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Yogi's avatar

okay I've been meaning to ask and I need both side opinion!! What does it take for someone to have a threesome? And if in a relationship, why does it have to be someone your girl/boy friend don't know? Why can't it be a friend u like or a friend of ur girl/boy friend?

Asked by Yogi (40points) March 14th, 2008 from iPhone

I always here everyone talk on how they had a threesome and how much fun it was. I just wanna try some time and see if it is what people say cause it always been my fantasy

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ninjaxmarc's avatar

it could be good and bad knowing the person you are having a threesome with. Unless someone is strong emotionally and thick skinned the 3rd person may get attached or someone else might get attached to that 3rd person when its just sex its great when its something else it could be a big can of trouble. Choose wisely and make sure everyone is on the same page. Setting up rules from the beginning could help but really takes the fun out of it. From someone that has and had the same mindset before and after.

RedmannX5's avatar

my girlfriend wouldn’t do it with one of her friends either. She says that it would be awkward. If it was with someone that neither of us knew, she would never have to see her or talk to her again.

cwilbur's avatar

It tends to depend on how much emotional weight you put on sex.

If your attitude is that sex is something to be shared only by people who are truly in love, then a threesome is risky emotional territory, and there’s likely to be a lot of shame associated with it. If you don’t know the third person, and neither of you ever has to see him or her again, you don’t need to deal with that shame.

On the other hand, if your attitude is that sex is a lot of fun and love is a good thing and the two go together well but aren’t required to, you can have casual sex without the shame. The shame is the problem, and a lot of people are brought up to have hangups about sex.

That said – if you’re asking your girlfriend about why she wouldn’t want to have one of her female friends involved in a three-way with you and her, consider whether you’d want to have one of your male friends involved in a three-way with you and her. The answer might be enlightening.

(I have a friend whose girlfriend said she’d have a mff three way with him if he was willing to have a mmf three-way too. He asked one of his buddies, who was interested, and his girlfriend was so horrified that he followed through that she broke up with him. It’s a very good thing to be open and honest about what you want; if you don’t say what you want, you don’t get it, and if you ask for something you don’t want, you may get it anyway.)

cheebdragon's avatar

if you can’t figure out why a 3some with someone you know and like would be a bad idea then your not the brightest crayon in the box now are you?
Unless your cool with your best buddy f***ing your chick as you watch, its not cool to assume your gf wants to watch you f*** her best friend. Got it?????

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iSteve's avatar

Alcohol is often involved too…

Justnice's avatar

I want to have a threesome with my boyfriend but it can’t be with someone I know cause that is way too weird. I wouldnt mind doing it with somebody he knows. As long as it ain’t an ex-girlfriend or a fling or anything like that

Zen's avatar

I was once told this about a threesome: two beautiful girls are getting it on and enjoying sex. A guy is standing by, waiting. Who isn’t necessary in this picture.

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