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Jude's avatar

Easiest ways to find someone using the web?

Asked by Jude (32131points) April 10th, 2012

Back in my early 20’s (I’m almost 40), I dated a guy for three years. Almost married him. His name is awfully common and I can’t seem to find him on the web. Any suggestions?

I have tried Facebook, but, like I said, his name is common and there are too many to go through. I tried a few family members on FB and they didn’t show up.

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SpatzieLover's avatar

Have you tried Pipl.com?

I can find almost anyone on Pipl

gailcalled's avatar

If you know several of his close relatives, you can get a two-week free trial period on http://www.geni.com/home and poke around there. The other good one is ancestry.com

I found my grandfather’s grandfather in a Lithuanian schtetl with that method. It’s amazing what people chart and research.

lillycoyote's avatar

I know, it’s hard. I didn’t think my name was all that common but there are 35 of me on Facebook. :-) Though, of all the “mes: on http://Pipl.com/, the site @SpatzieLover suggests, none of them were me.

You might try http://www.linkedin.com/. There seem to be a lot of people on there or, if you maybe know what high school or college he attended you might try one of the alumni sites.

Also, if you know anyone who might have access to Lexis/Nexis (http://www.lexisnexis.com/en-us/home.page) and would be willing to search for him that might be an option.

Jeruba's avatar

If you can remember any other particulars—middle name, place of birth, date of birth, where he went to high school, etc.—there are several other routes you can take. For example, try Classmates.com if you know where and when he graduated from high school, or if you can remember a sibling’s name who might be listed there even if he isn’t.

Another option is to dredge out of your memory the name of a friend of his, someone whose name is not common. I found an old high school friend that way: the friend’s name was common, but his best buddy’s wasn’t. A search on the buddy’s name took me right to his web page, and there was his photo, still eminently recognizable, along with a little sidebar about our hometown. So I knew I had the right guy. And it turned out that nearly 40 years later, he and my old friend were still in touch.

I also know of an outstanding research service that performs searches for a fee. A very reliable and resourceful researcher runs the service. He has access to nonpublic records and helped me locate an update on someone I hadn’t seen in more than 30 years…unfortunately a year too late to find him alive. It looks like he’s still in business right here: xooxleanswers.

janbb's avatar

@Jeruba Can you give me (pm is fine) an idea of how much that person charges. There is someone I have been trying to find who has a verv ycommon name.

gambitking's avatar

well, most stalkers people (lol, jk) use Facebook as you surmised, but if it’s a common name, you’ll want the help of images. Head over to Google and search for their name in the Images section and start there. Look to see if any pics pop up. If not, just do a regular Google search using parameters you know (his school, city, state, etc). You can also refine your search in Facebook. This person might actually have a minimal ‘signature’ on the web radar, and may not even have a FB account or Twitter, and just be out of sight, so it might be a tricky one.

Jude's avatar

John Robinson, Ontario Canada, age 39 and born on August 8th. Wallaceburg, ON.

Mom was Patricia Fortney. Dad was Pete Robinson. Sister was Lynn.

I’m still having a rough time.

SpatzieLover's avatar

Is this the type of work he was in? (middle initial would be helpful, too)

Jude's avatar

His middle name is Alexander.

Jude's avatar

He went to Lambton College and went to school for Instrumentation.

Jude's avatar

@SpatzieLover I can’t see that being him.

Jeruba's avatar

Send him a letter in care of the alumni office of his alma mater. Put the year of graduation on it if you know it: John Alexander Robinson ‘92 (for example). It’ll be forwarded if they have a current address.

SpatzieLover's avatar

Found one such man in Wallacebug on Canada 411

Possible tweet of him winning something over a year ago

SpatzieLover's avatar

If you join Linkedin you could see all 73 guys with the same name in Canada. Here is the list you can see without joining. At least there you can see photos & college/career.

I think this must be more difficult due to this being a Canada search @Jude. Here in the States I can view public records. I don’t see where to do that for free from CA.

Buttonstc's avatar

Herb is on to something there with the college. I used that info a few years ago and contacted the college from which she graduated.

But I didn’t bother with snail mail. I don’t remember whether I called them or emailed but i explained that I understood that they weren’t allowed to give out info like that. So I just gave th my email and other contact info and requested that they pass it on to her. Two days later she sent me an email and we’ve been in contact regularly ever since.

Jeruba's avatar

Who’s Herb?

gailcalled's avatar

^^^Est-il de provence?

Buttonstc's avatar

It’s the Android systems interpretation of Jeruba. Sorry about that. Switching between iPhone and Android tablet does have its pitfalls. But Gail will be happy to note that it doesn’t automatically insert an apostrophe every single time it sees the word ITS. You win some you lose some :)

DAMN YOU AUTOCORRECT ! !

janbb's avatar

Kind of think Herb is a cute nickname for Our Lady of Perpetual Grammar.

Buttonstc's avatar

@janbb

So, I shouldn’t bother correcting my tablet in the future? It will just be understood as our nickname for her, courtesy of Android?

janbb's avatar

Well, I think maybe Herb – err, Jeruba has to agree to that!

Jude's avatar

Still no luck.

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