Is it a terrible idea to have a "hot" profile picture?

I just don’t understand why people feel the need to flash their titties here. Most of their titties, anyway.

I have no problem with it, but a lot of others do. Post what you want. It is your profile after all.

@Jude I never understood this myself. It just screams attention seeker to me.

I’ve always used the rule, “When in doubt, don’t.” A Facebook friend is a professional photographer, and many of his FB friends are models. Their profile pics are similar to the image you posted. I don’t see anything wrong with that.

Remember it doesn’t show up worth a damn in the ¾ inch square that accompanies posts. That profile pic you showed would be hard to make out. Graphically simple is best. Your face, your tits, or your ass, pick one.

I think people should always err on the side of modesty. A picture of a person can be attractive (well groomed and healthy looking) without having to convey a sexual attitude. You should never set yourself up to be in a potentially compromising position.

Save the sexy pictures for you boyfriend, but don’t post them online. Other people, may or may not get the wrong idea, but don’t risk it.

@jonsblond Doesn’t posting a photo imply that you would like people to give it attention in and of itself? If you want no attention whatsoever, then shouldn’t you refrain from posting a photo?

Your photo will telegraph your personality and is highly subjective to the viewer. If you want to be perceived as “seductive,” then place a seductive photo. I can’t imagine an employment situation in a professional setting where that would be appropriate, but you will know far better than I what ramifications might ensue in your environment.

One note of caution: It will live long after your decision to remove/change it, so please keep that in mind.

I don’t see anything wrong with that photo though. It’s not me, it’s just an example. hehe. I’m just really into photography and modeling.

@Facade This is why I don’t post my photo here. I’m talking about titties like @Jude mentioned, or very suggestive photos I’ve seen from some. =)

No. @jonsblond – you like mine, admit it! :)~

Can you get fired from photos like these???? ANyone know?

You’ve posted your photo before… I still don’t see the big deal. People always give women shit for posting sexy photos of themselves. If that’s their strong suit, then so what? they show off their bodies; others may show off their intelligence or sense of humor.

Read this article – it points out that whatever you put out on the web is effectively available forever, despite any change of heart or methods you may use to remove information. If you feel comfortable that at no point in your life will you regret your decision or suffer any negative (professional or personal) effects, then by all means, post what you want.

If you worry in any way that a post may affect a job interview, a professional career, a political career, a relationship, whatever, then don’t do it.

@Facade, yeah! How come guys can show off their sexy bodies and muscles but women can’t show off their bodies without being judged harshly? LOL

@chelle21689 Double standards. No matter how progressive poeple claim to be, they still hold true. But it is Titty Tuesday after all…

@Facade I’ve never posted a sexy photo of myself. I’ve posted one of myself during my first Halloween and one of myself and my husband. I’m just giving an opinion (and it was directed to Jude). I never said it was a bad thing. I just didn’t understand it, because I wouldn’t do it myself. Now if you don’t mind, I’ve got to get ready for a visitation. bye =)

As long as you understand that when you put a sexy picture up on the internet you are saying, “come fuck me” to a substantial number of people, I have no problem with it. It’s the same for beefcake, too.

I prefer to have an avatar that symbolizes something important about me. I think most people are this way whether they are conscious of the subtext of their picture or not. People may not understand what I am saying, but it pleases me. If anyone is interested enough to ask, I will tell them.

But I don’t think it’s terrible to have a “hot” profile picture. I just hope people realize that, whether they mean it or not, others will take it to be saying something important about them. Not something to take lightly.

But I don’t think that girl’s picture says “COME DO MEEEE!!!! I’m a whore!!” lol I feel like there is a difference between being sexy/tasteful and being dirty/trashy.

I would look at a picture of man or woman that is suggestively posing the same way. It’s not just about the clothing (or lack there of), it’s also about the pose and the attitude the person is portraying in the picture. I personally would not put a suggestive picture up, but that’s me.

