Who has the easier life a man or a woman?

Men I suppose, they have more control in most cases. Women work harder at things they don’t necessarily like.

I think men. Women have to deal with: Periods. High emotionality and confusion as to wants and desires (to my experience at least) – for themselves first but then communicating that to others. Whether it would be a guy or another gal. It seems that even though men (the gender) are worse at language, they are a bit better at clearer communication? But that does not always hold true.

Nevertheless these are just sex related differences. Gender differences are not that important because they are environmentally imposed.

This is a hard question, so I’d say marginally men because of the current situation.

There are shy, tubby guys out there who don’t have girlfriends. :\

@Nullo When I was younger I loved tubby guys, the tubbier the better.

men don`t have it easy…but women don`t have a clue ..so i guess it would be harder to be a woman than a man…being ignorant and all

And let the fireworks begin.

Easier how? I think there’s more pressure on men to be successful and good providers. I think there’s more pressure on women to be good looking and nurturing. Both sexes have difficulties with different things. IMHO, neither has it easier.

They say that the seaweed is always greener in somebody else’s lake.

I feel like the males do. They get more leeway in their personalities for assertiveness, aggression, grumpiness and depression. They also have it made physically as well as becoming attractive. Women are picked apart from head to toe and from the inside out.

It’s hard to say exactly. Each gender has its difficult elements. Women have to deal with a lot of pain and discomfort associated with menstruation, pregnancy and birth. Plus, men don’t go through menopause, which can be pretty friggin’ miserable for some women.

Women have a bit less leeway as far as public opinions go relating to sexuality. Women who sleep with several men are often labeled as whores, while men who sleep around don’t deal with nearly as much scorn. Men seem to get away with a lot more when they’re little, like fighting and being rambunctious, because of the “boys will be boys” philosophy, whereas girls are “supposed” to be more submissive.

I’ve noticed that overweight women are also more criticized than overweight men. I remember seeing an episode of the Tyra Banks show (I was bored, okay?) in which she talked about obesity in men and women. Overweight men were described more as “chubby” or “cuddly” whereas overweight women were “slobs” and “fatasses.” That’s mostly in Western culture, though; some Middle Eastern and Eastern cultures value fatness highly.

I think men have a lot of pressure to be “manly” – do you notice how gay men are considered “worse” than lesbians? Men who do anything outside of the norm of sports and other such activities, they’re at risk of being called “faggots.” When getting women, men risk a lot more harsh rejection than women. A woman can insult, mock, or even slap men who come on to them without much retaliation, whereas men turning down women in such a way are considered huge jerks. This can lead to a lot of psychological problems and self-confidence issues.

I remember there used to be a show on Discovery or something about a man and a woman switching jobs. The man had to become a secretary or something, while the woman became a firefighter; coworkers and others were told to treat them exactly as they would treat the original person. Both people had a lot of difficulties adjusting to life as the opposite gender and came out with an appreciation for the difficulties of being a man/woman.

So there’s no real absolute answer for this question. I say just people should do the best they can to overcome individual difficulties instead of complaining about how the grass is greener on the other side. :)

I never know enough to keep my mouth shut: Women have it tougher. Our society is so sexist and so biased towards men. Simone come help me out.

men ofcourse , they don’t have periods or anything, they don’t have to be pregnant and have a person in their stomach (woumb) for 9 months! We suffer!!!

Women. All they gotta do is make sure they look pretty.

Ginger Rogers had to do everything Fred Astaire did, but backwards and in high heels.

@ParaParaYukiko
“Women have a bit less leeway as far as public opinions go relating to sexuality…”
I have no sympathy; neither party ought to be sleeping around.

“I think men have a lot of pressure to be ‘manly’...” It’s been my experience that it’s enough simply not to be effeminate. The manliest sport that I compete in is chess. I do think that men are more likely than women to be called fascists.

I think that on many levels, gender equality issues are silly. Men and women are complementary creatures, not equal ones.

