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What the heck is going on and who will leave Fluther next?

Asked by WillWorkForChocolate (23163points) September 20th, 2011

So… yet another jelly has left Fluther. WTF is going on? Is there something in the water?

That makes 3 on my short list of people who keep me here. 6 to go.

Who’s next? And why the f*** is everyone leaving?

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Hibernate's avatar

I’m sorrry to hear that too.

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WillWorkForChocolate's avatar

@Coloma Yeah, but there’ve been 3, back to back, now. It’s freaking me out!

KateTheGreat's avatar

Someone message me who it was?

Blueroses's avatar

There’s a kraken in the tidepool.

WillWorkForChocolate's avatar

I honestly don’t understand this at all. Three well-lurved jellies in a row, within five days. I don’t get it.

Ela's avatar

Mind if I ask how you can tell when someone leaves? I know you can’t go to their profile, yet their posts still appear as well as their avie.

janbb's avatar

If it’s the three I think it is, they might all be related in some way.

SpatzieLover's avatar

I think it’s all related @WillWorkForChocolate…so I’m not surprised. For some reason there must’ve been a pact “Well if you’re gone…then I’m out”.

I’ve lurved & lost a lot on here. Life moves on. The collective gains some more jellies and it all evens out.

tinyfaery's avatar

Who’s who?

KateTheGreat's avatar

I really love how one of the topics is “abandonment issues.”

rebbel's avatar

Don’t want to name names that’s forbidden, I know but if @rebbel quits I will quit too.

jonsblond's avatar

If it’s who I think it is, this person posted something about burning bridges on FB today.

life goes on….

WillWorkForChocolate's avatar

lol @rebbel

@SpatzieLover and @janbb It’s entirely possible that it’s all related. And it still sucks. :(

J0E's avatar

A lot of people are next.

It happens.

janbb's avatar

@WillWorkForChocolate Yes, I remember when a close friend of mine left here, I felt dickpunched for a while.

WillWorkForChocolate's avatar

@janbb That must have been a very strange feeling indeed, seeing as how you don’t have a dick…

YARNLADY's avatar

I can’t tell when someone leaves.

Blueroses's avatar

If anything good can be said to come of this, it’s seeing janbb use the word dickpunched.

jonsblond's avatar

@Blueroses Don’t let the penguin fool you. She’s got the filthiest mouth this side of the Mississippi.

WillWorkForChocolate's avatar

@YARNLADY It’s simple in most cases; you just look up their name and they’re gone. I went to reply to a PM from this jelly, but was sent to the “Oh no, we can’t find user ‘blahblah’” screen.

janbb's avatar

@jonsblond You’ve fucking let my dirty little secret out of the bag.

WillWorkForChocolate's avatar

I’m shocked. And appalled. And….... fucking shocked and appalled.

janbb's avatar

Oh shit, well cover my my mouth with my flippers and slide away on my ass. And the discussion was just closed.

WillWorkForChocolate's avatar

Nope, they just wanted me to change the title.

JilltheTooth's avatar

And when @janbb says fuck or shit she just rocks the GAs! How cute (and a bit twisted) is that?

WillWorkForChocolate's avatar

This is true. It’s just so….. unexpected. Most of the time. Kind of like hearing my mother say “shit”. You just have to stop and stare when it happens.

janbb's avatar

I am a penguin of many surprises.

Blueroses's avatar

Well, bloody hell! Somebody shut the goddamned gates before anyone else gets out!

If y’all leave, I’ll have no further use for the internet.

except, you know, for it’s original intended purpose… watching porn

Aethelflaed's avatar

Hmmm…. looking at who left, was there a question that really beat up on political conservatives that I missed? Or some other flamey thread that inspired this?

WillWorkForChocolate's avatar

Ummmm….. well there was a question that got pretty dang personal a few days ago, and the timing was perfect for it to have been the catalyst. But I’m just theorizing.

Aethelflaed's avatar

@WillWorkForChocolate I take it this thread has since been deleted?

SpatzieLover's avatar

@Aethelflaed One flaming thread is still present. I don’t know how that relates to the person who left today, though.