Unprofessional – for either gender. If I was for example researching two potential new physicians and one of them had a picture online of them that looked even remotely like a “Glamour shot” or sexy profile picture I’d instantly decide against them.
I understand wanting to be “playful”—but unless you are, for example, a Pole Dancing Instructor, I cannot imagine putting a ‘sexy’ picture of yourself anywhere on the internet.

@geeky_mama “If I was for example researching two potential new physicians and one of them had a picture online of them that looked even remotely like a “Glamour shot” or sexy profile picture I’d instantly decide against them.” Why?

I sure don’t have a problem with it!

@Facade – I just find it inappropriate. Maybe it’s a product of my age or upbringing (I am pushing 40..I do remember wearing hats and gloves to church..I still follow silly rules like not wearing white shoes until after Memorial Day)—but I think it would reflect poorly on someone in a professional position to put a picture depicting themselves in a “sexy” way. It just screams “lack of professionalism” to me.

It also seems..like a it would invite the wrong sort of attention.. and therefore, seems like a poor choice to me. When I’m seeking someone to do business with (or for example, to find the best qualified physician) I want to make sure they’re the sort that would make the best possible choices. This would be a red flag in the “poor choice” column for me.

@chelle21689 You may not think the picture says “come do me,” but I hope you are not naive enough to believe there aren’t millions and millions of guys out there who do believe it. If you are that naive, let me assure you that all those guys are out there, salivating over you, checking out your profile to see where you live, and wondering if they send you a message telling you how beautiful you are, they might have a chance to get into your pants.

Like I said, I think it’s fine if you do it. I just think you should be aware. Speaking of which, when are you going to put your sexy picture into your avatar? ;-)

And FWIW, I feel that way for both women and for men.

@geeky_mama “I think it would reflect poorly on someone in a professional position to put a picture depicting themselves in a “sexy” way. It just screams “lack of professionalism” to me.” I don’t think people’s lives should be dictated by their profession, or that people need to be professional at all times. Life would be pretty bland.

It is attention-seeking behavior.

I guess once again I have an opinion that everyone disagrees with, lol. I guess this is why you have privacy settings on Facebook?

@Jude So is everything else we do…

If I knew that type of photo existed for a potential hire (man or woman), I would not hire him/her. It reflects poor judgment, attention-seeking, unprofessionalism (unless you’re a prostitute) and lack of consideration of the consequences. Wunday says is perfectly—while YOU may not intend to telegraph “come do me,” you can’t predict the perception of the millions of potential viewers on the other end. Surely, you can see that the photo is sexual in nature.

There is a very, very, very fine line between sexy/tasteful and trashy/dirty. It’s like @wundayatta said, you may think a sexy picture is just fine, but lots and lots and lots of guys and even some women, will think it’s a come on and you will likely to be drawing attention to yourself in a way in which you had not intended. You do need to think about the “potentials” rather than just assuming that what you intended is exactly what you will get.

You do need to think about the future and try to imagine what a potential employer, school or potential mate might think if you were to post sexy pictures of yourself. It might not be fair, but it is reality.

I also agree with the other posters that unless you are a pole dancer, a hooker, or maybe someone in the entertainment industry (where those kind of pictures are necessary) you are just setting yourself up for potential embarrassment and negative consequences down the line. Why risk it?

One thing that I can’t help but remember is one poor young woman on Fluther in this thread had an abusive boyfriend who exploited her by posting her own “sexy” pictures on a fake website that he made to hurt her. But he got the pictures from her own Facebook page. That’s why I think people need to pay more attention to what kinds of pictures they post of themselves. You never know what someone might do with those pictures, or how those pictures will be perceived.

Discretion is the better part of valor.

Terrible idea no matter what your profession.

I like the picture. It’s just competent is the last thing on my mind when I first saw it.

Oh lord! I wrote my response before I actually looked at the picture.

