How do I tell my wife that I think her IUD is making her crazy?
I just had an epipahny about my wife’s odd behavior. I thought that it may be PMDD and then I remembered something that happened a few years back. About 4 months after my wife had the Mirena IUD inserted, things began to get weird. Then it was like something flipped a switch on her. She became paranoid, angry, dark, started rewriting the history of our relationship as all bad and just a big lie and began behaving generally scary. The result was we got separated for about 2½ years, but then she got on Lexapro and her symptoms softened.
We ended up getting back together and have been for about 2 years now, but it was difficult all the way through. Now were back to the craziness again, and guess what? SHE JUST HAD A NEW MIRENA IUD INSERTED IN NOVEMBER OF ‘09! Coincidence? I’m thinking not so much that anymore! I have read online about similar side effects occurring with other women.
Thing is, she has gone as far as to do things like accusing me of cheating on her (not true) three times in the past year. This is on a cycle of one month = crazy (and right around where she would be having PMS) then about a month of cool-down. Then everything goes back to normal. Then about 30 days later, it’s back to PMS-time and crazy again!
She is anxious, ANRGY, paranoid, overreacts to anything that she sees as negative, dark and frankly quite scary.
Since she has convinced herself that I am a cheater and that everything is basically sh1tty, it’s very difficult to approach her about anything. Talking to friends is worthless because she has convinced them that I am evil, and talking to her relatives is just about as good because they all run to her and tell her that I asked them to talk to her about something they think she should know about and turn it all into drama. Either that or they just defer to something like, “Well that’s her. Stubborn.”
I am actually afraid for myself and my kids that she will just snap and do something insane one day. Plus, my kids have autism and they don’t need this crap in their lives. They have it hard enough without a crazy mother!
HELP ME!!! UGH!
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