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Is it possible to start over?

Asked by IzzyAndHerBeans (353 points ) January 23rd, 2012

I ask sappy questions on here but it’s only because I’m trying to get a grasp on my life. I’m moving away to college after I graduate in May. I’ve had good and bad memories in the places I’ve lived and I’m ready to move out of this state and begin anew. How can I ensure moving will help me move on from yesterday’s problems? How do I move on in the first place? How do I find my happy medium and become content with my life once I’ve moved?

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marinelife's avatar

Try to find the small good things in each day.

lookingglassx3's avatar

Remember the good memories, and look back on them with fondness. Be thankful that they happened. Accept the bad memories. Remember, everyone feels pain. You can’t change the past, but you can change the future – and if you believe moving away will give you a fresh start, then go with it! You’ll meet NEW people, accomplish NEW things, and isn’t that part of starting aNEW?

Skaggfacemutt's avatar

My mother-in-law used to say a change is as good as a holiday.

Seaofclouds's avatar

Moving away from your problems may not fix those problems. You may find that your problems follow you where ever you go. Instead, you need to deal with the problems and do your best to work through them so that they are no longer a problem for you. The best way to ensure that moving will help you is to deal with your problems before you move. That way, you don’t take your problems with you when you try to start anew.

Moving may put a distance between you and some problems, but the problem will still be there until you deal with it. You can ignore it for a while, but you never know when it will come back up.

As far as moving on, sometimes it’s as easy as putting on foot in front of the other and continuing forward with your live. Other times, it requires helps from a therapist. And many times, it’s somewhere in between those two options. It depends on what you have to move on from.

In order to be content with your live, you have to do things that make you feel that way and learn to deal with the things that disrupt that feeling. There will always be times that come up that challenge us. We have to face those times head on and get through them in order to get past them.

jca's avatar

High school is a tough time for most people, as they feel old enough to be independent, but yet, parents don’t usually let kids be as independent as they (the kids) would like to be. So that can cause conflict. Additionally, school has its own pressures, academic pressures, peer pressure, plus hormones come into the mix. So what I’m trying to say is that some of your problems may be circumstantial. Try not to stress over them too much, take life as it comes, enjoy college and you may find a whole new bunch of opportunities for success.

janbb's avatar

sometimes one is not given the choice and one must start over.

Mariah's avatar

In my experience, you can’t ever become a whole new person, some of your quirks will follow you wherever you go, but college is a GREAT place to make big changes. It’s the closest to starting over I’ve ever come.

wundayatta's avatar

“Start over” is such a vague idea. What is it that you want to leave behind? I think you can leave people behind. You probably can’t leave a criminal record behind. But you can leave behind the people who remember you have a record.

You can leave your friends behind and your family behind, but probably not totally. You will still go home and visit them, and they might visit you.

But you can start anew with new friends and none of them have to know anything about your past except what you tell them. You’ll want to tell them most of where you come from, though, if you want them to become good friends. You can hide your past, but why? Hiding it doesn’t unmake it. Eventually you want people who love you because of your past, not in spite of it. They love you because they appreciate what you’ve had to overcome. They can’t know that if you don’t tell them.

They say you can run, but you can’t hide. I think that’s because you are who you are, no matter what, and that can’t be separated from your history. So even though you hide at first, eventually you give your own self up because that is the only way you can be known and the only way you can be sure you are loved for yourself.

EverRose11's avatar

It most certainly is, happens everyday for millions of people. I wish you luck…Just go for it . I always believe when the pull to move happens, go with the flow, and before you know it all that is to be, shall slowly resent itself to you.

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