I have no idea who that young lady is, but because I don’t know her, or anything about her personality or her profession, the first thing that came to my mind was that she looks like a prostitute and she’s offering sex to all takers. I may or may not be wrong, but that is the first thoughts that popped into my head when I saw the picture.

If I was an employer and I saw that picture, I would assume (and that’s all I can do, without knowing the person, personally) that she has very bad judgement. She may be a perfectly nice person, but when first impressions are made, you have to make a judgement call, especially in a job situation.

That’s the part you have to think about, not whether the picture itself is bad or if you are bad (if it was you) just that a lot of people are going to make a negative assumption about you if you post a picture like that. You are setting yourself up.

Make sure you hit the zoom when you look at the picture.

I’m really surprised by you all. Do you really assume that an attractive person cannot also be professional, intelligent, competent, whatever if they post sexual/sensual/seductive photos of themselves?
Why should people have to tailor their lives to what others deem appropriate? Someone is always going to be offended no matter what you do, so why not do what you want?

@facade She can be attractive without wearing clothing for the bedroom or a night out on the streets. Wearing appropriate clothes in the appropriate place matters. Internet is not the place. IMO. Shows bad judgement.

@JLeslie So having it on the internet is bad, but doing it in public is good? And because you feel it’s inappropriate (whatever that means), she shouldn’t do it? should I also not get anymore tattoos if other people don’t like it? C’mon…

Those of you defending someone’s right to post pics similar to the example are missing the point.

No one is questioning your right to do it. They’re questioning the wisdom of doing so.

You may think that potential employers should not be so prudishly judgemental. But it’s not a question of prudish.

The issue is sound and mature judgement. This is reality. You may rail against it as much as you like. But hiring employees is all about making judgement and all kinds of factors can weigh into that process. Whether you think that is right matters little. It is what it is.

If you don’t mind the possibility of this affecting your job prospects, do as you please. But you can’t say nobody ever gave you a heads up about it.

The decision is yours. When you make the choice, you also choose the consequences (whether you approve of those consequences or not). You don’t have the ability to control the reactions of others.

That’s known as reality. We may not like the reality of gravity, especially when fixing a critical situation of a leaking roof. But we ignore it at our peril. Gravity isn’t affected or suspended temporarily simply because we may think it’s unfair.

The people pointing out the realities of how things are perceived in the professional world are merely pointing out the obvious.

You may think it’s horribly unfair but it doesn’t change it. Similar to gravity, ignore the operative principles of professional sound judgement at your own peril.

Don’t shoot the messenger. They’re just pointing out the obvious. It’s up to you what you choose to do with that information. If you view the right to post sexy pics to be as inalienable as the right to free speech, then by all means do what you must. But just dont be all surprised and shocked by the results.

In the grand scheme of things, and in the light of how difficult it is to find a good job in which you’re happy, how important is it to publicly post a pic like that? If it’s that important to you that you’re willing to risk it being misinterpreted, then do what you must. It’s your life.

@facade You can get all the tattoos you want, but know that some employers will not be happy if they are showing.

That link the OP provided is a girl wanting to get fucked. From outfit, to position she is standing in. I have no problem with women wanting to look sexy or wear revealing clothing, but this is one step farther. It is not just a girl in a hot outfit going to a club. That outfit is street walker material, not even clubbing.

@Buttonstc I completely understand what you’re saying, but I still feel that people who judge others for things like this are wrong. Why even go looking for things on the internet concerning employees?
@JLeslie I do know that, and it’s ridiculous. and how did you get “come fuck me” out of that photo? It’s a photo. Without a caption of “come fuck me,” you’re just making assumptions and reading to much into it. The girl looks nice. Enjoy it; move on; no big deal.

