Question about the physical aspect of relationships?

No, not really unless you apply the feelings of love that a couple has for one another instead of just the chemical attraction that occurs when two people are first drawn together.

Then, with love applied, all acts and touches of love are wonderful. Also, your physical intimacy deepens, and even the act of making love is better.

My GF and I met one night, then went out for coffee the next night. She then drove home (almost two hours away) that same night. We proceeded to talk to each other over the phone for the next several weeks before we saw each other again. So by the time we had our “second” date, we knew each other pretty well. We couldn’t keep our hands off each other. We progressed pretty rapidly that day from our first kiss to making love. I truly wanted to wait for at least several more weeks because I knew she was special and I truly cared for her. But the moment proved too much, and we went for it.

I haven’t regretted that we didn’t spend more time together first. We’re still together three years later (and two oceans away). I still get butterflies in my stomach when we meet for a passionate kiss, or when we start getting “romantic.” We have a great thing, and the circumstances surrounding our first time haven’t harmed our relationship.

None of it is ever supposed to lose excitement, imo.

it can work – it depends on how much chemistry the couple have!

Without love those feelings will die and cease to exist. .. Luckily.. as I’ve said a million times on fluther.. love is a choice. Choosing to love someone can make all those things exciting again.

I don’t think the initial excitement is supposed to last forever for instance, (keep in mind this relationship started when I was a freshman in HS) when she would hold my hand back then I would not want to stand up too quickly if you catch my drift. When we kissed the first time I was so excited I was almost sick. I know that there should be feelings that go with affection but it would be weird if the initial excitement lasted forever and I’m not sure I’d want it to

Every situation, as you will learn, is different. Some people just want to get laid the first time they meet and never see each other again, no harm no foul. Some people are drawn to each other, and doing that the first time they meet is just part of the process. Some people do this and are confused going in and confused when it’s over. Just make sure your communicating with your partner, and being honest about what you’re feeling and looking for in that moment. Anything else is unfair and possibly deceptive. Not cool.

Every situation is different, but as one of the old-timers here, whatthefluther, likes to say, “Life is about choices. Your mileage may vary.”

There’s been multiple times that I’ve slept with my partner very early on into the relationship. And it had no negative impacts whatsoever.

For example, my current girlfriend. We met once about 7 years ago, when we were kids. I lived in Louisiana and was visiting family in New York. Then, about four months ago, she flew down to Louisiana to visit my cousin, and they stayed at my house. I really didn’t say more than a couple words to her, because of my anxiety, but after she flew back to NY we started texting eachother and talking on the phone. She decided to move down here to be with me, and we fucked the first night she came in.

But to this day it still excites me to hold her hand and hug her, etc. Even though we had sex very early on, the rest of the affection still came naturally.

I suspect that the allure and excitement of the less intimate physical contact of budding relationships has a lot to do with the exciting, but uncertain potential of a new relationship. It isn’t just the contact itself, but what it suggests about the progression of the relationship.