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(NSFW) What are your safer sex practices?

Asked by lapilofu (4325points) January 6th, 2011

I recently negotiated some safer sex practices with a partner and it made me realize that because people talk so infrequently about sex (and even less about safer sex!) that I don’t really know what other people do.

What are your safer sex practices? Were these negotiated or assumed? How do they fit in the context of your sex life (i.e., are you monogamous, polyfidelitous, in an open relationship, single and sleeping around, &c.)?

Be as specific as you can! In particular, I’m interested in these questions:

* Do you always use barriers (e.g., condoms) with vaginal and anal intercourse?
* Condoms and/or dental dams for oral sex?
* Finger cots or gloves for manual sex?
* Condoms on toys?
* Regular STI testing?
* Does it vary depending on who you’re with? Are you fluid-bonded with anyone?

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17 Answers

ANef_is_Enuf's avatar

Married and none. I think that sums it up. GQ, though.

CyanoticWasp's avatar

The rest of the universe seems to be practicing safe sex with me for the time being by ignoring me completely.

It’s pretty damn effective.

WillWorkForChocolate's avatar

@TheOnlyNeffie Pretty much summed it up for me. I’m married, so I don’t really need to “be safe” anymore. If my hubby hasn’t given me something by now, I doubt he’s going to! =0)

Seaofclouds's avatar

Married and none right now. When we first got together, we talked about monogamy and our STD status (before having sex). I had a tubal ligation (before we got together) so that took care of the pregnancy concerns. I knew him very well and felt that I could trust what he said about his STD status. I had a tubal reversal when we decided we wanted more children (I have one from a previous marriage). We’re not sure what we will do between children yet and luckily we still have a few months to figure that out.

In the past, I’ve used birth control pills and made the guys I was with use condoms. I always got tested between partners and after finding out I was cheated on (when I was).

MissAnthrope's avatar

* Do you always use barriers (e.g., condoms) with vaginal and anal intercourse?

Yes (though, I admit there were a couple of times, years ago, where I didn’t). I usually sleep with women, though.

* Condoms and/or dental dams for oral sex?

No. I know I should, but latex burn on my tongue sucks.

* Finger cots or gloves for manual sex?

Yes, but usually only with anal, though, and not exactly every time, particularly if I’m in a relationship with someone. However, it is very nice to be able to remove the glove and continue on, without having to interrupt to go wash your hands.

* Condoms on toys?

Yes. I do this for several reasons, but toy cleanliness is one. I also own high quality silicone toys that can be boiled and sanitized to my satisfaction.

* Regular STI testing?

Not ‘regularly’, no. I don’t really get that much action, but I’m probably due for one.

* Does it vary depending on who you’re with? Are you fluid-bonded with anyone?

Absolutely.. and no, not at the moment. If I don’t know someone, I’m much, much more careful. If we’re in a relationship, we’re fluid-bonded, as you said, and it’s all good.

Austinlad's avatar

4,000 miles between partners works pretty good, I’ve discovered. ;-)

ucme's avatar

I’m manacled…...married & I never initiate sex when “she who must be obeyed” has a headache or is feeling under the weather in some other way. Safer for me, I kind of like living you see.

Facade's avatar

He pulls out. We don’t use condoms.

LuckyGuy's avatar

I’m with @TheOnlyNeffie . Married and none.

Well, not really “with”. I mean “the same as”.

janbb's avatar

After 37 years, I feel pretty safe with my partner.

deni's avatar

Birth control pills and pulling out.

Jude's avatar

We wash our toys (thoroughly) and wash hands/fingers before we go in through the out door, out door (“back door” and back), but, that’s about it.

learned this the hard way. Can we all say urinary tract infection (for us both)? Ouch.

DominicX's avatar

I have not participated in anal sex, though I would use protection if I ever did, no matter who I was with. That said, my boyfriend and I do not use condoms for oral sex or any other sexual acts that we’ve done. We’re exclusive and we agreed upon it right away.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

With my primary partner and husband, I use condoms only when we’re half-caring about not conceiving. With anyone else, we use basic protection aka condoms and common sense. When I’m at a sex party and depending on who’s there, I might use finger condoms, sheets to put underneath us, dental dams, etc.

faye's avatar

Undesired abstinence

jazmina88's avatar

desired abstinence

jenandcolin's avatar

I have just recently needed to revert back to “safe sex”. I am in a monogamous relationship. However, due to complications with my recent pregnancy, it is very important that I do not become pregnant for the next three years. My hubby and I are now using both condoms and birth control. I hate it.
By the way, @Simone_De_Beauvoir : your life is way more exciting than mine! I didn’t even know sex parties were real- just thought they were in movies!

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