I’m going to agree with what @Nullo says (at least as hetero males go in America) that for a male it’s enough simply to not be effeminate. The men walk around near 300lbs and out loud mock women who are less than svelte. Men can get away with being fat, bald, slovenly and crude far into their 70’s while women still get shelved at 50.

Men, but I could just be biased.

women live longer…so that is enough for me!

@MarcoNJ I hope that was sarcasm..

I don’t think either has an easier life..
It really just depends on the person… sure, men don’t have to deal with the menstrual cycles/pregnancy thing that women do, but to pick one gender would be a very broad generalization.
The only way I would honestly be able to pick one gender over the other is if you were comparing Anne Frank and say.. Bill Gates.

@Foxtrot Yup. All day. Can’t tell by the sincere smile on my avatar?

Nowadays, I think both genders have it tough!

Having an easy life is not dependent upon gender.

I don’t really see one being easier than the other. Both genders are tougher or easier depending on what aspects you’re talking about.

One thing’s for sure….it’s no easy feat for a man to endure the agonizing pain caused from listening to a woman talk on and on and…......

It depends on the man or woman in question. To say that all members of one sex have it easier than all members of another sex is idiotic.

I’d say Paris Hilton has it pretty easy.

I think men have it a lot easier. Like you say they don’t have the worries that we do. Yes, they have different worries but I think in a whole they have it easier, and most of them know it.

@Dibley as a woman you are ten times less likely to be a victim of violent crime, and are far less likely to die in a war the man. It’s also perfectly socially acceptable for you to say you only want to date hot, rich men, but if I say the same thing about women I’m a scumbag. Again, as I posted before, I think it’s immature and idiotic to assume you have it harder than someone else based on gender alone, I’m just throwing out some opposing viewpoints.

@syzygy2600 That’s ok, I can’t win anyway. I normally get slated for prefering men to women! Nothing against you there, just find it amusing. You give good reasons. We are all better at some things than others, I guess.

@tinyfaery :))))))

Men have to worry about the same things as women, just different things. I don’t think gender has anything to do with it. Life is hard, we’ve just got to deal with it.

I think Women have it easier in the early years (15–30), then guys have it much easier. By that time, guys aren’t a walking hard-on, and women have begun losing the youthful qualities they think guys want.

In my unique experience, I’d definitely say men have it easier. Woman have so many demands put on them by men and other women.

if you women don`t satisfy men ..the men dump ya…that must suck ..but i think it goes both ways…but most of the hard labors are done by men ..id like to reverse the roles ..and stay home and cook what i want ..and my wife better eat it or ill get real mad at her ..after i slaved over the hot stove “ALL DAY” for 20 minutes

From a societal and work-related standpoint, men have it easier still. They make more money than a woman who does the same job, it’s easier for men to get promoted, and they have more job options in general. Fathers (generally) also don’t have to worry about holding down a job and taking care of their child. Women who work and take care of their children take on more of a heavy workload at home, compared to their husbands. Even though both men and women are now working longer hours than ever in America, this trend has not changed.

@ParaParaYukiko Great answer, my gut reaction was to say men because i envy their strength. I’m astounded at the whining about periods and babies- I feel sorry for all men that they van never feel a baby inside them- what a miracle. But I also so much agree that no matter how slovenly and smarmy some 50 yr old man is, he still thinks he’s gods gift to some 20 yr old gorgeous model. Though, penises get fussy in the later years about what they will and will not do, they are afraid of being too small, finshing the job too soon, etc. Women have it easier.

There is no equality – life is easier for men (especially white men) – here.

I totally agree with what @ParaParaYukiko said about sleeping around.
I’ve especially noticed in my generation (under 20) that a girl who graduates high school as a virgin is seen as a pathetic loser so they generally become ignored.
And a girl who graduates high school having lost her virginity is seen as a slut who’s been all used up already and should just be thrown in the trash.

Where as with guys, girls can think it’s “cute” that they’re still virgins, and if they’re not virgins they like that they “know what they’re doing.”

Also, yes, women generally have more hardships to go through.
Sometimes this means they get special attention, sometimes it doesn’t.