WillWorkForChocolate's avatar

@Aethelflaed Well, I’m assuming since the poster left, that means you can’t look it up. I have it saved in one of my Fluther folders though.

chyna's avatar

I love when the penguin cusses.

WillWorkForChocolate's avatar

Cussing penguins are always entertaining.

WillWorkForChocolate's avatar

FUCKING A!!!!!!!!!!

I’ve just noticed yet another wonderful jelly has bit the dust! I haven’t talked to this jelly for a couple days, so I’m not exactly sure when the bail took place.

syz's avatar

Some people get tired of the site and leave.
Some people get pissed and leave.
Some people leave and come back.
Some people leave and secretly come back.
Some people get kicked out (which you have to work pretty hard at, it doesn’t happen lightly).
Some people complain about what a terrible site it is, think that they shouldn’t have to follow the same rules that everyone else follow, get kicked out, and then keep coming back to complain about how terrible it is here (?).

Back when we were first given the option to “follow” I put a few users in “my Fluther”, until I decided that I didn’t like the popularity-contest-feel and stopped participating. I recently noticed that at least half of the members in my list are gone or are no longer active. It happens. It’s their prerogative.

SpatzieLover's avatar

@WillWorkForChocolate So that whole gang left together. As to why…who knows.

SpatzieLover's avatar

@syz I just went and cleaned out the followers that weren’t active anymore…looks like I’ll be doing that again.

WillWorkForChocolate's avatar

I’m really depressed now. I used to randomly PM that jelly with drive-by huggings. This is upsetting.

PhiNotPi's avatar

Can someone PM me who those three jellies were? I feel like I’m missing out on something important.

Dog's avatar

All I know is that everyone I hung with in chat appears to still be around…. Or are they? Anyone want to meet in chat for a roll-call?

Also- I am happy about those who posted here :) This means, unless the Krakken has taken another victim, we have each other.

SpatzieLover's avatar

@Dog I’m glad you returned :) I await the return of a few others, too or at least hope they show up some time

janbb's avatar

Roll over so I can scratch your belly @doggie !

JilltheTooth's avatar

You can scratch my belly, too!

AshLeigh's avatar

Will someone PM me who they were? :/

XOIIO's avatar

Yes, tell me who it was as well.

Don’t worry, I’m not going to leave

rebbel's avatar

@XOIIO Ah, you are still here….., thought maybe one of the two was you ;-)

XOIIO's avatar

@rebbel Nope, sorry, you haven’t lucked out yet

XD

Ela's avatar

I have 1 jelly friend and as long as she’s still here I’m good ; ) I’m stayin!
unless i get kicked off of course… then i’ll leave and secretly come back

DominicX's avatar

At this rate we should somehow incorporate gambling into this…

Dog's avatar

@DominicX Should we set it up like a football pool?~

Berserker's avatar

People got their reasons to go. One of them is a great friend of mine, as well as that of others in here. You can prolly catch em on Facebook and ask em, if they feel like sharing.
Seems like an epidemic yeah, and it does make me sad, but peeps gotta do what they think be best for them.
As for people in general who have left in Fluther’s history…all personal reasons, even if some might seem similar.

Now then, the next fucker who leaves, Imma come after your ass! :D

Ela's avatar

@Symbeline Get your light out ; )

Michael_Huntington's avatar

A fluther pool is not a bad idea.

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

I was considering it briefly, but @Symbeline still scares me. It was more than 3.

chyna's avatar

@Adirondackwannabe There have been more than three that left? Oh no.

Berserker's avatar

@Adirondackwannabe Thou shalt remain! ’‘slams fist on table’’

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

@Symbeline I like it. I love a woman who enjoys kicking my ass.

WillWorkForChocolate's avatar

@Symbeline Will you come after my ass even if I don’t leave? Please? :P

Berserker's avatar

@WillWorkForChocolate Oh you know it. Whatever you do, your ass ain’t safe. :D

WillWorkForChocolate's avatar

Yes! Ahem. I mean, okay.

