What do women want men to know?

Because they’re selfish buggers (I have no clue. I’ll wait to hear from others).

By the way, boys are smelly.

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I don’t believe men are from Mars and women are from Venus – all people want to be loved and understood and cherished for themselves – as for gender differences, it’s all about socialization into these kinds of gendered behaviors, in my opinion and the sooner one gets out of the binary trap, the more liberated they’ll be. In terms of your relationship, communicate your needs and desires to him, again and if he still doesn’t pay attention, leave him – there are plenty of men that go ‘the extra mile’.

some women like anal and may be just too embarassed to say so.

I would never dare to assume I understand the minds of men.

If I want a foot rub, I ask for one.

The only thing I wish I could bash into the brains of men (if not everyone) is this:

It’s not a “thing” a “hoo-hoo”, a “coochie” or a “love canal”. It’s a vagina.
Say it with me: ”Vagina”. Was that so hard? Same goes for “breasts”, “clitoris”, “labia”, etc.

We don’t call your penis a “sperm tunnel”.

@Seek_Kolinahr I actually hate the word vagina unless I’m in a doctor’s office. I’m not embarrassed by it, I just don’t feel that it’s a good descriptor, and it doesn’t include all the other parts of the genitals.

And we do call the penis by a lot of other names, although sperm tunnel is a new one.

@Seek_Kolinahr That is a new one for me too sperm tunnel. now on to the question. I would love to know why so men have this ignore button . Atleast the ones I have met. They can really know how to tune you out. I want to know where they go when the are not listening.

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That’s where Labia (beef curtains?) et al come in. After all, “penis” doesn’t include the whole of the male genetalia, either.

I think an acceptable term for the whole of the female genitalia is the Sanskrit “yoni”. It’s been used respectfully for thousands of years. “Lingam” being the male genetalia.

@Seek_Kolinahr “Lingam and Yoni.” Sounds like a Christian rock group.

I guess that is more respectful than “pee pee” and “wet thing”.

Where and what the clitoris is.

That I want you to listen to my problems, not minimize them by saying things like “Oh, that’s easy, just do ‘x’ and ‘Y’”.

When I first got married then my mom and mother-in-law both told me to speak up and ask for the things I wanted my husband to do because more likely than not, he’d be happy to do them if he only had some direction/prompting. Well, I was stubborn and wanted my husband to think of these things I would like on his own, I insisted they must come from his want, his desire, his own imagination. Ha! After 15yrs divorced then I can suggest to anyone, speak up, talk about what you both like with each other because reciprocation is so cool.

What do I want as a woman from my male partner? Fidelity, integrity, respect, patience, compassion, follow through and some romance. If he thas o write it down somewhere to keep from forgetting or to use as reference, I don’t mind but I want my man to ask me what things I like and then to actually do some of them.

Here’s another one agreed upon by a consensus of my female co workers:

Men, we want you to know we don’t appreciate being taken for granted as the default activity or distraction when you’re bored of video games or hanging out with your guy buddies. I totally agree with what @Simone_De_Beauvoir said about there being plenty of guys out there willing to step up and pay the attention to you that you’d like.

I feel it safe to say that both genders wish to be respected for what/how they are. We don’t like women getting their ideas about men from Cosmo any more than you like us getting our ideas about women from Hustler, so we all need to get out of the magazine articles and look at how the other gender really is.

The reason most men don’t try to understand the emotional nature of females is approximately the same reason that most women devote any effort to understanding N-spatial geodesics or string theory; some minds are not wired to handle certain things. Hell, I am not good with languages or introspection, and most people are not as good as I am when it comes to certain other things. Not all minds are the same, and that’s okay!

Women don’t like being taken for granted, and many men don’t like to be forced to make our entire lives revolve around one thing (or person) 25/8 to the exclusion of all else. It’s hard to find a happy medium there. Personally, I wander between the extremes. Sometimes I wait on my wife hand-and-foot, catering to her every whim while other times I disappear for hours. Over the years, we’ve developed an understanding. She knows how important she really is to me even when I don’t remember to mention it every few minutes and respects my need to live off the leash.

@syz Don’t ever tell a man about a problem unless you actually want a solution! You women want to talk about your feelings without ever addressing the actual problem while us guys are solvers and doers. If your house were on fire, would you talk about how fire makes you feel, or would you just call 911 before the whole block goes up and kills people?
It’s not that we minimize problems; it’s that we approach them differently and in ways that don’t cause drama or psychological trauma every time something goes wrong. On average, we are more pragmatic, direct, and goal-oriented than women.
In the end, neither approach is correct as that directness can cause us guys to miss out on some of the beautiful things in life, but it is a difference that needs to be taken into account if you ever want to have a meaningful relationship with someone of the opposite gender.