Also, I forgot to mention how unfairly women are treated in politics.
People don’t even bother to learn their policies most of the time, and they get a lot of shit just for their physical appearances and other crap that has nothing to do with their political career. Take Nancy Pelosi for example. Never have I seen another women given so much shit that she doesn’t deserve. Most people don’t even pay attention to her accomplishments and just call her nasty names. Same with Hilary Clinton. Women in power are almost always hated.

Either one can have equally “hard” lives. Your examples of “hard” are simplistic and immature.

@Simone_De_Beauvoir
I doubt that a tubful of malcontents is going to be unbiased.

@filmfann Since when after 30 are men not a walking hardon?

@Simone_De_Beauvoir From the referenced report: “In law, despite being nearly half (48 percent) of law school graduates, women make up only 18 percent of law partners and only one in four judges.”

I am only going to comment on this one point because it’s the one I am familiar with. The statement is correct, but misleading. I know of eight female lawyers specifically who left the practice of law very early (to raise families) or somewhat early (because they got tired of practicing). Women tend to have other demands/options for their lives that they find desirable, raising a family being one, retiring early being another. Most male lawyers work until they die because they want to. Point here is that if the report is misleading in this point, in how many other points is it misleading?

@plethora Some might find it desirable but some find it obligatory – women are expected to lead families AND work these days but no one gives two craps if men don’t start families if they’re high-powered lawyers. And your knowledge of 8 layers doesn’t negate any report.

We women now have the best of both worlds… We are working full time jobs/careers AND we get to do all the domestic work as well.

@Simone_De_Beauvoir I sure am glad I was a white man when I was growing up dirt poor living in a cottage being raised by a single mother, otherwise my life might have been hard!

@syzygy2600 Do you think your mother had a harder life than your father?

Yeah she did. Just like I’m sure there’s plenty of people who had a harder life than me. Just like I’m also sure there’s plenty of women and minorities who had it much easier than I did.

@syzygy2600 yep… exactly. Everything is relative. One of my fav movies is called ‘My life as a Dog’...(its Swedish) . it’s about a little boy who has a very hard life, with no father and very ill mother, but he compares his life to the dog, Laika, that was sent up into space by the Russians and died, surely of fright and he feels lucky. It’s a wonderful story about how life is what we make it and being grateful for the good things in our life and living in the good moments. Our difficulties and how we deal with them define us more than what comes easily.

@cazzie exactly, so making generalized statements such as “all white men have had an easy life” is racist offensive bullshit.

@syzygy2600 You have to understand there is more to society than race – what you experienced was classism and people of all races deal with that. However, in that same town of yours, you had more privilege than a black man or woman being raised by a single mother, I can guarantee you that. Edit: my point, however, wasn’t about what each of us went through in a emotional sense – it was about systemic oppression and disparities which are a fact.

and I can guarantee you that a rich or middle class black man or woman had far more privilege than I did.

@syzygy2600 Agree, to some extent – there is no hard formula to identify how all these factors interact. But in general (Obama nonwithstanding) most people would love to hear your story of rags to riches here in the U.S. rather than that of a black person.

I’m not American. And I’m far from rich so there is no “rags to riches” story. I don’t have a highschool diploma and have worked hard for what little I do have.

@syzygy2600 and @Simone_De_Beauvoir syzygy2600 could have felt better about how he grew up if he compared his experience to someone who had it worse…. most likely from the examples Simone De Beauvoir gave. A poor underclass woman/person of colour would have had a worse case than him…. it’s not EVERYONE of colour.. or EVERYONE of that sex…. But we need to recognise… we may have had it bad, what ever our experience… but there is guaranteed that someone had it worse and we shouldn’t feel sorry for ourselves and lose sight of our triumphs and ability to feel sympathy for those who DO have it worse…

@syzygy2600 Okay, I’m sorry for the assumption – but was your country a Western kind of society?

Ontario, Canada. Where there never was slavery and a lot of the underlying racial tensions that plague the U.S. don’t exist.

