(NSFW) Have you ever had a threesome? How did it go?

Never had one either. Think most men would want a MFF but i would want a MMF not so sure my partner would be able to watch me with someone else. Not sure why they think we would be happy watching them with another female, but suppose they get more out of watching the two females together. Typical.

I would think, for fairness, if you’re going to try a MFF, you should be willing to try a MMF if you and your partner are open to it. Never done either.

Now, lets not discriminate here….what about a MMM or a FFF?

Yes. It was wonderful. I was with two women! Yippeee!!!

@marissa LOL…..you’re right :)

Back when I had just graduated from college, we occasionally experimented with that kind of thing. I was interested in MFF because I wanted all the attention on me. As it happened, the first time was with a lesbian who was into my gf. That was a bit awkward. I became an observer some of the time, and I imagined we would all be participating all the time.

I eventually did have an MFF where both women were interested in me. That was a hell of a lot of fun. Quite an ego boost to have a couple of women fighting for access to your body.

Those experiences happened long ago, but I still remember them quite clearly. Or at least, I remember certain images from those experiences quite clearly.

It seems selfish, I’m sure. Most of us don’t like to be seen as being selfish. We believe things should be equal. Some believe that it’s equal if you do different gender combinations so everyone can have equal fun. This assumes that the partners all want different combos. I think it’s easy for people who have never done it to say they want it all to be fair.

However, I don’t think that is the way fairness enters into it. I think this is about what people want and what they are willing to do and unwilling to do. If people consent to, say, an MFF, that does not obligate them to participate in MMFs in order to be fair, or something.

There are all kinds of relationships, and we may look at some as unequal. I think that if the people in the relationship are ok with what they do, that’s what’s important. It’s not about making the world safe for polyamory.

@Ben Dover and @wundayatta what about MMF? would you do it?

I have had threesomes which didn’t involve sex (as in intercourse). The first time, it was a couple (a male and a female) and myself – they were more experienced, I didn’t feel very comfortable. The second time, it was my girlfriend, myself and a stranger and we were much more in control of that situation and it was much more exciting. I actually have more experiences with orgies and sex parties rather than threesomes.

I imagine threesomes in my future will be a lot more developed, emotionally and sexually. Lately, I’ve been wanting my partner (male) and myself to sleep with another male so I suppose that would make MMF, though I wouldn’t be having sex with anyone who had rigid ideas about what men and women are supposed to do to each other in bed and in terms of gender roles so I think it’ll all be kind of equal, one hopes. The reason why MFF are more acceptable than MMF is because our society deems women to be the more likely to be sexual playthings of men than the other way around and because many people (regardless of gender) are much more concerned about two men (heave forfend) being in a situation where it can end up in any perceived homosexual encounter.

@Simone_De_Beauvoir now, I know who is an expert in NSFW topics :)
did you ever regret any of your threesome experience?

@Stasi It is a firm belief of mine to never regret any experience.

I thought that it was a pretty damn good one night stand. Reverse spit roast… ;-D

@Stasi MMF? I think I’ll pass.

I have never had one and I think that I’ll never do it.

The only moresome i had was a MFM&M’s.
Was sweet.

Never had a real one. Kinda had a sad attempt at one but it was meh as the girl didnt really seem to be down for it completly. Though me and my SO plan on attempting again with another girl. That said, I am not against a MMF threesome. I mean if I can get the pleasure of two girls at once why shouldn’t she be granted them same. Though she seems to be more for another girl than a guy anyway. Hooray for me :P

Yes, I have. I got together on two different occasions with a MF couple, when I was in my early 20’s. I met them on a dating website, actually.. they propositioned me and it was the first time I’d ever been attracted enough to both parties to want to actually try it out. I was more interested in getting busy with the girl, but it actually turned out that I was wildly sexually attracted to the guy. The girl was kind of blah, not very into it, very unsure, her response was very muted, kind of the opposite of what I like in a sexual encounter. The guy, however, was very dynamic, good-looking, highly sexual in a respectful and very arousing way, dominant streak, yadda yadda. Basically, all the right ingredients to make me want to get physical with someone.

Honestly, it was a bit awkward at times because I sensed the girl’s jealousy, plus the fact that she didn’t seem all that into it. In addition to that, I found it a bit odd and maybe a little bit sad to be the third wheel to an obviously loving couple (it made me miss being in a relationship, I felt somewhat left out, etc.). We got together twice in total, it was not a bad experience or anything and I definitely enjoyed quite a bit of both encounters, but I feel like I wasn’t asked for a third time because the girl was jealous of the sexual chemistry between me and her boyfriend.

The other experience I had was again MFF, but this time, I was part of a couple and the guy was joining us. Completely different experience and it was pretty damn hot. For one, my girlfriend and I had perfect trust in one another, we loved each other and were quite attached, very strong sexual compatibility, so adding another person wasn’t weird, no hints of anything negative because it was clear we were fine together and this was just something different. He was someone I knew pretty well, a very nice and respectful guy. There was no jealousy or negative feelings, just a lot of arousal. I enjoyed having an audience while kissing and doing things to her, and it was also really hot to have her watching me when it was me and him getting it on. Definitely something I’d consider doing again.. previously, I had never realized I possessed an exhibitionist streak! I’ve done dirty things in public places, but found it hard to focus because I couldn’t stop thinking of someone seeing us.

Now that I have those experiences under my belt, my ultimate fantasy is FFF. Maybe it’ll happen one day. :)

@MissAnthrope – wow, that’s awesome! I appreciate that you shared your experience with me. Thank you!

Welcome! :)

Never had one. I’m not opposed to the idea (actually, it’s kind of intriguing, either MMF or MFF), but my husband’s a bit too Puritan for that to happen.

Never have, but only a MFF would appeal to me. My wife is not interested so I fill forgo any such experience.

@Seek_Kolinahr – I have same situation..

I met a guy on Blackplanet yrs ago and he introduced me to his wife. I thought he was trying to get me in the sack behind his wife’s back but it turns out that he actually wanted me for HER. She was really into women. Later he propositioned me for a 3some. I declined. I have been propositioned by 2 other married couples who were really good friends of mine but in both cases I didn’t do it. The first one I said no to was because she told me her husband didn’t even satisfy her, so I figured why would I waste my time. If he can’t get her off he definately couldn’t get 2 of us off. The second I declined because I loved her but hated her husband. He was a fake ass religious type who oppressed her and he also had other wives. I couldn’t stand him so I didn’t want to have sex with him. I was tempted to overlook my dislike of him because my friend and I were so close and she wanted me to do it with them so much. Then on New Years of 1999, I had a 3some with my aunt and her boyfriend (no me and my aunt didn’t touch each other, only him!). I was pretty drunk and don’t remember too many details except that it must have been wild because I lost my clit ring in his shower and had a hang over for 3 days afterwards. My aunt would kill me if she knew I was telling this story. She was actually in a relationship with her current husband when she and I had this 3some with her ex-boyfriend. And for the record, I’d do it again, either MFF or FMM. Hubby would go for it, he’s done it a few times too.

thank you for sharing your story, Akua :)

Anytime @Stasi

While in college I had one MMF experience. Although I am not going to post all the details here, I am willing to take any questions via comments.

No but, ive been approached to join, I declined.