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(NSFW) What does it mean if you cry afterward?

Asked by mostlyclueless (696 points ) October 1st, 2011

After you orgasm, that is. Has this ever happened to you? What does it mean? Why does it happen?

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TexasDude's avatar

Being emotionally enraptured, perhaps?

dabbler's avatar

The body stores all kinds of past emotions, you may be healing some old hurts.

Especially if you are in a loving relationship, you can get some powerful emotional nutrition, and if that’s been rare in your life, it could be a big relief and possibly cathartic.

HungryGuy's avatar

An orgasm, a good orgasm, is an uncontrolled release of powerful emotions. Sometimes, the body reacts in unexpected ways, releasing old emotions. You shouldn’t take it personally if your partner cries or releases strange reactions during a particularly powerful orgasm.

wundayatta's avatar

It’s a sign of emotional release. If your orgasm completely opens you up, often times you will cry because you will feel everything that is going on in your life, if not in the universe. Crying is almost always a good thing. It’s a sign of a deep connection with your partner. It’s a sign of an incandescent love.

cynema's avatar

You’ll score high in neuroticism?

Im joking but honestly, this could have several answers, right? It seems it would depend on the circumstances. Does this happen often?

spykenij's avatar

As a lesbo, I have never cried, but every girl I have slept with has cried, especially in the beginning. What these girls told me is that they felt so intensely, deeply and emotionally connected during and afterwards. They assured me it wasn’t a bad cry and to be honest, I think it is a compliment because you relieved something in them that needed to be relieved, whether it was just their rocks or making them know that they were truly loved. Not necessarily a compliment to the action of what you were doing, but to know that someone could love them so well and so completely. One of my ex’s had been with 8 different guys and all they did was do their business on her and she didn’t even know what an orgasm felt like. No one ever connected so deeply with her before or even took the time to try. I told her, it may take a while, but you will have one and once she had one, she had many, many more :) My 1st ex had never had an internal orgasm ~way to go guys~ and when she had one from me, she cried for the same reason. Same for my 2nd ex and I am just starting the break up process with ex #4. She cried too and it was because she never thought any one person could ever fulfill her in every way. She thought and still thinks love is not in her cards, but I have told her many times that love is in her cards and she is the only one taking it out of her own deck.

filmfann's avatar

@HungryGuy “An orgasm, a good orgasm, is an uncontrolled…”

You say that like there is a bad orgasm. If there is, I’ve never had one.

lloydbird's avatar

You were overcome with emotions. Pun intended.
But don’t worry, it’s normal.

ucme's avatar

I’ve never had a woman cry on me before. Just as well because she’d more than likely set me off too. I’m what you could call a “sympathy weeper” or more simply put, a big girls blouse!

Male's avatar

Crying is just another way for emotional release from within the body. I think it’s completely normal to cry after and during sex. If you (or your partner) cries, it’s usually a good sign. It means you’re feeling all sorts of emotions going on and it’s too much for your body, so you cry to let out some of the excess emotion.

Just think about when you cry because you’re overly angry, upset, sad, whatever. It’s the same principle. Remember that last time you felt so strongly about something that you cried over it? Or remember when things didn’t go your way and you cried too? It’s just an overwhelming rush of emotions that causes your body to go into this “release” channel, thus you cry.

This is my own theory. I can’t provide concrete facts, but it’s just how I like to think of it.

Neizvestnaya's avatar

Was there a lot of alcohol involved? I ask because this happened to me two different times, two different people and both cases I was hammered and the orgasms put me over the top to just release pent up emotion. It had little to do with my reaction to the person, no specific thoughts or images just lots of ease, maybe because I relax that much so infrequently.

GabrielsLamb's avatar

Personally I find it to be one of the most beautiful forms of expression between two people post coitus…To me personally, It is an experience so transcendent that it by-passes the natural aversion that human beings sometimes maintain as a front to self protect in instances of vulnerability.

It is a rapture, it is a spilling over of the spirit, it is a transcendent experience for me that really is… one of the most beautiful moments within the spectrum of sexual encounter and emotions expressed through the physical.

To me… It is love personified.

augustlan's avatar

I’ve done it, and always felt it was just that I was overwhelmed with emotion. I cry when I’m very happy or very angry, too, so it makes sense to me.

Cruiser's avatar

I have had that happen when outside extenuating circumstances take you to a place you have nevet been before…

Hibernate's avatar

Seems for most it’s something natural but some can’t explain it.

@augustlan when I’m really angry I don’t cry I just see black [even though for a few seconds but I see the “blank” some people say they see .. I’m one of those]

Bellatrix's avatar

I’ve cried. If I analyse when it happened, it was after a drought so perhaps I had a lot of pent up emotion/energy.

spykenij's avatar

My currently new ex-girlfriend always has multiple orgasms and tells me she sees fireworks. Now that…I have no idea what she is talking about and she said this before those KY Intrigue commercials came out. Anyone else have that experience and could you describe it any better?

AmWiser's avatar

Hormones, simply hormones.

Supacase's avatar

Interesting. My therapist (who is also a Biologist – odd combination) talked about Oxytocin, which is a female hormone that is related to all sorts of things, during my last visit. I don’t fully understand it – I believe it is released after whatever the experience is, rather than causing the experience, but I am not sure. Anyway, a couple of potentially relevant things she said:

1. If you cry in the morning you are more sensitive to crying throughout the rest of the day. 2. Oxytocin is what allows women to experience an orgasm, then roll into another and another.

It seems to me that crying after sex could somehow be related to that. I have also read that crying and the release of Oxytocin has something to do with pair bonding.

lonelydragon's avatar

In a happy, loving relationship, it’s indicative of a deeply fulfilling, intensely emotionaly connection with the other person. But if you feel anxious or upset, then that probably means you’re unhappy and have some regrets in the relationship. You may be disappointed that you’re not as close to this person emotionally as you are physically.

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