I’m not saying she shouldn’t do it. Or you shouldn’t do it, @Facade. But I’m a dirty old man. I love looking at pictures of nearly nude, scantily clad women. Oh look! I said the same thing twice. What does that tell you about my interests? Let’s face it. I’m a creepy guy. So you know, do you want millions of dirty old men ogling your picture? Maybe even investigating you and trying to connect with you? You think you wouldn’t get caught up with them? Some of those guys are incredibly charming.

@wundayatta I don’t see that happening, as I wouldn’t entertain creepy advances made toward me. Dirty old men also like to look at faces. Should women not post their faces either? Should they make sure they look demure and modest if they do?

I also agree with most answers that it shows poor judgment.

@Facade No, no, no. They should absolutely positively post their faces. The more, the better!

As to creepy advances—not what I’m talking about. I’m talking about creepy men. The advances are very charming and subtle. I’ve watched an expert do this. Totally amazes me. It doesn’t matter who she is or what she is doing or whether she has a boyfriend. He’ll approach anyone, and he gets pretty far a lot of the time. And he’s a messed up dude.

All I’m saying is that you never know.

Employers do research people on the internet. You may think they shouldn’t, and perhaps you are right. But they do.

And you may not think the picture says “fuck me,” but there are a lot of people out there that do.

So do you think you should take that information into account? Or does it not matter? Or do you not believe there are a gazillion lechers out there?

@Facade Oh love don’t be surprised. Putting women in their place and saying it’s about professionalism instead is one of people’s favorite past-times. I don’t get why people think that posting semi-nude or nude photos is always about attention seeking, when it’s not. Most of the time, my photos are for me, for my profile, for my mood and if you’re looking fine..if you think I’m easy, you’re an idiot..and if you think people who are easy are worse than you, you’re a double idiot. Basically idiocy abounds when everyone’s high up there on their horses. Oh and ps: I love how it’s all about consequences all of a sudden when nobody gives two hoots if they’re supporting meaningless war or global warming or hateful policies or consume meats or smoke around their children or parent badly or remain ignorant, etc? All of a sudden, this, these pictures (egads!) on the internet is what will irrevocably make you unhirable just in case you wanted to be president – which you shoudln’t care to become as there are actual problems in the world like racism and sexism which will prevent you from doing so.

@wundayatta It matters. But I would not want to work for an employer who judges people in such a way. Work and real life should be separate.
@Simone_De_Beauvoir I think you and I should get Titty Tuesday going on around here! But seriously, I agree with you. I used to feel the same way as some people here, but I’ve learned differently.

@Facade Remember Boob Wednesdays? We actually managed to not have that devolve into this on Wis.Dm and everyone participated and it actually took on different meanings. If more people participated, I’d do it but nah, not worth it on Fluther. Different vibe, you know?

@Facade we’re not trying to tell you what to do. We’re just trying to attempt to explain to you that every decicsion you make will have some sort of consequences, good, bad or otherwise, and they are not always the consequences you would want or expect.

Life isn’t fair and there are lots of people that will view you negatively, or will not hire you, or think that you have very poor judgement, or think that you are a potential sexual harrassment problem in the making by posting a picture like that.

Some of us slightly older folks were brought up with a particular sense of decorum, so for us, a picture like that doesn’t say “respect” for us. The same goes for visible tatoos. Sorry, but that is just the way things are in this world at this particular time. I realize that tatoos are harmless, but I think they look terrible and unprofessional, but that is just me. I’m not in a position to hire anyone, but there are plenty of people who are that feel the same way that are in the position to hire. Not fair, but that’s how it is. Maybe some day things will be different, but at this moment in time, that is how things are.

You can stand up and walk out of your house completely naked and/or covered with tatoos, but there is going to be certain consequences for doing that.

And what I think @wundayatta is trying to say, is that he has typical feelings for a person for his age and background, so lots of other men will have the same thoughts. If one of those people happens to be a potential employer, that man may not hire you because he would think you are a slut or make bad decisions. Or he might hire you, and then it would cause all sorts of sexual harrasment problems down the line, if he started hitting on you. Whether or not you accepted his advancements or not. And the dirty old man boss may hire you, even if you are not qualified for the job. It works both ways.

