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How have you grown since your first time on Fluther?

Asked by RedDeerGuy1 (20750points) March 6th, 2021

I started with incoherent long essays about what career to go to. Hoping that I could find the perfect university major and the perfect life.

Now mostly I ask simpler questions. Like domestic questions about preparing food and business questions.

I still don’t know what to do with my life, but at least I don’t have to do it alone.

Thanks Fluther for keeping me company, and helping me since I was TallJasperMan in 2009.

How have you grown?

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twoprimarycolorsmixedcanine's avatar

I’ve shrunk.
Got stupider.

Hawaii_Jake's avatar

I was living a very small life. I’m much bigger and more confident now. I was easily angered, and now I ignore a lot of stuff. I have a few good friends on this site who’ve seen the change.

janbb's avatar

I was married and not very happy. Now I’m divorced, much more independent and while not always happy, content a lot of the time.

KNOWITALL's avatar

I feel that I try harder to see a different point of view and argue less about why they are wrong. Thats big for me, as I love facts and also being right. :)

JLoon's avatar

Almost everyday I find more proof that casual sex is healthier and more productive than serious politics.

Thanks Fluther!!

Now for world domination…

Stache's avatar

I lost a ¼” and gained 7 lbs.

Mimishu1995's avatar

If I hadn’t found Fluther, right now I would be a boring person working in a job I don’t like. I would be an annoyingly intolerant/intolerable person with an inferior complex. My entire world would consist of my family, my workplace, and my friends who would be extremely toxic. I would stick to toxic people because it would be better than being alone, because I would be convinced that nobody would accept me other than them. I could have the ability to find new friends, but I would be too arrogant to branch out to new people who I deemed too lowly for me.

I would be aimlessly wandering through life with simple useless desires, knowing nothing about the world other than my immediate surrounding. Deep down inside I would know there is more to life, but I would be clueless as to how to discover my purpose.

I would be severely depressed because I had no one to talk to about my hope, dream, or pain. I would think I was just being whiny and my problems didn’t matter, because all I had would be my toxic friends who wouldn’t give a damn about my feeling.

I would also be extremely gullible and believe stuff on FB because I had never learned how to think for myself. My entire worldview would be dictated by things I see on FB. America would be a country I should hate because they invaded my country and they were all stupid. And everyone was out there to get me, and magic and supernatural phenomena were real because no one could prove otherwise and a FB page said so.

And also my English would suck a lot, which would also play a part in my distorted worldview and poor critical thinking.

It could be me in a parallel universe.

KNOWITALL's avatar

@Mimishu1995 Wow, that’s amazing.
Maybe sometime we can discuss the war, too. :D

Mimishu1995's avatar

@KNOWITALL Of course! My interaction with Fluther and my research on the Revolutionary War have taught me to be objective with history, as there are always several sides of the story. I have learned not to get emotional about it like a lot of people in my country :)

KNOWITALL's avatar

@Mimishu1995 For my generation (Gen X) most of our parents or uncles fought in that war and came back broken. It could be healing to see both sides, all this time later, for all of us. I love my Vietnamese friends so much, I just know I would love you, too. :)

Brian1946's avatar


Even though I served in the US Navy during the Vietnam War, I was never engaged in any combat. This is because I served in the Atlantic Fleet, which was never assigned to any activity in the Pacific ocean.

The closest I ever came to Vietnam while on duty was about 10,300 miles (16,480 KM), when we were in Quito, Ecuador. I actually live closer now that I’m a civilian: 7,800 miles (12,480 KM).

KNOWITALL's avatar

@Brian1946 Thank you for your service.

Mimishu1995's avatar

@Brian1946 someday our talk will include me, Knowitall and you :D

KRD's avatar

A little bit.

Demosthenes's avatar

I’d like to think I’ve grown quite a bit considering I was only 17 when I first posted (under a different name) and I’m now almost 30. I was still figuring out my life then, not even certain where I would attend college. I was also a lot less comfortable with my homosexuality as well (I didn’t come out to anyone until I was 18). That’s not to say I have it all together now, but I’ve become more self-aware and more introspective over the years and I know what I want out of life (for the most part). Although I went a few years without posting and I post on other sites now, it really all got going with this one.

cookieman's avatar


janbb's avatar

@cookieman Cookies are supposed to be round!

cookieman's avatar

@janbb: Oh, I’m getting there.

janbb's avatar

^^ Roll on down to Jersey and I’ll take a bite out of you. (Not meant in any sexual or flirtatious way of course. Wouldn’t want to spoil my chances of running for governor.)

ucancallme_Al's avatar

Thank goodness.

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