@Adirondackwannabe I know babe, I think I mentioned there being a 4th in a previous comment. Although, I could be wrong and there could be even more than those 4, that I just haven’t noticed yet.

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

@Symbeline @WillWorkForChocolate I’d pay to see that!!!!!!
I meant the ass thing. Not the 4th.

wilma's avatar

I’m having trouble understanding all this leaving.
I guess I have never felt the need, if I want to take a break, I just don’t show up for a while.
Closing your account seems so drastic and sudden.

PhiNotPi's avatar

To everyone who might intend on leaving, don’t delete your account. Just don’t show up. Deleting an account is absolute, so there is no way to ever come back to Fluther with that same name. If you ever decide to come back, you would have completely thrown away any credit associated with anything that your previous username did.

jonsblond's avatar

@PhiNotPi I’ve deleted my account two or three times when I felt I needed a break. You can get your account reinstated if you delete your account yourself and you haven’t been banned.

sndfreQ's avatar

There are a lot that leave, and a lot (on this thread) who are OGs…As in, over 3 years with Fluther…I took a year and a half off, a much needed break to sort out personal/family issues. My belief is that those that leave and come back realize the value of the collective, while the whiners who leave and drag others down with them are often attention-seekers who just need to do their own thing, to the benefit of the collective. Times change, but the general vibe of the community is still here…take it from an “old” jelly ;)

augustlan's avatar

People leave for a variety of reasons, and sometimes one person leaving spurs another to do the same. Don’t panic. :)

Jude's avatar

I’m sticking around for a bit. :)

augustlan's avatar

^^ You better!

Tbag's avatar

Even though I’m a new fish here, I’m sticking around fo sure here! I love Fluther and ironically there’s something about you all fellow jellies. Sounds corny but much love to you all !

ANef_is_Enuf's avatar

Honestly, if there were some way to erase my existence here, I would leave. I have really grown to dislike my inability to cover my tracks.

ucme's avatar

A small but inevitable chain reaction instigated by a bout of dickheadishness of the highest order. Nothing to see here, go back to your homes people.

LuckyGuy's avatar

I prefer to think they are on a beach somewhere engaging in a wild 4-some.

wilma's avatar

Hey now @worriedguy , you might be on to something there…

JilltheTooth's avatar

@worriedguy : Did you set that up?

janbb's avatar

I’m still swimming in this tidal pool!

Jude's avatar

I don’t find that there’s a lot of activity, anymore.

jonsblond's avatar

@Jude It’s usually like this at this time of year. People are back to school and some are out enjoying the weather before it turns nasty. I’m not on much lately, but I know that will change when it gets cold and crappy outside.

WillWorkForChocolate's avatar

Okay, that’s it, I’m out! Okay, no I’m not… but you people gotta quit this leaving shit! It’s awful.

@ANef_is_Enuf Don’t you dare leave!!! I’ll threaten you with beating by stuffed monkey, just like I did @JilltheTooth yesterday. I’d hate to have to resort to that…

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

@WillWorkForChocolate I’ll stay as long as you’re willing to beat my stuffed monkey.

Ayesha's avatar

I’m sorry to hear, I hope no one does. I mean if you’re busy or something then just don’t login as much, but don’t leave!!!

erichw1504's avatar

I like how the URL to this question is “wtf-whos-next”.

WillWorkForChocolate's avatar

@Adirondackwannabe Dude, have you seen my avatar? If you and a few other people decide to bail, it’s going to get ugly. And painful.

WillWorkForChocolate's avatar

@erichw1504 Yeah, the original title got modded. :P

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

@WillWorkForChocolate Ouch. I was expecting breasts. That one makes me want to curl up into a ball.

ANef_is_Enuf's avatar

@WillWorkForChocolate I’m not leaving. I just said if it were possible to do so, I would. Though, if it were possible to do so.. I may feel less inclined to bail at all. No need to torture me for that, but, I’m sure we could arrange something else if that’s what you’re into. ;)

erichw1504's avatar

I’m leaving.

Need to get myself another Dew, brb.