@syzygy2600 Well, that’s good news – then I stand corrected in favor of your knowledge of the society. Though, I am sure there is still tension.

i had it harder than all you put together ..

@doctiresquire it may be true, but that’s not what we’re discussing – it’s more about patterns – that’s, at least, what I was discussing

i`m not interested in what “you are discussing…i`m answering the question at the top of this page…i bet you raised yourself

do you always have discussions on someone elses topics

get a life

@doctiresquire I thought you were talking to me – clearly I was wrong.

@Simone_De_Beauvoir
Funny, I was raised to believe that it was the father that lead the family.

I also find it strange, now and again, that there are people who think that life is work, rather than work existing to support living.

@Nullo what is this in reference to?

@Simone_De_Beauvoir Here

@Nullo I stand by what I said – women are expected to have families (even if some people think the men should lead them, it’s the women who end up raising them) – a single man isn’t pressured to have babies by the time he’s 30 and it doesn’t matter if he’s married or not

In the past women. But the distance is shrinking.

@Simone_De_Beauvoir As a man who is often encouraged – by non-family! – to change his marital status, I disagree. And anyway, there are practical reasons for a woman not to wait until she’s 30.

@Nullo If she wants kids which is also imposed on her by society…I believe a lot less women would be having children if it was less obligatory

@Simone de Beauvoir Society imposes nothing on women. Having children is biologically ingrained. As women, you either succumb to your biological need to procreate or you don’t. Whatever choice you make should be one made with pride, not submissive. The 50’s are long gone.

@MarcoNJ We’re not living in the 50’s but societal expectations remain for women rather than for men when it comes to that ‘biological need’ – otherwise everyone would be equally pressured into having children if that’s all we cared about, imo.

@Simone de Beauvoir I’m not so sure women are pressured into having babies anymore. In the past, maybe by their own parents so as to make them grandparents. But from society? Nah. I’d say women are more free than ever to pursue their own happiness. If that means bringing new life into this world….cool. But if not, and she’s completely against the idea….I seriously doubt the majority of people would frown upon her, or feel pity. Especially if she was adamant about her choice.

@MarcoNJ Parents are part of society. I am glad you don’t feel pressured, it shows times are changing but I’d say plenty of women still experience the whole ‘so when are you gonna get married?’ and then ‘so when are you gonna have a baby?’ and I do think people feel pity and pressure from others – of course, you can always ask fluther and find out – point is, given all women it’s not a 50/50 as in 50% having babies and 50% having not.

@Simone de Beauvoir Of course I don’t feel pressured. I’m a man. Lol.
Sorry, I had to do it.

I understand your point. Yes, parents are part of society but do you really think they still pressure their children into having babies nowadays? Especially when so many of them are moving back home, because their measly four-year college education still couldn’t find them the type of employment to sustain an independent lifestyle? That’s a tough expectation I’d say.

“A baby?! How about a damn job?!”

@MarcoNJ Well that’s neither here nor there, :) – there are different communities and in many a college education isn’t the goal, whatsoever.

@Simone_De_Beauvoir True indeed….as I am absent any degree myself. Two semesters tops.

But anyways…..
Women have it easier.

@MarcoNJ I respectfully disagree.

Fact from fiction, truth from diction. In that context I believe the gals had it easier overall, they were traditionally the gate keepers. You went to a dance you had to ask them to take your hand and go out on the floor, and it was them who would make you look stupid by turning you down. Where girls might have stressed too much about if they were as pretty as the cheerleader (and most of the cheerleaders in my school were the ordinary gals you seen everyday) in Jr. high and high school if she was half way cute a guy would have been ready to pounce on that if she showed the interest.

In the greater scheme of the world in all matter no limited to dating I think the men had it better (overall) because they were running things and had the might to get their way (not that it was correct to do it in that way}.

you guys still debating who “has it made, a man or woman?”

it ain’t easy for anyone in this life!

@pinkgirl02 Welcome back Janets!

wouldn’t it depend on the time and place.