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fuglyduckling's avatar

Do you think that love is an illusion?

Asked by fuglyduckling (412points) June 26th, 2014

Or not?

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janbb's avatar

I don’t know, I don’t know….

Dutchess_III's avatar

Well, it’s a chemical reaction, so the feeling is not an illusion. Whether it’s ‘love’ actually, is another question.

SecondHandStoke's avatar


It’s a chemical reaction.

Hypocrisy_Central's avatar

Love is no illusion, but an elusive emotion or attribute. Lust is a chemical reaction; it can have people dancing the horizontal mambo without an iota of love between them. Way too may not be able to tell love from lust and that it why it seems like an illusion.

Coloma's avatar

Yes, romantic love is mostly a chemical cocktail, the “meet, mate, procreate” dopamine rush that assists in the bonding of two people, usually combined with sexuality.
“True” love is nothing more than deep caring. Period. Be it caring for a human or animal, and not to be confused with the science and chemistry of sexual lust/love.

rory's avatar

probably, but what’s the difference? everything is an illusion.

Coloma's avatar

@rory Haha..ZING!

Dan_Lyons's avatar

@rory That’s very zen of you!

hominid's avatar

What do you mean when you ask if it’s an illusion? Do you mean that the emotional and physiological response that we label “love” is itself an illusion? I mean, it’s clear that there are different types of emotions that we label “love” (unconditional love of a child, romantic love, etc). And we know there are evolutionary explanations for such mechanisms – and the hormones involved (oxytocin), but that certainly doesn’t diminish our experience of what we call “love”. I’m not sure if you were heading in the direction of “understanding love at the level of biology diminishes it” (or something similar).

Anyway, hope that comes close to answering the question. If you had something else in mind, let us know.

Strauss's avatar

It depends on what your definition of love is. Is it deep affection, fondness, tenderness, warmth, intimacy, attachment, endearment, devotion, adoration, doting, idolization, worship, passion, ardor, desire, lust, yearning, infatuation, besottedness; compassion, care, caring, regard, solicitude, concern, friendliness, friendship, kindness, charity, goodwill, sympathy, kindliness, altruism, unselfishness, philanthropy, benevolence, fellow feeling, humanity; relationship, love affair, romance, liaison, affair of the heart, amour, beloved, loved one, love of one’s life, dear, dearest, dear one, darling, sweetheart, sweet, angel, honey, lover, inamorato, inamorata, amour, paramour, or someone one might care very much for, feel deep affection for, hold very dear, adore, think the world of, be devoted to, dote on, idolize, worship, be in love with, be infatuated with, be smitten with, be besotted with, be mad/crazy/nuts/wild about, have a crush on, or carry a torch for?

Coloma's avatar

@Yetanotheruser Dude…please tell my your’re not that needy. lol
Besotted scares me. hahaha

rojo's avatar

”....But we decide which is right
And which is an illusion.”

Coloma's avatar

Who sang that? Gah…no fair!

Strauss's avatar

“Late Lament” Moody Blues

@Coloma I’m not needy at all. I am very loved! But what I put in that post was a “Whole Lotta Love”!

Coloma's avatar

@Yetanotheruser I was just razzing you. ;-) YES! Moody Blues. Thanks!

livelaughlove21's avatar

Love as a feeling is just like any other feeling. If you think happiness or remorse is an illusion then yes, love probably is as well.

Love is also something you do, which is a whole other question.

Blackberry's avatar

No that’s silly. Everyone knows…..LOVE HUUUURRRTS.

Blackberry's avatar

I really learned a lot! Reeeaaally learned a lot! Loooooooove is like a flame….

Coloma's avatar

Oh what the hell…fall into the illusion. lol

Coloma's avatar

Oh forget it, youtube glitch or? Pffft!

pleiades's avatar

Love is as real the sun will engulf the earth one day

Mimishu1995's avatar

Yes. It’s an illusion when you get so blind you can do anything for it, even murder in many senses, and/or when you force someone to love you even though they don’t.

Dan_Lyons's avatar

We all know, Love Is A Battlefield!

fuglyduckling's avatar

These answers are making me dizzy :P I want to lay on a rooftop and think all night.

maybellekim's avatar

no love is true and full of mysteries. :)

Dutchess_III's avatar

No mystery. You fall in love then find out he/she is really a douche bag, and then you fall out of love.

Strauss's avatar

Some say love, it is a river that drowsy the tender reed…

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