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Why are you with your lover?

Asked by cornbird (1747points) June 16th, 2010

What makes you stay with your bf/ gf? Is because of a special personality or is it mainly because of the sex? Why I ask this is because I think that most of the relationships stay healthy because of the sex, despite what people say about their partners inner side. Could it be also that you think that no one else can love you as much as he/she can? Please look inside yourselves and answer truthfully.

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Draconess25's avatar

Because I’ve never loved anyone as much as Ellie & Rachel.

Likeradar's avatar

He makes me smile.
He challenges me intellectually and makes me feel smart.
Our idea of fun is similar.
We compliment each other- my strengths are his weaknesses, and vice versa.
He laughs at my stupid puns.
We travel really well together.
He’s generous.
He understands that splitting a dessert means I get more than half.
He’s cute. :)

Our relationship in its current form is because of the sex. Without the sex, he’s just be my best friend instead of my partner.

janedelila's avatar

Change is hard?

shego's avatar

I am with my boyfriend because he loves me for who I am. He supports everything I do. I have never been so high on life before. He does anything to make sure that I am happy, as do I for him. He’s my life and soon to be husband. I love him with all my heart.

ratboy's avatar

She chained me to the bed.

Seaofclouds's avatar

He loves me for who I am. He is caring, compassionate, and kind. He would do anything he could for me and I would for him. We work well together in everything we take on. He’s my best friend, my confidant, and my lover. Sex is a part of it, but it is not the most important part and we can go without it when we have to without having any lapse in our feelings for each other and without causing any problem in our relationship.

YARNLADY's avatar

We are good match in most things. We have been very lucky the past 35 years and look forward to many more to come.

Aethelwine's avatar

I stay with him because I know he loves me. I also adore him.

Trillian's avatar

I left him.

Neizvestnaya's avatar

He shares values with me he’s actually been able to live and enjoys them rather than them being a challenge.

He has a giant heart and gets a lot out of helping others which I really respect.

He is mostly easygoing and optimistic, a little kooky and feels fine like that. I feel similar so we enjoy each other and encourage the fun and spontaneous.

He is very sharp minded under his fun fascade and that appeals to me in a partner, makes me feel safe to speak my own mind and feel on the same page when it’s time to get down to serious matters.

We share similar spiritual/religious ideas.

He shows me he’s a doer and not just full of good intentions and this is of HUGE importance to me. We bring out in each other the want to be better and the persistence to actually try things for our relationship rather than kicking back and believing it’ll all take care of itself.

He’s very sexy to me, sure. Sexual compatible is important but not a dealbreaker as long as both people are willing to work on what they want or need. His sexual openness with me makes him more and more attractive all the time. I will be honest and say if he wasn’t willing to be sexually flexible then I probably wouldn’t have stayed with him as a lover and partner, he would’ve gone into the “friends” group.

Cruiser's avatar

I can’t tell you or there would be a major stampede even I could not stave off!! Eat your hearts out is all I can say!! WOOF!

Pandora's avatar

Can I ever find another. Yes. But can I find someone who understands me as well as he does. Probably not. We have years of history and he knows me better than any relative I have. Knows me better than my own mother. It works equally the other way around. Why on earth would I want to go for someone who thinks they know me but wouldn’t really know me for years or maybe never. And yes I love him as well and he loves me. We are each the other side of the same coin. I wouldn’t dream of leaving. Not because I’m lazy or scared but rather I have no reason to look for something I don’t want.

OpryLeigh's avatar

Because I love everything about him. Yes, I enjoy our healthy sex life but I feel that there is so much more to our relationship than just that. We laugh all the time, I tell him everything (I often call him my diary!), I want him to be happy (and he appears to want the same for me) and I love nothing more than accompanying him on a long car journey my friend and I were discussing signs of a healthy relationship/friendship and we both said that if you enjoy each others company enough to be on a long car journey, alone together without feeling awkward or that you have to keep the conversation going, that’s a sign of a good relationship. I feel very peaceful with him and it’s a nice feeling.

partyparty's avatar

I stay with him because when we are not together there is part of me missing.
When we are together I get butterflies in my tummy.
He is the last piece of my jigsaw.

Blondesjon's avatar

I stay with her because she knows I love her. She also adores me.

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