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ketoneus's avatar

How soon is too soon to announce a pregnancy?

Asked by ketoneus (1169points) March 19th, 2008

The first trimester rule seems a bit dated to me.

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richardhenry's avatar

Before you are pregnant. Seriously though, it really depends on situation, and the idea of a rule probably isn’t all that useful.

figbash's avatar

Innermost circle, like closest friends etc. can know as soon as you know, I think – but the official notification should really wait for after first trimester when it’s “safe.”

gailcalled's avatar

The reason to wait until the woman has completed her first trimester is simple. Most miscarriages occur then. Having to deal w. a big crowd just makes the situation harder. I had two miscarirages at 12 and 13 weeks and I am glad that I had told only my husband and immediate family.

richardhenry's avatar

gailcalled makes a very very good point.

trainerboy's avatar

Knowing what yo know about the first trimester and the possibility of miscarriage, it then becomes up to you when you announce it. If you want to announce it right away, then for you, that is the time. For someone else it may not be the time. That is the great thing about things like this. There is no such thing as an appropriate time except the time you decide.

bulbatron9's avatar

Gailcalled knows her stuff! When my wife and I found out we were pregnant, I wanted to tell the world. She said the exact same thing as gail, that we needed to wait until after the first trimester before we told anyone but immediate family. It was terrible for me, having to wait to tell all of my friends!

bob's avatar

As a general rule, tell the father within the first 8 months. That gives him time to paint he nursery. Other people can find out after the baby arrives.

trainerboy's avatar

Great answer Bob….but don’t rush telling the father. He can paint the nursery in a day or two.

teejay0514's avatar

I agree with gailcalled, my cousin told everyone when she got pregnant. A few weeks later she had a miscarriage, and she was devastated. It’s best to wait so you don’t have to worry about awkward moments with the people you told about
your pregnancy, in case you have a

scamp's avatar

I agree with gailcalled . It’s difficult enough to deal with a miscarriage, but to have to deal with a lot of people makes it so much harder. The last thing you need at a time like that is to deal with a bunch of phone calls and visits, and explaining over and over again how you feel about it. I wish I would have waited to tell people until much later.

shorty's avatar

I guess this is a decision only you can make. If you want to tell, then tell. I’m not one to speak negative over myself. Because someone has had a miscarriage does not mean another will. Don’t let fear stop you from telling, if that is what you want to do. So what, if you have true friends they will support you if it’s good or bad. A child is a wonderful gift from God and myself would want to tell the world.

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