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Highbrow's avatar

Do you have confidence in yourself ?

Asked by Highbrow (366 points ) December 17th, 2012

How confident are you ?

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picante's avatar

How confident are you? I’m quite confident.

Are you the type to make an apology for your existence? Heavens no!

Or do you feel the need to always be in the limelight? Again, heavens no! I don’t feel that these two extremes are indicative of lack of confidence or extreme confidence. I’m confident I can be successful without taking one iota of credit for something. And when I’m not confident about something, I don’t feel that I’m worthless.

jerv's avatar

I’m not quite as egotistical as many people think. However, I know my limits, and I’m not one to sell myself short, so I can be confident to the point of arrogance.

I often ask others to apologize for their existence, but generally avoid the limelight as much as possible without being either a recluse or a masochist; if I take the stage, its often because somebody is wrong and I feel an OCD-like compulsion to correct them.

Paradox25's avatar

Well for me I have to be motivated to want to do something before confidence even becomes an issue. Sometimes I’m confident, and sometimes I’m not. When I really don’t want to do something, but yet have to for some reason or another, then my confidence level drops. Give me something that I want to do, then I’m the most confident person in the world, lol. Sometimes confidence is a bad thing, and has almost gotten me electrocuted. I usually work as an industrial electrician.

gailcalled's avatar

I am pretty clear about what I do know, what I am not so sure about, when I am guessing and when I am truly floundering.

I find it easy to get help or ask for assistance when I need it. Is that confidence? Possibly/

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wundayatta's avatar

I am both extremely confident and completely unconfident at the same time. I have absolute faith that I am right. I have absolute faith that no one else will see it that way.

So, for example, I’m willing to say things on fluther that not a lot of people say. I’ve just accepted that I totally believe what I say and that most people will think I’m wrong, and there’s not a lot that can be done about it. I can’t change my beliefs. All I can do is express myself as best I know how and hope I manage to get one or two people to think twice about something.

But I tend to piss a lot of people off. I think they blame my attitude for getting angry, but I suspect the truth is simply that we really disagree with each other. I don’t believe in this disagreeing nicely business. If we disagree, we disagree. We are enemies on that issue. There is no being nice. It’s war. Take no prisoners. That sort of thing.

There’s no going around our emotions and we are programmed to want everything to be nice between us, or to hate each other. It’s a survival technique. An outmoded one, but evolution takes so long to catch on.

Coloma's avatar

I am very confident in who I am. I love my mind, my humor, my ethics, my good natured and humorous personality.
I am not confident about continuing to make decent money in this economy though. Oh well…I’ll be the funniest homeless woman ever.
Maybe I can do stand up street comedy. lol

Leanne1986's avatar

No. I’m not confident, I doubt myself and my abilities all the time. I try and build my confidence by doing something often that terrifies the shit out of me like speaking or singing in front of lots of people. I never enjoy the experience but at least I am proving to myself that I can do it.

livelaughlove21's avatar

I have confidence in my abilities, doing well in school/work, etc. for the most part, but I have very little confidence in my physical appearance. The price that comes with being a young woman I suppose.

burntbonez's avatar

Look. I do ok. Not great. Not badly. I’m not so confident around women because I’ve not had any long lasting relationships. But maybe it’s just bad luck. I don’t know if there’s anything wrong with me. Or maybe my standards are too high, or maybe I’m not patient enough. Or maybe I’m just a friend.

But at work people like me and appreciate my ideas. I’m not a manager or anything, but I don’t worry about getting fired, either. Not that my work is that hard.

Ela's avatar

Not really. Some times long lasting relationships aren’t all they are cracked up to be @burntbonez.

Most of my confidence got sucked from me during my marriage.
– I was plagued with being told how I can’t or shouldn’t do something and how I was doing this or that wrong.
– I was constantly being corrected for my speech and word usage. Indicating I was basically stupid (but never actually saying it).
– Most of whatever I cooked would be “fixed”.
There was pretty much something wrong with every aspect of me.

I struggle with my confidence now. It’s like internally, deep down I have confidence but I keep it quiet and mainly to myself. It’s pretty fragile and easily cracked. For me, it’s a slow processes, building it back up and strengthening it.

burntbonez's avatar

If I ever do decide to try online dating, perhaps I will quote you, @Ela. See how that flies. J/K.

downtide's avatar

Self-confidence is something I struggle with a lot. I’m better at it than I used to be but I’m not all the way there yet.

Sunny2's avatar

I’m self-confident. And even when I’m not, I look and act like I am.

flutherother's avatar

I appear to lack confidence but I am secure in who I am and quietly confident in my abilities.

ucme's avatar

My cup doth overfloweth.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

I’d say 9/10

josie's avatar

Very. Notwithstanding a few minor missteps here and there, I have not let myself down yet.

ETpro's avatar

Hum… Let me see. Nah, that’s not a good way to put it… I’m… I’m, gee I’m not sure. Maybe you can tell me.

AshLeigh's avatar

I’d say my confidence is where it should be.

Bellatrix's avatar

I’m very lacking in confidence. ~

ETpro's avatar

@Bellatrix Are you absolutely sure of that? ~

Bellatrix's avatar

Oh yes! Very shy and unassuming I am. ~

bob_'s avatar

Fuck yeah, I do.

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