Would you want people to withhold lurve so you can get points?
Not too long ago, I read that someone had a strategy of not giving lurve to someone who they had maxed out lurve on. Their theory was that they should hold back and let others whose lurve might count give lurve first.
The reasoning is that only the first five lurves on a question count for points. If you’ve maxed out on a person, you could let newer folks give the lurve (which might result in points) until five lurve had been given, and then provide lurve.
If I had this strategy, which I think is a thoughtful gesture, I’d probably never get back to the answer to give lurve. I was thinking that it might make me feel less motivated, if all the people who have maxed out on me withheld their lurve. While I like lurve that adds points, I also like the encouragement of GAs. If people started withholding lurve to give me an opportunity to get points, I might not get any lurve, and then might feel less appreciated.
How would you feel if people took this strategy? What would you prefer folks-who-have-maxed-out-their-lurve-on-you do?
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Just give me the GA buddy. If I get even 5 GAs that’s an achievement in itself. This just tells me that people appreciate my answer. Besides, I know that I can always earn the lurve in another question.
Likewise, I wouldn’t not give GAs to a person just because I’ve maxed out on lurve to them. If it’s a GA it’s a GA. Lurve is just one measure of it. Most important is how the collective views that person (although I gotta admit that seeing your lurve points go up is just soooo satisfying).
I don’t look at my lurve in that way. It is just so darn meaningless. Sometimes I have spent 45 minutes researching and crafting an answer that is thoughtful, detailed and, if I do say so myself, useful. But I do say so myself since the answer receives no GAs.
Other times I have received lots of GAs for a one-word answer of No. Now, I did mean to make a point with that answer about the question and it could be regarded as witty, but still, in the end no is just no and hardly deserving of GAs.
Then there are the sloppy lurve fests that the congratulatory threads have become where people pick up these days huge lurve pijnts not just for meaningful, well-written tributes, but for typing “congratulations”.
One day I completely misread a question. Did you ever do that? So my answer was wrong. Not helpful. The questioner wanted to know about MAC cosmetics, which I misunderstood as MAC computers. My wrong answer got multiple GAs.
So, it is really hard to take lurve very seriously at all.
Finally, I think anyone who actually has a strategy for giving or withholding lurve needs to get a life. I did not even know that only the first five count. How do you know the ins and outs of lurve? I still have not ever been sure of the maximum number one user can award another.
Wayyyyy too much thought for something that doesn’t have any real value.
I wasn’t aware of the limit, either. And I agree with a lot of what Marina said, I’ve noticed that really good, helpful answers get less GAs than I would expect, where, inexplicably, jokey, unhelpful answers get lots.
I would rather get the GA, rather than someone hold off so I can get points (though, that’s thoughtful). Personally, I like accruing points, but I’m not completely invested. However, a GA makes me feel good, especially if I’ve put time and effort into something I feel is an excellent answer. Because I’ve noticed this phenomenon, I make a point to GA those who write out great, thoughtful posts that are helpful in answering the question at hand.
I occasionally get inexplicable GA’s for an edit of a misspelled word. The micro-system often makes no sense at all, but usually the macro-one will have some meaning. And lurve can’t buy me money.
Milo doesn’t put much thought into his answers and is very surprised at some of the responses.
Yeah I don’t really delve into fluther lurve point strategery lol
My whole thing with giving lurve is…I want the person to know that someone appreciated their answer. Even if I know I’m maxed out, I still give them lurve for a good response. Learning that it affects their total lurve didn’t bother me, since I know lurve isn’t the reason those people are on this site.
The points system is a nice way to know who’s been around, and what people think of your answers, but it’s not the end all be all if you want to be a solid contributor, I’m just as happy to get a GA and no Lurve as I am to get it and get Lurve, as my momma always says, it’s the thought that counts.
I honestly couldn’t care less. Personally a Great Answer means as much, or more than the lurve that comes with it. Seeing a high number of GAs or GQs of mine always makes me smile. Coming from someone with 20K+ lurve this probably sounds like BS, but I’m being sincere. Lurve is fun but people make way too much out of it.
Being notoriously poor at Math, the intricacies of how many points for what and when still has me totally befuddled. I’m just happy that the GA system is simple and clear cut. So, I’m fine with that and let the numbers fall wherever they may.
There’s no way I could possibly remember whom I have maxed out on or when so I just give a GA out instinctively when someone answer strikes me as well thought out and answering the question at hand. And if it’s a quip or something, it has to genuinely tickle my funny bone to get a GA
It’s fun to watch Lurve increase, but it would be just as much fun to be here without it. The first time I noticed I was getting GA’s without increasing my Lurve it made me anxious and I asked a mod why that was happening. After I understood I relaxed. I try to remember to give Lurve as soon as I see an answer I like, even though I’m sure I’m maxed out on some people. The joy is in being valued, not in attaining a high score.
I decided not to give Marina’s answer lurve as a sign of respect! :-) As usual, she makes a lot of sense. I too have found that my (to me) thoughtful, compassionate answers have often been passed by while the quick, off-the-cuff witticisms get multiple GAs.
However, I really do enjoy seeing my lurve (librarians are in it for the appreciation, not the money), but I really don’t have or believe in a lurve strategy. I give my GAs indiscriminately to all.
No, I would not. I like GA’s even better than points, and I don’t want people to have to calculate whether ‘this’ is the time to avoid or whatever. There is no built in calculator, so how can we be sure?
Besides, the Fluther God’s sent me a personal message saying they are working on fixing that issue.
my off-the-cuff witticisms can beat up your thoughtful, compassionate answers
my off the cuff witticisms can beat up your off the cuff witticisms.
definitely not on Yom Kippur. I’ll rein them in.
Never knew there was a lurve strategy. I just want someone to lurve me because they like what I have to say.
Wow, I had no idea and didn’t pay it much mind until now. So in giving particular people lurve, I ruin the chance of them getting actual points from others? Ooh, sorry y’all. No more lurving from Hx3. It’s all so much strategizing to think on, blech. Maybe from now on I’ll just write a comment that say, “luve”.
@hungryhungryhortence Please do not give it a second thought, the “Powers That Be” are diligently working on solving this issue
@daloon I will withhold giving lurve to you for obvious reasons. ;)
@jonsblond Damn! I must be slow tonight! Don’t tell yer better other half. He’ll never let me hear the end of it! ;-)
I give lurve to good answers. Hopefully, people will notice those good answers in the future. Points are nice, but secondary.
Don’t you think that was a good answer? (taps lurve jar)
Lurve to me is given if I think a particular answer is funny, educational, answers the question and doesn’t side track or appears genuine. It really depends, some I gve lurve to straight away, otehr times I may re read a post and spot an answer that I missed previously.
Didn’t know so much thought process went into giving lurve… to me it’s just an instict thing, I don’t look at the avatars just teh answers given!
the thought has never crossed my mind and seems illrelevent
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