Do people become more mellow the longer they participate in Fluther?
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October 19th, 2010
I have been on Fluther for about a year. The other day, I looked through some of my questions and my answers and comments and I was sort of shocked at something I noticed.
In the first few months, I had a true edge on.
While I have never been afraid of expressing my opinion, and while I have never suffered fools particularly well, I may have been a little obnoxious in the beginning.
But, I also believe that I have cooled off a little bit in the last few months.
Still obnoxious, but perhaps not as offensively obnoxious.
Am I just getting older?
Have the mods finally beaten me into submission?
Does this just sort of happen when people hang around Fluther long enough?
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What do you think the answer is for yourself? Do you think you have mellowed or do you think it is the mods?
I have noticed this happens a lot in the 2 years I have been here. Someone will start out very obnoxious and totally turn around in just a few months. So really, what do you think it is?
No. Hell no.
In fact, now I’m going to have to find a damn spiked collar for the dorg…
I think we do. :) Posting is trial and error. You learn what’s best and what’s not best: Your fluther moral code is modified. I’d say it’s similar to how kids are more rambunctious than their adult selves or the same way disney workers are more excited when they begin than when they’ve been there for 10 years.
But it’s not just mellowing.. I think/hope that we’ve actually “smartened up” and have learned to express ourselves both in more energetically conservative ways as well as plainly “better” ways.
Great question!
Milo here: I have always been mellow.
When I am a dickwad other users kind of smother me with reasonableness, good humor and decency, so yes.
NO you jack wagon. Now shut up and get back to asking reasonable, adult questions!~
Perhaps I feel it’s less worth it sometimes…to get into things with people but I’m no less mellow in my opinions.
Not that I’ve seen. They either get banned, or stay right on the edge.
@josie Aw man, you know I love ya. :-)
No, some users still seem to have a stick firmly inserted into there ass. Others get a lot cooler with time.
I know I mellowed, but I thought that had to do with figuring out how to cope with bipolar disorder.
Maybe folks just learn you catch more flies with honey!
Effective communication is a learned skill, some take longer to learn than others.
Some users never get over their insecurities enough to learn how to communicate effectively. They are driven to denigrate others because they think that adds some kind of validity to their own shortcomings.
I think there are a couple of reasons for this general phenomena.
When you’re new, you (not YOU, specifically… the general ‘you’) might feel the need to defend your positions more aggressively. After all, you don’t want people to think you’re some kind of idiot. :p
Secondly, once you’ve been here for a while, you get to know people on a more personal basis. It’s a lot easier to be a dick to a stranger, you know?
Of course, members who have been here longer may react more aggressively to newcomers, with that tapering off as they get to know you. So, it’s probably a two-way street kind of thing.
Great Caesar’s ghost, some of the %&##& Jellies (They get %(^&~ pissed if you refer to them as &%>| Flutheronians) get $&%^!@ mellower (not seen it as much as it should be), some get way more %$&?~#& nasty the more they see your %$&!^@ questions. And mention Fact from fiction, truth from diction they really get )%&$ pissed and hot under their %$^~*@ collar! :-)
@Hypocrisy_Central And mention Fact from fiction, truth from diction they really get )%&$ pissed.
I wonder why?
What exactly does “truth from diction” actually mean?
I brought a pretty good wild streak here with me from the padded rooms of AB and some of my snappiest answers have had short lived appearances thanks to the mods here. I am crazy as ever but you have to be on your toes here to see it! XD
They call me mellow yellow, quite right :¬)
Yes. It makes a difference when you get to know people better.
Is mellow the word for the way I feel about it?
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