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How do I find out what I want?

Asked by RedDeerGuy1 (17704points) March 4th, 2016

I read used text books for fun. I like ordering books from Amazon. I don’t know what to do with my life. I thought I could go back to university but I can only come up with getting a pH. D. In Arts or general studies. I am certain that when I come up with a plan that God will provide motivation. For the longest time I thought that I would become a psychiatrist or psychologist. I don’t know if it is what I want anymore. Trying for an eternity; banging my head against the roadblocks forever seems dumb now. I asked for help and the advice I get is to focus on the now and get in shape and to take care of myself. Fluthers advice is to go outside and walk and I do the best that I can. I don’t like walking outside.

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LornaLove's avatar

I am not sure how old you are, but perhaps try working for a year or two. Work and everyday life somehow has a way of telling you where you should not be and once you know that, understanding your true calling is easier.

It is a luxury really, being able to find your true calling. For me, it was always the issue of paying the rent first.

NerdyKeith's avatar

Perhaps you should try do some volunteer work; to see if you find inspiration there.

Mimishu1995's avatar

I don’t like walking outside.

Well it’s time you fought that attitude if you ever want to change anything. Nobody really knows what they want in life until they try something, and that something may not be around your home. You have to try to know what you want and don’t want. Just like an explorer, you don’t know what treasure you are going to find. You have to make a wild guess and head for the best direction first.

ibstubro's avatar

Well, what have you accomplished so far?

I don’t understand how God is going to provide motivation if He’s lacking in inspiration?

RedDeerGuy1's avatar

@ibstubro Inspiration sounds good. Where can I get some of that?

marinelife's avatar

What about indoor walking? You can walk around a mall or a gym.

dappled_leaves's avatar

“I am certain that when I come up with a plan that God will provide motivation.”

This will not happen. Either you will motivate yourself to do something, or you won’t do it. It really is that simple.

It sounds to me like you are losing hope because your expectations don’t match the will that you have to do [insert thing here]. So, you set a lofty goal, then do no work, and are greatly disappointed when nothing happens.

You are going to need to find a way to be content with the life that you live, and/or set realistic goals that don’t send you reeling from disappointment to disappointment.

I think this is why you repeatedly get advice to do things like “go for walks outside”. This is a straightforward, reasonable goal, and a healthy activity. It may also make you happier (endorphins will do that), and generally improve your quality of life.

What about @marinelife‘s suggestion that you walk indoors? You get almost all the same benefits, and it would probably be less anxiety-inducing for you.

MollyMcGuire's avatar

Join the Army and be all you can be. You’ll come out all grown up and ready for something.

ibstubro's avatar

Volunteer.
It will get you out of the house and expose you to new people, places and ideas.

You don’t know what you want to do because you have exhausted your known options. Expand your experience, expand your options.

Soup kitchen, library, thrift store…who know who you might meet and where it might lead?
What good is sitting alone in your room?

Come. Hear the music play.
Life is a cabaret, old chum.
Come to the cabaret.

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