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What do you do when you feel like there is no where else to turn too?

Asked by babygalll (2768points) July 26th, 2009

The question says it all. In terms of everything in life. Work, love, family, friends, financial difficulties, relationships. What do you all do?

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jamielynn2328's avatar

I turn to me. I am always there for me.

srmorgan's avatar

Best friend, he is always there for me.
My sister,
My shrink, but I have to pay him, the others offer free advice


hearkat's avatar

I journal; and sometimes I go back and read old journals, to see how I have dealt with similar circumstances in the past or how far I’ve come.

I listen to music that helps evoke my moods and purge them.

cyndyh's avatar

If things are not that bad, I remind myself of that.

If things are that bad, there’s probably something I should be doing to work toward a solution so I do that.

hungryhungryhortence's avatar

Seconding jamielynn, I turn to me. There have been times I’ve not wanted to turn to even my closest longtime friends and burden them so I made a gameplan just for me and talked to my dog out loud a lot.

Facade's avatar

I pray to my Lord.

SeventhSense's avatar

At the point I reached an awareness that ultimately I could count on no one is the point I realized that I didn’t have to count on anyone My life can be summed up by two words “Letting Go”.
Letting go of expectations, assumptions, attachments, addictions, delusions, ego involvement and accepting life as it is and not as I would want it to be. There is perfect security in resting upon the goodness of life at the core of everything. Whether you call that God, love, life, benevolence, hope or just being.The fact of the matter is that we need nothing or no one to complete us. We are inseparable from the rhythm of life because we are life. There is power in that awareness that goes far beyond the confirmation of another person’s approval

StephK's avatar

Honestly? I’ve never been good at handling that. I’m interested to read responses.

ShanEnri's avatar

I practice escapism (sp?) That is when a person escapes to an inner sanctum. A fantasy world, where there are no problems or at least problems I can deal with. When I decide it’s time I deal with the real world and it’s problems. For me this is simply something I do to keep from getting too stressed out!

Bri_L's avatar

@StephK – Ditto that.

JONESGH's avatar

Write. Play an instrument. Always makes me feel better.

evelyns_pet_zebra's avatar

Well, I talk to my wife, she has a pretty good handle on things. In fact, we usually turn to each other for support in difficult times. Sometimes I play with my Hissers and their antics help to cheer me up. They are just so darn cute. They are so delicate and fragile, and yet, they have existed for millions of years longer than even the dinosaurs. When all else fails, I seek out professional help. Having someone to talk to that doesn’t know you intimately sometimes helps.

A little chuckle now and again does wonders for the mind. The only people that can’t laugh are dead. If you find yourself unable to laugh, check for a pulse.

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KatawaGrey's avatar

Well, if it’s the kind of thing that I can’t talk to my mom or a few good friends about, then I usually curl up in a little ball and cry while trying to distract myself until I get so exhausted that I fall asleep. Usually when I wake up, everything is not so horrible and I feel much better. I worry too much so this happens a lot. I need to work on that…

DrBill's avatar

Enjoy the solitude.

Nially_Bob's avatar

Suffer through it until I resist by instinct more than choice. This is assuming there is literally no other source of assistance to turn to.

Zendo's avatar

@SeventhSense That is a very cool philosophy my friend. I wholeheartedly approve (not that you need any approval at all).

dollyrockmuse's avatar

I talk with people whose opinions matter to me. If no one seems to understand, I listen to music, cry (if I need to), scream and clear my head, write and pray. In that order.

nebule's avatar

Yep…@SeventhSense I agree too…

other than that…there’s always food!

CMaz's avatar

I get over it.

KatawaGrey's avatar

When I get sad, I stop being sad and be awesome instead.

hearkat's avatar

@lynneblundell: “there’s always food!” — that is a potentially dangerous thought.

I have often said that food is the most difficult addiction to handle. At one time in my life, I was a compulsive overeater (binging without purging). Since we have to eat to live, we can not quit food ‘cold turkey’ and the bad stuff is heavily advertised and temptation is everywhere. Dealing with the weight is my final hurdle to overcome, now that I have found self-love and contentment. Fortunately, my health did not suffer, but it is still difficult shedding the physical ‘baggage’ of my past.

MerMaidBlu's avatar

I do the best I can with what I’ve got, sometimes that’s the hardest part.

nebule's avatar

@hearkat Yeah I know… but I didn’t mean like..just eat forever. I’ve found that I hit a certain wieght and then I say ‘no more!’... the food served it’s purpose but not any more… I think it’s more about letting yourself do and be the things you need to be for a while…even if they are unhealthy for you.. of course: as long as you know when to stop… but I guess that’s the big ‘if’...

SeventhSense's avatar

Chocolate is divine.

hearkat's avatar

@SeventhSense: especialy Swiss Dark Chocolate… :-P~~

nebule's avatar

@SeventhSense your picture deserves about 10 lurves IMO!

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