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Have you ever envied somebody else's life?

Asked by kheredia (5561points) July 11th, 2009

I confess. I envy one of my friends for everything she has accomplished. I feel that she has the life that I always wanted. I don’t hate her for it. In fact, I’m happy that at least one of us did it right. And the truth is, she’s inspired me to try to reach my goals. I just wish I would have done it right the first time around.

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Darwin's avatar

Sometimes, yes, I do envy what I see of someone’s life. However, unless I were to be that person, I wouldn’t know about all of their life. If I did, I might not envy them any longer.

And while I might envy some aspects of Bill Gates’ life, the man can’t go to the grocery store by himself because everyone recognizes him and wants money from him. I think I’ll stay with being me.

Facade's avatar

I surely have.

filmfann's avatar

Anyone Grace Park is dating.

cyn's avatar

yes I have.

Master's avatar

Isn’t that what we do for a living?

cyn's avatar

@Master surely, but it’s not the only thing….

Darwin's avatar

@Master – It is only what we do for a living if we write for celebrity gossip magazines. It is, however, a hobby for many people, even though Moses and his tablets said not to do it.

Facade's avatar

@filmfann Would you at least feed her if yall started dating?

kenmc's avatar

People who are happy.

The_Compassionate_Heretic's avatar

I wonder if anyone envies my life. That would be odd.

DominicX's avatar

I envy some aspects of my best male friend’s life, who happens to be in the same room as me right now and if he sees what I’m writing, I’ll die. I think it has more to do with him as a person rather than his life, so sorry, I suppose I’m not exactly properly answering this question. I envy that he’s so creative artistically, that’s something that I just don’t have. He’s also kind of “innocent”, he’s nice to every one he comes across, and no one seems to ever get angry at him and he never gets angry at anyone. I love that. I wish I could be like that. Sometimes I feel like he as a simple carefree outlook on life. I can’t help but envy that a little, albeit my life is perfectly fine.

I don’t envy the fact that people sometimes think he’s not that smart nor do I envy that he has one grandparent left and no first cousins.

cyn's avatar

@The_Compassionate_Heretic I could say that I envy your life because you always say the right things at the right moment!

cyn's avatar

anyways… might think you envy people but there are also people envying your life…think of the poor….

ABoyNamedBoobs03's avatar

Keanu Reeves…

now hear me out.

the man by and large is nothing but a semi handicapped offense. by actor standards he’s not very attractive, interesting, or really even much of an actor in the first place… but the only thing he has to do with the rest of his life is try and spend all his money before he dies, and by all accounts it’ll actually be pretty hard to burn that cash. I mean come on, who on here couldn’t act with the same style he does? So I definitely give him props for being the luckiest pot head I’ve ever seen…

mally03's avatar

I think its human nature to envy someone when things arnt going as we would like them to in our own life.

evelyns_pet_zebra's avatar

@The_Compassionate_Heretic I envy you because you are a Moderator. That rocks!

Garebo's avatar

Instead of envy, I get jealous, hard for me to tell the two apart. I had a long overdue meeting with a long lost friend at another long lost friends place, and we had a great time. He is successful and wealthy, but still the same guy as I remember when we were young and crazy. He later extended invitations for us to stay at his place (palace), whenever we wanted. What a pad, and we were neck and neck-he won.
It has always been hard for me to admire him, he still makes me jealous.

Jeruba's avatar

You’re envious if you want what the other has—if you wish it were yours and resent that he has it instead of you. You’re jealous if you think someone else has stolen your affection. The feeling you are describing about your friend is envy. If your girlfriend started to act interested in him, you would be jealous.

cookieman's avatar

I envy @Jeruba for her ability to communicate so beautifully.

That being said, I have learned that while certain aspects of someone’s life may be enviable, there are certainly parts you would dislike equally.

In the end, we all have our issues.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

I’ve never envied another’s life because I know that things are never what they seem and because I truly haven’t found anyone with a richer life than mine and I worked hard to get myself to a life like that..I know, for a fact, that people envy my life, though, they think things just happen to me, but they’re wrong…everything they envy I’ve gotten through hard work and sleepless nights and emotional risks…and the bad in my life I don’t just post on facebook or what not so it may seem as if I have none but the truth is there’s been plenty of hardships that those who envy me wouldn’t handle

SuperMouse's avatar

@ABoyNamedBoobs03 you are a genius!

Yes, I have envied other people’s lives. I envied friends with huge houses and expensive cars.

