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What is the law of attraction?

Asked by NerdyKeith (5489points) March 26th, 2016

Any more to the point, is there any credibility within the concept of this law?

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Espiritus_Corvus's avatar

“The law of attraction is the name given to the maxim “like attracts like” which in New Thought philosophy is used to sum up the idea that by focusing on positive or negative thoughts a person brings positive or negative experiences into their life.”

LoL. “New Thought”. What will they think of next.

It’s not very scientific, but it works for me.

The observation that birds of like plumage hang out together is nothing new. The fact that humans are hard-wired for discrimination out of defense and are more comfortable among their own cultures is nothing new. The fact that life is easier if your SO and you share many of the same opinions is nothing new. The idea that Spencer Tracy and Katherine Hepburn live happily ever after in Adam’s Rib is something new.

The second part about positive thinking is nothing new either.

“Positive thinking is a mental technique, that must be practiced wisely. It should not be misused to repress feelings or problems. Positive thinking must used sensitively and healingly. Wikipedia: Optimism is a mental attitude that interprets situations and events as being best (optimized).”

Yeah. That works for me, too.

ragingloli's avatar

I think it is pure nonsense.
I mean, you have “laws” like “like attracts like”, at the same time you have “laws” that state “opposites attract”.
Two “laws” that contradict each other, yet considered equally true.

Ugh.
Even Anime Dating Sims are more realistic.

Coloma's avatar

What @Espiritus_Corvus said. Like attracts like, more often than not.
Positive thinking is a good trait to possess but being emotional beings we also need to allow for negative emotions/feelings to happen without self judgment because judgement is negative in itself. Since emotions are energy it stands to reason one will catch more flies with honey rather than vinegar and like attracts like works on the emotional energy level as well. Behave aggressively towards someone you are likely to receive aggression back.

Act kindly to someone and you will draw kindness back to you. Of course, this may not work with a psychopath holding an axe over your head, but, in general, this philosophy is more true than it is false. Our thoughts create our feelings, this is very true and we can pretty much talk ourselves into or out of a lot of either positive or negative emotions based on the thoughts we keep.

Rarebear's avatar

Rags is right. It’s absolute bullshit. Unless, of course you’re talking about the attraction of two oppositely charged magnetic bipoles.

JLeslie's avatar

Much like Murphy’s Law, it’s not really a hard and fast law. It’s more like a simple way to explain what has happened when it fits.

imrainmaker's avatar

I don’t think attraction happens based on any law…it just happens between two individuals without any logic.

Coloma's avatar

@imrainmaker We’re not talking about romantic attraction, we’re talking about the law of attraction in general, how ones attitude can either help or hinder them, draw positive things, people, experiences to them or repel them based on their level of positive thinking vs. negative.

Strauss's avatar

@Espiritus_Corvus mentioned something in his post above about New Thought. The law of attraction seems to be a central tenet of the New Thought movement, which may include such denominations organizations as Centers for Spiritual Living, among others.

imrainmaker's avatar

OK..from that sense yes people with similar tendencies / liking will attract because they’ll have some common ground to talk about.

Lawn's avatar

TLDR: yep, it’s nonsense.

The Law of Attraction was popularized by a 2006 self-help book called The Secret. It is one of the best-selling self-help books ever with 19 million copies sold globally.

The author claims that as we think, a corresponding frequency is sent out into the universe which attracts events and circumstances on the same frequency. Proponents of the supposed law claim that desirable outcomes such as better health, wealth, and happiness can be attracted simply by changing our thoughts and feelings.

Don’t get me wrong, positive thinking can be beneficial, but the concept alone doesn’t sell books, so the author invented The Law of Attraction as an intellectually dishonest marketing ploy. Here is an excellent explanation of this by user longhorn24 who reviewed the book on Amazon:

“Robert Cialdini, renowned psychology researcher and author of Influence: The Power of Persuasion (perhaps the best book ever written on the subject) identifies six basic rules employed by politicians, advertisers and scam artists alike to persuade others. Each of them are employed quite adeptly by Rhonda Byrne in this book.

Cialdini’s first principle is SCARCITY; people want what’s expensive, exculsive, or otherwise unattainable. Byrne’s mastery of this principle is clearly shown by the very name of the book: The Secret. We all learned this the first week of kindergarten as we felt the jealousy of watching two classmates, hands cupped over ears, sharing a secret out of earshot.

