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lucillelucillelucille's avatar

What did you learn about yourself from your previous relationships?

Asked by lucillelucillelucille (29225points) 1 week ago

Anything?

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lucillelucillelucille's avatar

I meant this question to go in Social.

rebbel's avatar

I was too self-centered….

rebbel's avatar

I did, yes.
Once I came to that realization it’s ‘impossible’ to continue like that.
Very unfair, I feel.

JLeslie's avatar

I’m very loyal.

Loving someone risks the possibility of tremendous, debilitating, emotional pain.

That familiarity can be a stronger hold than love.

That I would never be with someone overly possessive.

That I don’t want to be with anyone who drinks or does drugs with any regularity.

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

@JLeslie -You’ve got that right! :)

elbanditoroso's avatar

About myself? That being myself is reasonable and proper.

About others? That women (at least my ex-wife) cannot be trusted. They talk a good game and do the opposite.

janbb's avatar

That I get too dependent on the person and in over my head. Probably why I’m not looking any more.

stanleybmanly's avatar

That I am too impulsive as well as stupidly unappreciative.

ucme's avatar

I ain’t touching this with a bargepole til it gets moved to social :D

ucme's avatar

@lucillelucillelucille Ahh go on then, seeing as it’s you.
Let’s just put it this way, I learned I could run fast & I mean like greased lightning.

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

@ucme -So you used to jog together!
Excellent way to stay in shape!

KNOWITALL's avatar

I learned that I’m attracted to smart men with smart mouths apparently…haha!

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

@KNOWITALL -I married one so I know what you mean!

Patty_Melt's avatar

I tended to emasculate men. I was tough, intelligent, and independent. I needed a mate who was secure enough to be not intimidated by that. Unfortunately my way of weeding out the wusses was mean, but I didn’t realize how much at the time. I left a lot of whimpering souls in my wake. I regret having been so overbearing.
On the other hand, I’m also a giver. For that I have been used a lot and tossed aside by unappreciative men.

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

@Patty_Melt -At least you know what you want.

RedDeerGuy1's avatar

Not to make myself a target.

jca2's avatar

I learned that it’s easier to not be in a relationship than to be in a bad relationship.

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