Why would you want to look like a hooker in the eyes of the world?

@Simone_De_Beauvoir Yea, you’re right. I don’t really rememeber much about wis.dm…
@Kardamom Again, I understand and disagree with what you’re telling me is common.
@janbb A hooker?! Damn, talk about losing respect…

@janbb Why do you assume that ‘looking like a hooker’ and in the eyes of what world is a problem, of any kind? Do you know any sex workers? Because I do and I never understand why looking ‘whorish’ or ‘like a hooker’ is supposed to make me be offended?

@janbb This is how a hooker dresses. Spandex, fake shiny leather, etc. How does the girl in the OP’s photo look like that?

@facade

You may feel that employers are wrong to see things as they do, but the bottom line is that they’re the one signing the paycheck. Reality again.

They want the best value for their money as we all do. That’s why we read Consumer Reports.

Employers are reluctant to take a chance on hiring someone who exhibits poor judgement in ANY regard.

Let’s take the focus off of sex for the moment. There are plenty of naive college students posting pics of themselves totally trashed and drunk out of their gourd.

How appealing do you think their judgement is to an employer? Really?

Poor judgement is not a desirable trait that people will spend good money for. Period.

That applies to products and people alike. A product designed by poor judgement will fail in the marketplace when compared to something better.

The same applies to employees. Both cost money and both employers and consumers want the best value for their money. That’s reality.

When you are the employer with your own business, you’re free to hire all the dimwits and floozies you wish with your relaxed standards. And you then get to deal with the financial consequences of your decisions just as any potential employers of yours are currently doing.

That’s how things work. The golden rule of business is: He who has the gold, makes the rules.

When you’re the employer you get to relax the rules as much as you wish and learn from your own mistakes as well as successes.

Most current business owners prefer not to reinvent the wheel. They prefer to hire those exhibiting sound judgement rather than the clueless because judgement affects so many areas (not just profile pics).

BTW

The pic in question happens to be of a woman but if I were a potential employer, I’d have the same attitude toward a male applicant with poor judgement.

If he were choosing a pic of himself in a barely there speedo or seeing pics of him drunk as a skunk looking the fool on Facebook, I wouldn’t be hiring him either. Why should I take that chance when there are plenty of applicants with far more sense than that.

Good judgement and common sense can take one far in life. The lack of it (while temporarily rewarding) can possibly be disastrous.

I think that individuals put them up because they’re trying to attract potential partners and/or get attention (i.e., complements). I’m not saying that it’s wrong to want attention and praise, but I tend to automatically judge people who do that as having low self-esteem and I think that most of them base their self-worth on the approval or attention of others.

Even if she is a hooker, I would think better not to have that photo as a profile pic on facebook or fluther. Hookers can also be intelligent women with goals, good hearts, good people. I am not making a judgment about hookers, I am just explaining how most of the world will see that photo. I have a glam shot on my facebook you have probably seen from when I was a teen. Super madeup face, but I am not also half naked and in a position. I am also fine with people in their bathing suits. But, that photo is not just a made up face or bikini, it suggests sex, do you think it doesn’t? A profile pic is sort of like an ad about you. The first impression.

@Buttonstc I’ll admit, I didn’t read all of that, but I think I see what you’re saying. Posting photos of yourself shit-faced is completely different from posting a seductive photo, as it does show poor judgement– you’re drunk. But as long as you’re not posting it on careerbuilder.com or something similar it shouldn’t matter.
@JLeslie The only thing a bikini suggests is sex. The woman could have worn a one-piece or even not wear a bathing suit at all because some people see that as inappropriate. A profile pic is whatever you want it to be.

There is no one costume for hookers, nor is there any one costume for the CEO. But I’d expect a hooker to look pretty cheap and dressed for action. I’d expect the CEO to be dressed in a manner that did not suggest “ready for sex.”

