how do you control your anger?

Sometimes I am able to take a step back and think about what it is that is really making me angry about the situation. Is it that person or something else completely different? Other times I like to go into another room by myself and turn the radio up, sing until my heart is content and let it all go.

It depends on the circumstance.

When someone wrongs me I usually try to evaluate the situation, look at their actions through filterless eyes – to better understand their reasons and usually come to the conclusion that their actions weren’t personal and that generally calms me down.

Now if we are talking about driving, then I have no advice for you. :p

I’ll also add that it’s very important not to devalue your own feelings of anger just because you’ve reached a higher understanding of the situation.

I usually leave whatever is angering me and listen to music. Let me tell you I have a bad anger problem so really I don’t know what works.

I ask myself what’s really causing me to be angry. Usually, it’s because my feelings have been hurt in some way. Then I just focus on that and the anger subsides. That makes it a lot easier to focus on a positive solution to my problem.

I ask myself if this is still going to matter three weeks from now. If no, lighten up. If yes, think about it and respond as best you can.

Oxygen!! I take a deep breath, or I put lots of airspace between myself and the person/situation making me angry!!