What do you do when everyone who you always thought would be there for you left?

I just go ahead on my own and forgive them and love them..but I don’t let them upset me.

If it was a friendship that I valued and wanted back, I’d talk to them to see if it could be salvaged. If it couldn’t be salvaged, I’d move on.

Question the strength of my relationship with them. Real friends don’t leave you behind without justifiable explanation. I’m sorry your friends have abandoned you. Did they provide any reason? It doesn’t sound like they are being loving, caring people by their absence.

@muppetish Nope, they just stopped talking to me. All started when I got pregnant /:

@Mom2BDec2010 Did you stop talking to them or stop paying attention to what was going on with them? It’s easy to get caught up in our own situations (especially having a baby and planning to get married (if I remember correctly you are getting married soon)).

Do any of your friends have children? It could be that they feel like they really can’t relate to you right now and that could be why they have distanced themselves.

I agree with the above. Could it be that you used to hang out at bars, clubs, parties, etc. that you no longer attend due to pregnancy? They don’t want to invite you only to be turned down, and perhaps are envious or not quite sure what to say.

I would always try to keep in touch with them and hang out and everything. When I first got pregnant I went to parties just didn’t drink or anything. They hang out with other girls that are pregnant, thats why I’m so confused about it.

Have you asked them what’s going on?

Is the baby all you talk about? Perhaps they’re not really that interested in motherhood and pregnancy. They don’t really have that much in common with that yet.

Don’t let them upset you. Figure out a better way to select friends who are dependable. I’ve known most of my friends for over twenty years. I don’t have many good friends but I know I can count on them. If fact, I have had to count on them in many situations. And they know they can depend on me.

Eventually not give a damn.

Welcome to Life. And be sure your friends aren’t asking the same question. ;-)

I lose sleep for about 15 seconds and then make the necessary changes to my Christmas Card Mailing list.

It has happened to me. I learned to trust nobody but myself and my family.

Carry on on my own. “Friends” who abandon you were never true friends anyway, you’re better off without them. The only person you can really rely on is yourself.

I might think about reassessing my criteria for choosing friends. Esppecially if it were every last one of them who took off.

I might also wonder what it is about my own behaviour that made them want to take off.

@downtide, Hehehehe yeah, that too! ;-)

@Trillian At some point you have to start wondering “is it me?”