I would like to put women in their place, as heads of corporations, universities, governments, etc. And I don’t think they should look like they’re in the sex trade unless they’re in the sex trade. While the lovely young woman in the photo that the OP posted may not look like a hooker to you, Facade, she does to me. Are hookers bad? Not if you’re wanting a hooker. Would I hire one to work at my company? Nope. Do I think the type of photo suggested by the OP is a smart idea for a profile pic (back to the original question)? No way.

My first answer may have been flip and judgmental but it was to make a point. It’s a very sexy picture and very appealing; I would love to show a picture of me looking like that to a guy (or gal) I wanted. I don’t think it is a way to represent oneself publicly if one wants to be taken seriously professionally. Your opinion may differ.

@Facade It has been documented that potential employers look at FB pages all the time.

@janbb Life isn’t about serious professionalism. It’s just not. And yes, that’s documented, but again (and again), it’s not right, and they can go fuck themselves =)

Chacun a son gout. What do I know? I’m just an old school penguin feminist. Maybe I’m scared that a hot profile would melt my iceberg!

If I was worried about my Facebook profile photo I would just not make it publicly viewable. I’d save my more personal type pictures for Facebook and I’d make sure I had a nice professional looking photo for more work-related social media sites such as LinkedIn.

I do think my pancake is quite seductive though….It’s intentional…oh yes, it isssss

@Simone_De_Beauvoir I just saw your addition to a post above: “Oh and ps: I love how it’s all about consequences all of a sudden when nobody gives two hoots if they’re supporting meaningless war or global warming or hateful policies or consume meats or smoke around their children or parent badly or remain ignorant, etc? All of a sudden, this, these pictures (egads!) on the internet is what will irrevocably make you unhirable just in case you wanted to be president – which you shoudln’t care to become as there are actual problems in the world like racism and sexism which will prevent you from doing so.” Very good point. It seems like people would rather hire a bad parent than an woman who has sexual photos on the internet. Way to go, world!

@diavolobella Oh, but, it’s a hot cake.

@Jude Would you like syrup with that hot cake? LOL

<—- Fuck yeah.

That is NOT me by the way. I’m a dude.

@FutureMemory How unprofessional of you!~ I did something similar.

Let’s see!

see profile

Oh my gosh.

Terrible idea? We are talking about a profile photo here! Kim Kardashian went the way of that Hilton and offered her sex tape to get what she wants, money and fame. What do you want? Find that out first then decide. If afraid of losing privacy then I guess don’t. If you want to find out if others find you sexy or not, then yeah. You can always pull it off after I see it. :-)

I believe that when it comes to profile pictures, everyone should have an ordinary, casual photo of themselves.

Like mine.

@FutureMemory Those look like future mammaries not memories!

I guess it just depends on the person and their personality type. I’m not a prof. but I wouldn’t.

I don’t agree. Bikini with no make up, a smile, beach hair, fun day at the beach. Sure it can be sexy to wear a bikini, but it does not scream come get me in my opinion.

I still say that it is attention seeking behavior. (Calling a spade a spade, here).

Personally, I’m way too much of a prude to do such a thing. For those who are comfortable in their skin and with their sexuality, and have no problem being judged by our puritanical society, then have at it. Why people might feel the need to so openly display their bodies for all their “friends” to see is something best left to introspection and maybe therapy. ;)

If someone is breast feading and I can see her breast, that is not sexual. It is not about showing ones body. I would even be ok with that as a profile pic, if facebook allowed it, which I don’t think they do. The girl in the photo has all the girly parts covered. It is what she covers them with, her facial expression, and her body position. It is not just being semi naked or not. Slightly parted lips, men love that, stick their dick or tongue in there; bending over, even better. She is not just showing her body. I lived in South FL for years, and people are half naked all the time, but it does not feel like you are in a brothel.

