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lilgiraffe's avatar

What are the telltale signs of insecurity?

Asked by lilgiraffe (283points) July 11th, 2009
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DrasticDreamer's avatar

Depends. Physically insecure or emotionally insecure? Either way, there can be a pretty long list. Having to look “perfect” is one of them. Another is never being able to state in front of people how you actually feel about something, for fear of being seen as “too different”. Arrogance can be a sign that someone is insecure. Many things. That’s just the tip of the iceberg.

seekingwolf's avatar

-repeatedly asking someone for reassurance, love, affection, etc.
-being overly jealous
-having low self esteem
-underestimate own abilities/potential
-have very low goals for oneself when clearly, you can do better
-needing a man/woman to feel “complete”
-relying heavily on others for emotional or other sorts of needs
-anxiety when you have to be alone or do something by yourself
-inability to be alone or enjoy being alone because you always need someone there
-comparing yourself to others constantly
-desperately needing to “fit in”

That’s just a few. I’m sure there are more.

The_Compassionate_Heretic's avatar

Being a “people pleaser”.
Extreme vanity.
Talking a lot.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

being overly macho

AstroChuck's avatar

Putting down others.

Bunch of f***ing a**holes.

Lovey_Howell's avatar

(above plus:)
Constant need for validation
Ex: Posting obviously true statements on internet debate sites so that the predominance of strangers and anonymous users on that website will agree with the posted statement. :-P
Posing questions to partner expecting them to lie
Ex: Do I look fat in these jeans? Answer: Of course you look fat in those jeans. You look fat in all your clothes, or no clothes at all… face it, you’re just fat. Expected answer: no.

Garebo's avatar

When you masturbate too much.

Garebo's avatar

Too much, is something you only know.

mally03's avatar

Someone who tries too hard to be the center of attention,as in being loud,and obnoxious.

Garebo's avatar

You are right about that.

evelyns_pet_zebra's avatar

masturbating too much is when it starts to chafe.

loser's avatar

I think I’m going back to therapy now.

Blondesjon's avatar

Being an overbearing, egotistical, loudmouth, bullying sack of. . .uh. . . wait a minute. . .

never mind

nebule's avatar

not leaving the house

wundayatta's avatar

Me? Never mind. Everyone is insecure in some way or another. If they’re not, they should be.

@Blondesjon I always thought being an overbearing, egotistical, loudmouth, bullying sack of was a sign of being an overbearing, egotistical, loudmouth, bullying sack of… whatever.

Blondesjon's avatar

@daloon . . .You were right. Shhh…don’t tell anyone. They’ll all be doing it.

mattbrowne's avatar

Hating other people.

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