For guys, What is the first thing you see in a lady that attracts you to her?

I’m not a guy, but I think I know the answer to this one…...it’s breasts, bums or legs…..although eyes is the more ‘acceptable’ answer..

@wildflower you made me crack up!! well although this is the answer most of times, is not always the case b/c if I see a lady with big breasts but ugly face, I won’t go for her

But that doesn’t mean it’s not the breasts that attract you when you actually are attracted….it just means the rest is not completely irrelevant.

if I were attracted to women, she’d have to have a beautiful smile and be cute.
Same goes for my attraction for guys ;)

@TheHaight you are more in line with forward and intelligent choices. face and smile are also important.
@wildflower I guess you may be right that the first thing I may see are the breasts or her hips, or legs but I wouldn’t settle with that alone.

you didn’t ask what to ‘settle’ for…

@wildflower I got to give you credit for that, sorry

lips, hips and fingertips.

for you gals, are there any other things your guys were attracted to you?

anything ending with…..ips, huh!! interesting

I have already answered that

Face.

A nice face and well rounded “assets.”

Breasts, butt and then eyes.

I knew it!......‘assets’

Begger’s can’t be chooser’s. I think, I sense if someone has a spark about them.

It all starts with the face, unless I’m totally shit-faced.
Then, who knows, I might be like the guy in the avatar.

Yeah, starts with the face for me too.

The expression is : Eyes are the windows to the soul; NOT eyes are the windows of love.

Just had to clear that up.

@glial thanks for making that clear, I knew I was close
@wildflower You knew it all along huh!! “well rounded assets”

ya, ya…...face, eyes, nose…...don’t tell me you lads haven’t turned your head at a lady that you didn’t see the face of….

especially when she knows what she got is valuable marketing “asset” and she wears sexy outfits with the sole purpose to attract onlookers. I remember driving on the I-5 I almost had an accident, but now I’m cured

It is the eyes and smile that “attract” me. The body can be what it may, the attitude will shape it’s allure in the end. I have seen what would be generally accepted as attractive women become ugly when they speak and some plain women become astounding when you get to speak with them.
What is wrong with breasts anyway. Is it not a bit assuming to think just because a guy notices them he judges the woman on them?

Don’t people do the same thing with clothing?

You know….I’m impressed so many of you challenge my statement of it coming down to the ‘3 basic assets’...

Personality goes a LONG way. Then probably intellect. Then her smile. Then energy level. Sense of humour. Overall physical appearance. Specific body parts (eyes, hips, butt). Big breasts are a particular turn off for me, not really sure why everyone is so fixated on them.

It depends on how you ask this kind of question.

For “What is the first thing you see in a lady that attracts you to her?”, literally, it’s whatever the first attractive thing I see is. If a woman’s hair looks nice from where I am behind her, I can be attracted to that at first, for example. So anything I see first, since practically all parts are potentially attractive.

Seems very meaningless to ask that though unless it’s an abstract research question, since the person with the pretty hair can turn around and be someone I’m not attracted to.

If the question is really more like, “what about a woman I’ve just met gets me attracted and actually romantically interested in her” then it’s who she’s being, which is mostly about the eyes and facial expressions, especially when she’s looking at me.

Some fairly large fraction of the female population is merely “attractive”, but only a few of those am I actually attracted to. Physical stuff might determine the first part, but what they’re like determines the second part.

her positive aura…..

The most attractive thing a woman can have is a beautiful smile…