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rm2dance's avatar

In a friendship, what are some of the best way to open up someone who's not on talking terms?

Asked by rm2dance (20points) November 17th, 2010

Has to be effective.

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nebule's avatar

Probably need a bit more information about the exact situation but I always think written letters are good… but it really depends on what the aim is…and all sorts of other factors for that matter.. People won’t open up to someone unless they trust them in my experience….

CaptainHarley's avatar

Huh? Um… if they’re not on speaking terms, how can they be a friend??

marinelife's avatar

You need to tell us more about the situation before we can give good advice.

One thing to remember is that you cannot ever control the behavior of others. You can only control how you act or react.

BarnacleBill's avatar

The first thing that you have to understand is that there is absolutely NOTHING you can do to make someone do something they don’t want to do.

If you’ve had a disagreement with the other person, you can apologize – not necessarily say they’re right, but if you did something wrong, apologize for your actions. Or if you started the fight, say you’re sorry that you started the fight. Say you miss the person’s friendship. That’s about all you can do. Some relationship rifts mend with time. Some never do. Some were meant to end, and the circumstances become unavoidable.

Never pass up an opportunity to say something nice but true about the person to someone else. Gossip always gets back to the other person, good or bad.

Neizvestnaya's avatar

If your friendship has hit a snag then the strongest you can be is to reach out and then leave them alone if they choose to pass you over and go on.

wundayatta's avatar

Is this about reconciling after a fight? I really can’t parse your question. As everyone else says, we need more details.

rm2dance's avatar

Logic problem:

There are 2 people. Person A will not talk to person B. What can person B say or do to change the outcome?

BarnacleBill's avatar

You can make a bed. You can make a sandwich. You cannot make someone talk to you that doesn’t want to.

Andreas's avatar

@rm2dance To echo every other comment, it’s a case of horses and water.

BTW: Welcome to Fluther, but you will need to open up to us with more info, and then we’ll more likely be your friend. [grins a big, cheeky, but truly welcoming grin while slithering back to his hole in the ground]

My joking with you aside, you can trust us with more info, and when you test us out with it you might be pleasantly surprised at the advice we give. But on current info the simple truth is: You can’t.

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