This message is reinforced throughout the book and its advertising campaign which pitches “The Secret” (whatever it actually is) as jealousy-guarded information hoarded by the happy, wealthy and successful. Whenever someone tries convincing you of something, whether it’s a way to make enormous sums of money, to lose weight, etc – be wary of when it’s pitched as “the knowledge THEY don’t want you to have.” Think about it – everything from the “secrets that Wall Street doesn’t want you to know” to “uncovered – celebrities’ secrets to staying young” are phrased not simply to pique your interest but to make you jealous. Appeals to our emotion are far more powerful than appeals to reason, and Byrne demonstrates mastery of this principle throughout “The Secret.”

Cialdini’s second principle is LIKING. We like those who like us, and in turn, we do business with them. Positive thinking and emotional intelligence has been linked to strong interpersonal relationships, academic and professional success, and good health, but there is a fine line when positive thinking crosses over to unjustified exuberance. Instead of simply noting the substantial benefits of positive thinking (a well-accepted principle which wouldn’t sell books), Byrne crosses the line so blatantly that anyone with a modicum of modesty would find it blasphemous.

AUTHORITY is another Cialdini principle, also in play in “The Secret” in quite subtle ways. Another technique which differentiates this book from just another book of positive thinking is the heavy use of quasiscientific language, which gives the impression that the “law of attraction” is (or will become) an accepted scientific principle, just like the law of gravity or the law of attraction of oppositely-charged particles in chemistry. Many people are both intimidated and confused by the authority of science, a fact exploited by manipulators ranging from Byrne to peddlers of magic weight-loss pills.

Since no respected physicist would ever publish a paper on the universality of the “law of attraction,” Byrne indirectly seeks experts in other ways. She attributes the success of people ranging from Einstein to Beethoven to adherence of “The Secret,” thereby manufacturing experts. After all, if Einstein and Shakespeare mastered “The Secret,” who are YOU to question it?

The last two Cialdini principles are CONSISTENCY and SOCIAL PROOF. The success of this book should leave little doubt it will be followed by more (and more expensive) forms of media peddling “The Secret.” The audio recordings, weekend seminars, advertising tie-ins, and other follow-up products certain to follow will exploit these two principles. Once people commit themselves to believing happiness will come from “The Secret,” they will attribute future successes, whether a promotion or a great new relationship, to adherence to it. Conversely, setbacks will be even more powerfully in committing people to “The Secret,” as people will attribute their failures to not living up to “The Secret” (and buying more of Byrne’s books). Consistency dictates it will be less painful to buy more books and immerse one’s self further into “The Secret” than to accept the whole premise is a quite ridiculous; while not as pernicious as a domineering cult, “The Secret” promises to charge you handsomely for a positive outlook on life.

Byrne’s book is problematic on many levels. On it’s face, it’s a manipulative marketing tool meant to flatter, confuse and deceive. It’s also pseudoscience at its best, the last thing we need to encourage in an increasingly technological world which requires healthy skepticism and critical thought. Most damaging, though, is how the book perverts reality by encouraging people to equate a positive outlook on life with a childish, idiotic narcissism.”

Coloma's avatar

@Lawn Agreed, OTOH though, if it helps someone get motivated and take back their personal power, well, that’s a positive. It is also nothing new. James Allen, who wrote ” As A Man Thinketh” way back in 1903 and many others, have touted this same concept of positive thinking. The old ” there is no new news under the sun applies here, ” The Secret” is ancient history. haha

Coloma's avatar

This stuff is also marketed to the first world, middle class type of people. The ones that already have more than enough most of the time. Do you really think that the starving mother of starving children in a 3rd world country is going to read ” The Secret” and manifest some sort of manna from heaven? I think not.

Lawn's avatar

Here is a clip from the movie version (yes, there’s a movie) of The Secret.

I put it in the same category as the marketing video on the Scientology homepage.

As an alternative to The Secret or Scientology, there is always Zone Theory. :P

Lawn's avatar

Ok, I don’t want to sound too negative. Here is a positivity video that I can get behind.
Rick Hanson: Understanding Neuroplasticity

NerdyKeith's avatar

@Lawn That Zone Theory video is hilarious haha

Lawn's avatar

@NerdyKeith Haha, yep.

@Coloma Exactly, the 3rd world country question actually came up once with regard to The Secret… Smile or Die

Coloma's avatar

@Lawn Hah! Great little video, yeah, those Tsunami victims must have been sending out Tsunami like vibes to the Universe. LMAO!

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