What exactly is an obsessive friend and is mine one?

Oops!! Typo!!! On my 4th reason I meant to say that she won’t stop unless somebody talks to her. Sorry if there was any confusion.

Eh, maybe a little.

I’m sorry, I don’t get why you feel it is necessary to put a pejorative label on your friend. Obsession is a treatable personality disorder when it is diagnosed by a professional, but to want to find it in a friend doesn’t make any sense to me. What is your goal?

Being lonely is not the same as being obsessed, although the former may lead to the latter. Are you her only friend?

She sounds incredibly insecure and probably just really needs your friendship. Can you tell us more about her as a person? Does she have a good family life? Does she enjoy life in general? What’s her emotional disposition?

Yes, she is.

What should you do about it? Think about how comfortable you are with each of her actions and set limits that you find acceptable.

Tell her the limits, and then don’t budge. Such as “I’m not going to take calls after volleyball practice.”

I agree with @YARNLADY…
What is your goal? While reading this I had a feeling you already knew the answer you wanted to read.
Is she “obsessive”? Who knows…
Does she feel attached to you and comfortable around you? Yes. Should she after you wrote this? No.
I don’t believe you have malicious intentions. However, I was in a similar situation many moons ago (about 15 years ago- in high school). I was the “obsessive” friend in the scenario.
I had a very close friend named Mandy…I thought :) We did everything together. I thought it was mutual. She later had a mutual friend tell me (in our school cafeteria) I was too possessive. I was shocked and very embarrassed. 15 years later and I still remember it. I was just a really nice kid. I thought I had a good friend.
My point in a nutshell:
She might be needy, she might rely on you for a lot. If that bothers you it would be nice of you to find a gentle way of hinting that. Please don’t just come out of the blue and hurt her feelings (or have someone else do it for you).
I am sure you have the best of intentions but, it hurts when you find out your buddy finds you “obsessive” or “needy”. She seriously might have no idea. She might think it is a mutual bond…

@jenandcolin (I’m guessing it’s Jen and not Colin) is probably correct. Several years ago I was also the allegedly possessive / obsessive friend, but really what it came to was that my friend and I had different definitions of friendship and different needs, etc. Things are different now, but of course we’re still close.

Maybe that’s what’s going on here, I don’t know.

Obsessive doesn’t really seem justified. Infatuated maybe?

Maybe she just doesn’t like to be independent… Perhaps she is just clingy.. I remember back in elementary school, and high school.. friends would always go with each other to the washroom, and hang out with each other even when we’re not doing anything… pretty much follow each other everywhere!

I know someone though, on the other hand, who feels as you do. She would think that people were annoying when they wanted to follow her everywhere. example:

friend: “where are you going?”
her: “Home, to study.”
friend: “oh okay.. can I follow you home?”
her: “To do what?...”
friend: “Umm.. watch you study? I have nothing to do at home!”
her: (rolls eyes, deep sigh)

I wouldn’t use the word “obsessive” though.

I concur with @curiouscat in that the word “obsessive” doesn’t seem right. How about just plain weird?