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Have you ever met someone with antisocial personality disorder (a sociopath)?

Asked by naomi29 (436points) January 26th, 2011

What was your relationship with them like? What insights can you offer?

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xjustxxclaudiax's avatar

My friend is a bit of a sociopath. Hard childhood left made him pretty much into a emotionless adult. He doesn’t do anything unless its to benefit himself. He’s extremely smart and a bit of an asshole…but I get along with him just fine. I’ve done my research so I kinda have an idea of how he is and understand why he does the things he does. He’s not always so self centered or selfish, but its rare when he isn’t. He always knows the right things to say, and I don’t ever expect him to ever say anything that I want to hear….You see, I have a bit of a crush on him. And he knows it, and uses it to his advantage. He doesn’t hurt me, but he does just enough to keep me away from getting to close to him….We’re pretty much friends with benefits..sadly…What bothers me the most is the fact that he’s so logical about things, he never expresses his feelings if he has any. He always finds legitimate reasons and comes off as being blunt when he’s just not taking it to heart…He’s great help when its things like school or cars..but when it comes to my feelings, he hardly ever knows what to say..Even when he’s trying…his words don’t come out right, so he hugs me for as long as I hold on because I know he doesn’t know what else to do..I don’t give him a hard time…He’s just not that type of person…But its hard for me too…Schizophrenics and sociopaths aren’t a good mix, but somehow we make it work….The best thing to do is to understand one another. And look at everything with an open mind.

gailcalled's avatar

This sounds like a classic description of someone with Asperger syndrome. Here

“Asperger syndrome or Asperger’s syndrome is an autism spectrum disorder that is characterized by significant difficulties in social interaction, along with restricted and repetitive patterns of behavior and interests.

It differs from other autism spectrum disorders by its relative preservation of linguistic and cognitive development. Although not required for diagnosis, physical clumsiness and atypical use of language are frequently reported.”

Do not label anyone a sociopath without clear and documented medical evidence. Those with Asperger’s are high functioning professionally and clueless about emotions and feelings.

Summum's avatar

@gailcalled Great answer. I have a friend whose son has Asperger syndrome and he is very repetitive and has to have things certain ways. I have a son who has the ADHD and he reacts much like my friends son does to things.

xjustxxclaudiax's avatar

No. I don’t think he has that. Me and him have talked about this countless times…he is very social and very cunning…Like I said, he always knows the right things to say in order to get what he wants…there’s always an ulterior motive to his thoughts..and he hardly does anything repetitive…he likes to be spontaneous.

gailcalled's avatar

@xjustxxclaudiax: Has he been diagnosed? Is he being treated? There is a difference between being a sociopath and being devious, cunning, manipulative or sly.

(He and I have talked..)

xjustxxclaudiax's avatar

….someone woke up on the wrong side of the bed..
Like I said the first time…“he’s a bit of a sociopath” I did not call him one. If it’ll make you feel better, I’ll just rephrase that and say he has sociopathic tendencies. No he has not been diagnosed but he has very similar symptoms to a sociopath. And the why he hasn’t looked for help is because he feels its not getting in his way or ruining his life.

gailcalled's avatar

Fine. (Don’t describe incorrect behavior to me, either.) How I am feeling is neither here nor there.

xjustxxclaudiax's avatar

I don’t think anything I’ve said was incorrect. Maybe I wasn’t very specific, I just pointed out what stuck out the most in him…there’s more to it than just that.

glenjamin's avatar

one of my aunts has it. she stole from her own parents and has spent a lifetime engaged in criminal and devious acts without remorse. She had the type of personality as be nice to your face but stab you in the back. She is also a master manipulator.

MyNewtBoobs's avatar

FYI, there’s actually a difference between sociopath and ASPD. While many think that ASPD is simply the new name for sociopathy, the criteria are actually very different. Sociopathy includes not just Factor 2 criteria on the Hare Psychopathy Checklist like deceitfulness, impulsivity, irresponsibility, and aggressiveness but also Factor 1 criteria like a glibness, superficial charm, grandiosity, lack of remorse or guilt, shallow affect, and manipulativeness. ASPD, on the other hand, has only Factor 2 criteria, save for a “lack of remorse”, which is Factor 1. For this reason, the DSM-IV’s criteria for ASPD has been severely criticized by researchers, as one can behave in many of those manners whilst still having a conscience and a full emotional spectrum (and the “lack of remorse” criterion is not needed if there are enough other criterion met.)

*Note: for these conversational purposes, there’s no difference between sociopathy and psychopathy.

MyNewtBoobs's avatar

My father is a sociopath. Not really sure what info or insights you’re looking for, though.

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