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Should I break it off first?

Asked by Robby (252points) March 17th, 2008

Not sure if the relationship can be repaired. So the question is this. Is it better to break up first. We do truely love eachother and it is long distance with plans on me moving to her. But I think that we might have cause to much damage to be repaired. Unless someone has any sugestions guess I just want to know the benifits of being the one to break it off first?

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mcbealer's avatar

your pride

Cardinal's avatar

To have some control over the situation which could spiral out of control very quickly.

jrpowell's avatar

Like mcbealer said. Your pride.. Pride is overrated.

Keep in mind that when you are sobbing in your sheets in a month about how much you miss her you will have to realize that you did it to yourself.

Perchik's avatar

This is a situation where I would need a lot more info, before attempting to answer this. You’re the one in the situation…Have you talked to her about it? I always feel that if you really love the person, then there’s nothing you can’t get over in time. Just talk to her about it. However my gut says that if you have to ask, you should probably break up with her.

bulbatron9's avatar

If you truly love each other then consider this-“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast. It is not rude, it is not self seeking, it is not resentful. Love does not keep a score of wrongs. Love stays away from the negative and it rejoices in truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes & endures all things. Love never fails – Corinthians 13:4–8” Regardless of your faith, I believe this scripture is pretty much dead on.

cwilbur's avatar

If you don’t think it can be repaired, then break it off. I don’t think there are any benefits to being the one who initiated the breakup, except that if you sit around and wait for your partner to do it, it may never happen.

trainerboy's avatar

It doesn’t matter who breaks it off first except to your ego. If you feel like it is damaged beyond repair, then whoever breaks it off gives you both the freedom to learn from it and move forward.
Notice how even your question seems to indicate a feeling of being stuck and indecisive. Breaking it off will give you permission to move on.

ninjaxmarc's avatar

pride is tasteless, sizeless and colorless, yet it is the hardest thing to swallow

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