I’m not sure why people are arguing over the way the world is and the way the world should be. Maybe people shouldn’t think sexy pictures are sexy, but they do. If you put a sexy picture online, you shouldn’t be surprised when people respond to it that way, even though they shouldn’t.

Florida is not the United States. There are many parts of the country that are a lot cooler than Florida and there aren’t too many times of the year that people want to run around without bras. Or whatever they do in Florida. In those areas, skin is a much bigger deal.

But just because you think the world shouldn’t be the way it is, doesn’t make it the way you want it to be. You asked for people’s judgments. Many people think it’s not such a good idea to portray yourself as a sex object. So what? What do you care? You’re not changing your behavior.

Why protest against the opinions you asked for? Why storm off and post a picture of yourself naked (at least from the chest on up), with your hands on your boobs? Why not show everything? I mean, there’s nothing wrong with having a beautiful body and nothing wrong with a willingness to show it to whoever might look. Come on. Let us old lechers friendly jellies see what you’re all about! ;-)

@wundayatta I wasn’t clear what you meant by saying in FL skin is a much bigger deal? does that mean Floridians are more immune to half naked people walking around? I agree climate has a lot to do with it, and in some ways it is very different than the rest of the US. But, for instance in my gym outside of Memphis I have never seen a bikini or someone in zumba or weight lifting with their middrift showing. I find it so amazing. It is hotter in Memphis than FL in the summer. It’s like the days of I dream of Jeannie when a belly button could not be seen, but even more extreme.

@JLeslie I was referring to the areas that are not Florida. That’s where skin is a much bigger deal. Sorry for the confusion.

QWould you be afraid of your boss or manager seeing it? That’s how I would gauge things.

OMG, God’s such a perv. (for all you self righteous, sexually repressed, that is just a statement to make a point. Don’t get your panties in a bundle yet!)
Just look at Medieval Christian art! His (give it to me, give it to me now) calling card like the Sistine Chapel, and Michelangelo’s David! Oh God, such a whore, fag, woman monger!

What was on that dirty old man God’s mind when “he” (who said it is a “he?” If we are supposed to be created in “His” image, why are there women? That would make God a He/She!) thought of the naked person idea in the first place?
And the desire & sex invention, what was that dirty ole god thinking?
Wet naughty parts, hard naughty parts, desires…. oh so dirty, and on “God’s” mind!?
God, what a perv, animals having attractions to those raised tails, naughty bits hanging out all over the place (ever see a Stallion “in the mood”) I guess that horny stallion will not get that cherished job on the Board of Directors!”

How dare “God” and his people involved in the church even think that what was supposed to be created by a “supreme being” is awful and sinful (nudity, sensuality)! That natural desires and sensuality are wrong (if it wasn’t for being down right horny, you self righteous wouldn’t even be here!).
I’m in a pretty religious state. In front of one of their buildings is a statue representing men and women naked, naked, right there on the sidewalk, being what I can surmise, sucked into the earth to be destroyed!
Balls and vagina’s and breasts, heading to hell.
I wasn’t even thinking of naked people before I saw that!
It 1.) Got me thinking about the worse thing in the world, a naked person
2.) Showed me that if you are naked you go to hell
3.) I got the message, look at this sculpture quickly. Get our message, then make sure you turn your eyes away like you didn’t see it or you will go to hell with them.

God destroying people for being sensual after he designed our bodies and our attraction to them is to me like a spoiled child destroying their favorite toy while having some kind of temper tantrum.

Also, it seems to me the ones so against sensuality are not pleased with themselves. They judge themselves and judge & drag others down with them.

In some countries, a woman just showing her face, or her ankle is “just askin for it!”
Are you showing your face? An ankle? Or “god” forbid, a belly button or two?

