Social Question

SuperMouse's avatar

Can you recommend a book to help improve communication in relationships?

Asked by SuperMouse (30785points) June 3rd, 2010

I am looking to improve the communication in my relationship and of course books are always my go to. Is there a book that helped you that you would recommend?

Observing members: 0 Composing members: 0

10 Answers

janbb's avatar

You Just Don’t Understand by Deborah Tannen is now a classic study of the different ways men and women use language to communicate.

rebbel's avatar

Men and Women Translation Dictionary

Translation Dictionary of Women’s English.
* Yes……………………………….No
* No………………………………..Yes
* Maybe……………………………No
* We need………………………….I want
* I am sorry………………………..You’ll be sorry
* We need to talk………………….You’re in trouble
* Sure, go ahead……………………You better not
* Do what you want……………….You will pay for this later
* I am not upset……………………Of course, I am upset, you moron!
* You’re attentive tonight…………Is sex all you ever think about?

There’s a dictionary of Men’s English too.

* I am hungry………………………I am hungry
* I am sleepy……………………….I am sleepy
* I am tired…………………………I am tired
* Nice dress…………………………Nice cleavage!
* I love you…………………………Let’s have sex now
* I am bored………………………..Do you want to have sex?
* May I have this dance?………………I’d like to have sex with you.
* Can I call you sometime?…………..I’d like to have sex with you.
* Do you want to go to a movie?……I’d like to have sex with you.
* Can I take you out to dinner?……..I’d like to have sex with you.
* I don’t think those shoes go with that outfit…………..I’m gay

Pied_Pfeffer's avatar

Hmmm, you are looking for ways to improve the communication with your significant other, but is he/she? That is really the question.

The most valuable book I’ve read is, “Now Discover Your Strengths” by Marcus Buckingham. It includes a link to a self-assessment put together by the Gallup Organisation that lets you know what your top 5 Strengths are out of 34. My fiancé and I both took the assessment, and it has given us insight on how we are hard-wired and helped with our understanding in how to appreciate each others’ differences. But it doesn’t really impact our communication skills. They are what they are.

And you can always refer to rebbel’s Translation Dictionary. It is spot on..

chels's avatar

This book. Yeah, it’s a textbook, but it’s probably the most amazing textbook you’ll ever read. Honestly it’s probably one of my favorite reads. Also if you really wanted to get it, shop around on amazon and such. I’m sure you can find it for like $40 and below.

Pandora's avatar

Women are from Venus and Men are from Mars. It helped a couple I know work things out in their marriage and they were on the brink of divorce.

Axarraekji's avatar

The Color Code

The Five Love Languages

These two books help me communicate. Look into it and read some reviews! Take care.

SuperMouse's avatar

@zenele I was wondering how this was going to improve my communication! LOL4RL!

zenele's avatar

@SuperMouse You mean French?

Answer this question

Login

or

Join

to answer.
Your answer will be saved while you login or join.

Have a question? Ask Fluther!

What do you know more about?
or
Knowledge Networking @ Fluther