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

@ANef_is_Enuf Behind that innocent expression is a bit of the devil. :)

ANef_is_Enuf's avatar

You have no idea.

JilltheTooth's avatar

Well, you know I might try, but I’m just not tall enough. I can’t reach. Who knows what I could accomplish if I could reach the “off” button?

WillWorkForChocolate's avatar

@ANef_is_Enuf Just let me know if I need to go get more clothespins and electrical tape… :P

JilltheTooth's avatar

I just spent the last 45 minutes having 3 phone calls to sort out what I thought were 2 very minor phone billing issues. Then I hit my head against the wall for ten minutes which was more productive and satisfying. I will probably not make much sense for the rest of the day. Thank you for listening.

WillWorkForChocolate's avatar

Honey, take some excedrin and have a few bites of chocolate. Then come over here for a professional massage. I swear I’m really licensed and do not intend to take advantage of you. At least not until you’re asleep on my massage table…

nikipedia's avatar

I’m not all that torn up about it.

erichw1504's avatar

So… who left? PM me?

JilltheTooth's avatar

I love that I’ve gotten so many GAs on that last post. How wonderful are all my Jellies that they will sympathize and encourage me even though that was so totally off topic? I lurve you guys! :-)))

WillWorkForChocolate's avatar

S’cuz we luvs you so much!!

Your_Majesty's avatar

I will miss their sense of humor…

I guess there’s nothing else I could do here. How bizarre…that the curtain should come to a close so soon…

erichw1504's avatar

LURVE ALL THE THINGS!

jonsblond's avatar

@JilltheTooth I’ve been trying to get my daughter’s closet door back together for the past 1½ hours after I took it apart to fit a dresser inside of the closet. I banged my head a few times too, and I still don’t have that door on. grrr. I literally feel you pain.:/

erichw1504's avatar

I scraped my thumb. It bleeded a little bit…

picante's avatar

I will never leave. I’m just not a leaver. That can get annoying, too ;-) I haven’t discovered the identity of the fourth person who ran away.

JilltheTooth's avatar

ADVIL FOR EVERYONE! Washed down with the libation of your choice, the bar is open!

erichw1504's avatar

And then a special nekked pancake party will commence. Everyone’s invited!

blueiiznh's avatar

If you lurve someone, set them free. If they come back they’re yours; if they don’t they never were.

Maybe a counteroffer will do!!!!!

erichw1504's avatar

This question sounds like a Fluther version of Final Destination.

Jude's avatar

Actually, I’m not bummed. I can keep in touch with the ones that I want to keep in touch with on FB.

LuckyGuy's avatar

I’m disappointed that I could not tell Cruiser that his post about the found money gave my son $65 and my sister in law $50..

(Looking up to the sky) Thanks Cruiser wherever you are.

SpatzieLover's avatar

He’s still here. And I’m pretty sure he reads his old Q’s

wilma's avatar

I’ve been waiting for someone to mention those pancakes @erichw1504 .
I need some, really I do.
People here would have to be really mean to me before I would leave.
Not just a few of you, but many of you.

janbb's avatar

Is it everyone pile up on @wilma time then? :-)

Ela's avatar

Someone left during the course of this thread alone : ( @wilma I’m relatively new here but from what I’ve seen/read I can’t imagine anyone intentionally being mean.

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

I can’t imagine anyone being mean to Wilma. If they do I’m kicking some ass. I’ll turn @Symbeline loose on them.

WillWorkForChocolate's avatar

Ditto. I’ll fix ‘em up just like I did my sock monkey.

And by the way, Cruiser’s back. On his original account. Yay, happy dance!!
I gave a name. Please don’t kill me, Auggie.

Berserker's avatar

You gave two names. Jesus Christ girl, Imma have to settle your ass down. XD

WillWorkForChocolate's avatar

Oh shit.

<runs away screaming>

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

@WillWorkForChocolate Run far and fast. I feel for your poor ass. Or your sock monkey, I’m not sure which one will hurt more.

WillWorkForChocolate's avatar

@Adirondackwannabe You gotta help me! Symbeline’s closing in fast and I’m afraid that [REDACTED]

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