Have a body, but don’t get naturally aroused…
It’s like having your SUV or Porche, driving it and not really looking at it or getting turned on by it because it is a “sinful” polluter of the planet and a potential killer of women, children and men but you just have to have it anyway.
The same said vehicle is responsible for you being enslaved to a job you have to be someone else and not your self so much that if they find out you are sensual they will take your precious arrangement of slavery away and there goes your precious material possessions that “god” told you not to be so into anyway!

Don’t get me started…

If you think over populating the world with kids is the thing to do when we cannot even afford to take care of said children with the health care they need when they are older because we are too busy spending money to blow up other peoples kids, go ahead, I won’t judge you.

But if you can’t stand someone proud of who they are and the beautiful bodies the possess and the sensuality that comes along with it, not judging them either seems only fair.

“If it turns you on, kill it?”

P.S.
I am sure my post is imperfect, so kill me to.
I expressed my own personal opinion, those that are “right” are bound to spank me
It probably has grammatical errors (thank God/dess for a spell checker though)
It rambles and has rage! Oops, that darn humanity oozing out of my 3 piece suit again!
But there it is….
;-)

Oh, please….

How did God get into this discussion?
I thought that the question was about hot facebook profile pictures and their possible impact on your work or professional life.

@wilma I was thinking the same thing.

To Wilma & JL eslie,
Hi

“Is it a terrible idea to have a “hot” profile picture?” That was the question?
To even worry about such a thing is a fear based on the retaliation of so called “good” people.

What else are judgments built on but religious morals?
Where else did people get the idea that sexuality is wrong? But overpopulating a planet that is already teaming over with too many people, in a “sanctified” marriage bed is all so right?

From where else but religion do people get the right to Judge people so harshly so as to hurt them back by firing them or refusing to continue using their services? Even though before the “awful, dirty, sinful” picture, they were providing them with what they wanted and needed.

Hurting people by alienation is one passive aggressive action
Just look at all the aggressive ways people are hurt when the other thinks they are societally or religiously in error.

Where did I read “Judge not least ye be Judged”
From whom does the most judgement come from but from those that read the same book that said it is not preferable to do so?

What country does our very money make reference to the God thing. On the money for Krissakes!

I just jumped right in with the excuse many use to condemn sexuality, hiding behind God based morals (tell me morals aren’t religion based?) saying God doesn’t like it (in their mind)so I don’t. And if “we” don’t like you, you are in deep doo doo!

They want to or have to make it go away at all costs. To others as well as themselves.

I am fired up because I have nearly lost my life on many occasions, been downtrodden, beaten, harassed, talked about, laughed about etc. by those thinking they are “right” and they are “better” and God (or America_ is on their side).

I won’t say why this has happened, because I am afraid of you and if you can put me in your category of “this person is wrong so I can hurt them,” you will hurt me too.

To those who walk in Peace, Non Judgement, and Love, thank you to you all.

I look at it like, loveless, greedy people and their oppressive and dangerous religious beliefs are the coal and pressure needed to create diamonds!

I’m neither religious or necessarily over moral, so I give myself liberty to rant and judge judgers, making me a living contradiction to everything I believe in.

giggle

Peace

Whoa!

@BeckyKytty Um, you have not been here very long. Most of us are atheist liberals. Those of us who said we think it is a bad idea for a profile picture spoke to how we thought most people would perceive that photo. That is a sexual photo. If she is fine with that, ok by me, but she should not be naive, or think people should not care, she is not being honest if she thinks that photo is the same as a buttoned up shirt and slacks standing up straight with a nice big happy smile. I am not questioning her morals, it has nothing to do with God, it has tp do with using judgement amd understand our culture. I agree our culture can be too puritanical, but even in my atheist world dressing appropriately matters to some extent.

Ironically one of the people I went back and forth with on this thread, somewhat defending the photo is a Christian and theist.

Wow! 97 answers later lol

@chelle21689 Be glad you didn’t waste your time like I did. =)

I wouldn’t because it just doesn’t reflect my personality.