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lucillelucillelucille's avatar

Is it easy for you to forgive others?

Asked by lucillelucillelucille (32270points) 5 days ago

Truly?

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kritiper's avatar

It depends on what they did and what they knew at the time.

RedDeerGuy1's avatar

No. Not even myself. I never forget.

longgone's avatar

It’s very easy for me to forgive, but I don’t tend to forget when I’ve been badly hurt. My forgiveness is more about realising that everyone falls short of their ideals, that there’s always a backstory, and that the world would be a much better place if there were enough compassion to go around.

rebbel's avatar

So far, yes.

“Keep in mind that forgiving
is not for others.
It is for you.
Forgiving is not forgetting.
It is remembering without anger.
It frees up your power, heals your body, mind and spirit.”

LadyMarissa's avatar

Easy??? Nope!!! Can I do it??? With some work…YES. Sometimes it takes me a while to work through my hurt in order to get to the forgive stage. Fool me once, shame on you…fool me twice, shame on me…fool me 3 times, don’t bother to even explain because I don’t give a rat’s ass anymore & you’re out of here!!!

ARE_you_kidding_me's avatar

It is for me, always has been and it makes life so much easier when you don’t hold grudges. I try to understand what made people do the things they did and the events that lead up to whatever it is. Usually I find the circumstances don’t warrant any anger. When they do I treat that person more like a wild animal in the sense that I will change my behavior around them and not allow them to repeat what they have done. I.E.once I know someone is an asshole I do what I can to remove interactions with them like one would a snake in the woods.

snowberry's avatar

Some people are easier to forgive than others, but yes I can, As @rebbel said, forgiving is for you. What’s really rotten is when I find myself having to depend on the people who have hurt me in the past. That’s a tough job.

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

@ARE_you_kidding_me -That’s usually my approach as well.

ucme's avatar

Yeah, no sweat!
I make an exception with Santa though, he can kiss my shiny arse.

chyna's avatar

Usually, yes. But when I am done with whatever someone has done over and over, then I’m done with them. No looking back, but I don’t dwell on it.

LadyMarissa's avatar

@ucme Funny, I heard Santa say the same thing about you!!!

SergeantQueen's avatar

I forgive way to easily. Not good.

SergeantQueen's avatar

And yes. Truly forgive. I always want to make others happy despite how many times I’ve been screwed over because of it and I’m always the first to assume the best in people. I forgive hoping they’ve changed. They almost never do.

Jonsblond's avatar

Yes. There are only two people I can’t forgive and that’s my sister and her wife. They emotionally hurt my son at a very fragile point in his life. I will never forgive that. Don’t fuck with my children.

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ucme's avatar

@LadyMarissa I suspect that to be a lie of sorts! Now behave yourself, It’s most unbecoming :D

jca2's avatar

It depends on who it is and what they did.

I will often forgive and move on but will remember what occurred.

Coolhandluke's avatar

No. Sorry for the short answer but seriously. No.

LadyMarissa's avatar

@ucme I was behaving. I’m on Santa’s GOOD list…twas you I saw on the Naughty list!!! You should know by now that I would NOT lie to you!!! ; >}

cookieman's avatar

Same answer as @longgone, which I completely agree with.

Demosthenes's avatar

It is if they want to be forgiven. If they show remorse and apologize I can forgive really easily. It’s those situations where they’re not going to change and the forgiveness is purely on my part that it gets harder.

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

@Demosthenes -That’s where @ARE_you_kidding_me‘s approach serves me well.

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