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If you see a pretty girl on the street, do you let her know?

Asked by illusionslies (586points) November 15th, 2013

Would you?

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talljasperman's avatar

I would want to, but I’m depressed and I keep thinking that they are all jailbait. I do keep a mental photo for later use.

YARNLADY's avatar

I once told a woman she walked like a dancer and she said she is a dancer.

johnpowell's avatar

I pretend to be lost and ask directions. Just for a few minutes of talk time to feel things out.

Unbroken's avatar

Yikes @talljasperman. Honesty but still unnerving.

If it seems appropriate I might say something. A compliment can be a great boost. As a woman the situation is a bit different then for males.

KNOWITALL's avatar

If I see an exceptional looker, male or female, and it’s not out of my way or weird, I’ll say something like “You are one of the best looking men I’ve ever seen in my life, honey, work it.”

Keep it light so it’s not creepy, as I’m not interested just giving them an ego boost. Sometimes the prettiest people are the lonliest because people find them intimidating.

Emeraldisles5's avatar

Yes, I’ve had people come up to me and say I should model, and I will return the compliment. I’ll say someone has superb bone structure or beautiful eyes. It made my day when my Aunt says I reminded her of a tall, cool drink of water. Beats all the bullying and ostracization I’ve experienced.

Rarebear's avatar

No. I mind my own business and leave them to theirs.

cookieman's avatar

No, but I will often compliment clothes. “Wow, that is a beautiful blouse” or “I love those shoes”.

Strife's avatar

its only creepy if you keep following her friend. go for it

OneBadApple's avatar

I’m pretty sure that she already knows….

kritiper's avatar

It’s okay to look and I will. It’s not okay to stare and I won’t.

LuckyGuy's avatar

I’m with @Rarebear. I say nothing. (But I will peek.)

Seek's avatar

I’ve given random compliments. But only if it’s in passing. I can’t carry a conversation with a stranger very well, so if it’s somewhere that stopping and chatting is an option, no way.

ucme's avatar

Sure, a gentle wink & a cheeky grin is all that’s needed, usually reciprocated too…which is nice.

Blackberry's avatar

Sometime it worked, and others not. Once this lady anxiously closed her jacket more as if I was ripping off of her. It’s possible she was a traumatized person.

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

I try to acknowledge everybody. We’re all peeps.

JLeslie's avatar

Sometimes. But, I am a girl myself. Also, it depends on the situation. Is it in the middle of a crowd? Is she someone random on the street? Or, an employee at a store? All sorts of factors. I might only comment how gorgeous she is to the person I am with, if I am with someone.

For men it is maybe more difficult. Although, a man a few weeks ago chatted with me in the supermarket for a minute and then when we were going to move on he told me how beautiful my eyes were, and it was nice to hear. I didn’t get any skeevy feel from the guy, so it was fine. He was much older than me though, I would say 20+ years older.

When women compliment me I think it is very flattering so I hope when I compliment women they are flattered.

ucme's avatar

The worst is when a pretty jehovas witness comes a knocking on your door.
Granted, they’re as rare as hen’s teeth, but it does happen.
You’re all ready to shut the door in their face & bam…“nice tits pet!”
It’s a proper dilemma, it really is.

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Pachy's avatar

Yes, on occasion I’ve told a waitress or woman I pass on the street or one behind a counter that she had a nice smile or that I liked her dress, and almost always I got a thank you with a smile. Only once do I recall a less-than-pleasant reaction. I told an employee in a supermarket whom I’d seen many times that I liked her blue eyes. It was a perfectly innocent remark, but she looked annoyed. In retrospect I think she was probably just surprised and embarrassed.

ragingloli's avatar

Of course not! What is this madness? Bunch of creepers.

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FireMadeFlesh's avatar

I’ll give her a wink, and continue walking at a slightly slower pace. Girls often find an excuse to approach me, given this subtle hint. In my city and my demographic, stopping to talk to a stranger on the street is a quick way to cop the “creepy” label.

Coloma's avatar

I love giving compliments, life is too short to be stingy with anything.
I will compliment anyone that strikes my fancy.
Today I had the funniest exchange with an old guy in the grocery store. Not so much a compliment but he was shaking a Cantelope and holding it up to his ear.

He said you could tell if they were ripe if you could hear the seeds sloshing around.
I asked him if he could hear the ocean too. Several other people in the produce zone started laughing. lol
I am a witty, playful personality, anything goes when I’m around. :-D

Haleth's avatar

Other than lifestyle and grooming, people can’t choose how attractive they are. Complimenting someone on their looks is pointless (to me), because their looks don’t come from their personality, intellect, or any decisions they made. They just are. A compliment is nice, but I’d rather compliment someone on something that comes from who they really are.

OTOH, I start conversations with people all the time about stuff they’re reading, interesting pieces of jewelery or clothing, if I see them do something kind… whatever, as long as some element of personality and choice is involved. If I see a stranger, and the only salient thing about them is that they’re attractive, that’s really no reason to start a conversation.

Smitha's avatar

Basically I am a shy person so I’ll keep to myself. I’ll say whoa in my mind and just walk away..

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synapse's avatar

Little different spin here, I think it’s very rewarding, as a woman, to compliment another female and I do it as often as a situation presents itself. The recipient, more often than not, is visibly surprised, and then you get a very genuine smile from them and you know you have made their day. Double bonus! Aren’t we to do what we can to bring happiness or joy to others? I also smile at toddlers and it’s amazing when they reach their arms up and want you to hold them. And after asking their mom for permission, I get the greatest hugs. Personally, I’m experiencing financial ruin and trying to turn things around. Compliments and smiles are free yet priceless.

KaY_Jelly's avatar

You know I actually thought the other day that I needed to start shooting compliments to other people.

I have heard many things like I have a beautiful smile to gorgeous hair (when it was long), to compliments on things I wear. Just the other day 2 separate comments from female and male about a handmade owl hat I was wearing. I know those are just things, but it makes me feel confident. So, I thought after that “I really need to start handing out some pay back compliments!”

Starting now.

All of you jellies are all beautiful. ;)

raven860's avatar

pretty people do not necessarily have pretty personalities.

SadieMartinPaul's avatar

Just make eye contact and smile (please note: I wrote “smile,” not “leer”). No words are necessary.

OneBadApple's avatar

And what if you have bad teeth ?.....What then ??

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

Knowing how much I hate cat-calling and other ‘compliments’ on the street, I wouldn’t really bother her even if I do think there is a far less creepier way to let someone know they are attractive/beautiful. Sadly, the cat-callers have ruined it for everyone else.

leeibarra's avatar

Sure, but simple smile is more than enough. I mean no whistles, screams and Daaaaamn shout outs.

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