

what teacher?

rhector63's avatar

Mr.Shiele have you seen him in class, well in my class

cyn's avatar

don’t know him!
just let him be
you should be flattered
teachers like that are the ones that entertain the school

spresto's avatar

Unless he is hitting on you.

rhector63's avatar

well, you need to meet him then lets see what you say

rhector63's avatar

hes not hitting us @spresto

rhector63's avatar

hitting on us i meant

spresto's avatar

Well, then I would not worry about it.

rhector63's avatar

ha yeah, its kinda funny sometimes though (really funny)

spresto's avatar

I’d believe it. How old is he?

rhector63's avatar

well hes been working there since the 60’s so calculate

spresto's avatar

Well, you are as young as you feel. If you hang around younger people all day you are bound to act like it, lol. It probably good for him.

rhector63's avatar

true, hes cool in his own special way

casheroo's avatar

Your question and then details don’t seem to go together. What are you asking? How close a teacher should be to a student? Or if your teacher is immature?

susanc's avatar

He’s kind of silly? But not trying to get sexy? Sounds kind of nice.

Jack79's avatar

I have always been extremely close with all of my students, and often sit next to them in class, especially if I have to explain something or help them write, or walk around the desks, generally mingle. I know this may sound weird in the US, but my students often hug me and kiss me, especially old students that see me in the street.

But there is always a barrier, and that is the important bit. I act as if I’m their father or older brother. Not their peer, not their friend. No student ever felt threatened, no one ever imagined that I could be hitting on them or have any unpure thoughts, because my position was always very clear. I showed love and affection, but not attraction. And got the same back.

Yes, of course I’ve had students falling in love with me, especially since I started teaching very young, but that’s the whole point: they are allowed to fall in love with you, it’s normal; you are the one that has to be responsible and draw the line.

I have always lived by extremely strict moral rules as far as my classroom behaviour is concerned, and remain their teacher even years later. There are 30-year-old women that come up to me in the street and I’m still “Sir” as far as they’re concerned, even if I happen to have a girlfriend younger than them.

So I guess what I’m trying to explain is that it doesn’t really matter what you do, but how you do it. Some teachers can stand next to a student and it’s sexual harrassment, others could have them sitting on their lap and it’s not.

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