When my marriage broke up I found that others envied me because on the outside we looked like the perfect couple. I don’t find myself filled with envy anymore, now I tend to take a more realistic view.

jbfletcherfan's avatar

I have a good friend whom I’ve known since we were kids. We still see each other & hang out. She’s always had the perfect family, perfect home. She never seems to have any issues going on. To me, she’s just always led a charmed life.

Garebo's avatar

@Jeruba: thanks for the clarification. We were very competitive and best of friends growing up, which is probably the source of the envy.

casheroo's avatar

Sometimes, but it’s fleeting. I think everyone has experienced it at some point in their life. Overcoming it makes you a better person.

hungryhungryhortence's avatar

Yes but not in a seething way. One of my friends has a great husband, great kids and through thick and thin they all pull together and still have time for others. Funny thing is, she says she envies my life so I guess we balance each other well.

Blondesjon's avatar

Only when I’m jonesin’. . .

dannyc's avatar

I have always envied people who seem so happy, even in the face of the worst situations, as I tend to be more intense and a gloomster when bad things happen. I have to work through my feelings, understand my nature as just the way I am, and try and move on. But envy can be the initial reaction to such people.

Bluefreedom's avatar

I wish I could play golf as good as Tiger Woods does. If that’s being envious of someone else’s life then I’m guilty as charged. I suppose it could mean I’m envious of a skill he possesses as opposed to directly envying his life though and if that’s the case, I’m in the clear right?

CMaz's avatar

Not their life, but the resources they have. Knowing, I could do a better job with it then they are.

Tealuvertia's avatar

yes, definetly

filmfann's avatar

@Tealuvertia Welcome to Fluther. Lurve.

NUNYA's avatar

Ummmmmmmmmmmm to wish things could be better or different, YES! But to have the life of someone else, NO! Nobody elses life is “perfect” (tho from the outside looking in might appear that way) and sometimes hiden under all of that “STUFF” layered on the outside of their life could be a lot of sadness and pain. NO I am not envious of anyone else. I have what I have and that is all there is. Only “I” can make it different/better!!!

Aster's avatar

I’m envious of my daughter’s inlaws because they’re young and travel constantly. The husband is Super nice, a people person in the real estate/oil business. Costa Rica is their favorite destination. They fly first class (and complain about it), had a custom made BMW shipped to them for over 100K dollars (it appears rather plain), a big new house being built and most of all, a big family for whom they throw parties all the time. New babies are arriving and they are adorable. Her three sons are all very nice men with great families. She has cosmetic surgery every year by an expensive doctor in Dallas. They all go to the same church together , for the most part. And with all of this, she suffers from anxiety and drinks. That part I don’t envy or understand. But great people who seem to “have it all.”

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

@Aster An addiction for cosmetic surgery, anxiety and a drinking problem doesn’t equal ‘having it all’.

Aster's avatar

@Simone_De_Beauvoir I guess that’s true but I think a lot of women would switch places w/her regardless. She also had stomach bypass and lost 100 lb.
No; it isn’t perfect but better than a lot of situations she could find herself in. Glad I can count on you to disagree with 99% of my posts.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

@Aster That’s because they think the grass is greener on the other side when it isn’t, always. A stomach bypass has a lot of side effects, the weight almost always comes back and thereare follow up procedures like you wouldn’t believe. I just want you to know that you can be happy having your life. You can count on me to provide an opinion in answer to yours – whether or not we disagree all the time is irrelevant.

Aster's avatar

I know bypass CAN have side effects ; people Die from them. Hers was six years ago and if she had side effects I’d hear about it. She talks to my daughter (and to most people) non-stop. She did gain back maybe 20lb but then had a tummy tuck years later so she looks very good for 50. But she doesn’t look forty at all. In fact, she looks 50 with the exception of that chin and abdomen.
She now has neither.
As far as the weight almost always coming back you may be talking about liposuction. I can’t imagine 100 lb coming back since her stomach is the size of a walnut. Or it was, anyway.
I can count on you to provide an opinon in answer to mine-whether or not we disagree all the time is irrelevant but usually predictable.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

@Aster I don’t believe I asked for the details of her procedure.

Aster's avatar

@Simone_De_Beauvoir No, but you will sometimes receive detailed responses you never asked for on fluther. You don’t have to read them.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

@Aster yeah, lol, I saw you do that on the religion and your parents q – that was completely pointless

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