Why are people so weird around me when i'm with a girlfriend?

Let them stare. Chances are they wish they had what you have. People used to stare at my wife and I. I just assumed they were wondering what a pretty girl like her was doing with a guy like me. Don’t worry about it. It happens to everyone.

uh well based on your story there is no reason for it, so it must be how you look, smell, dress, or act. Or a combination of any of these. Maybe you could ask one of them what the deal is.

I kind of figured it was just because two girls are together and are a couple but I feel so uncomfortable being stared at everywhere I go by certain people..

I wouldn’t worry about it. If your girlfriend looks anything like you I bet they are just amazed.

Ah, yeah that’s probably why. Don’t let them bother you too much people are just rude and think they are some kind of saints. Maybe you should give them the same look they give you back.

stare right back at them!
make it REAL uncomfortable.
Then, they’ll come on fluther and ask about why a hot lady stared at them and made them feel really uncomfortable.
and then…. I’ll flag that question. I will flag the hell out of it. ;) ;) ;)

Assuming that she doesn’t have an odd number of heads or tentacles it is probably the two girls thing. Some people might be surprised and I probably don’t have to tell you that some people might judge you guys. Which sucks because the world doesn’t always make it easy for people, but we love you! :) It also might bum them out that you two are taken and that they might not have a shot at your happiness.

I love this! you guys make me feel good!:D

I know it makes me sad when I see gorgeous taken guys. And if your avatar picture is you, well then, you really can’t blame all the angry people. If I were a boy I’d be irritated that you were going out with a pretty girl, because that would mean that you weren’t going out with me. Pity them. You win. Lucky duck.

There’s always going to be haters; don’t pay attention to them.

If this is your real photo, and your girlfriend looks anything like you, I doubt the stares are “disgusted” ;)

They just seem like it to me, I don’t know if i’m taking it the wrong way, how do i put a picture of my girlfriend on here so you all can see my lady:) that sounds corny.. Oh well

I wish I had someone for people to judge me and stare at me with.

urrm, no image hosting, only linking to outside sources like Flickr or something….

Careful, you gonna make people drool ;)

Aww i wanted you guys to see, so there’s really no way i can show?

only if you put them on Google or Flickr and put a link in here…..

unfortunately!!!

@megs Put her photo on a link so we can see.

Yep i’m doing that right now i just don’t know how to do a link thing on this:S

Can anyone tell me how?:)

For the time being, there are still many people who are uncomfortable with PDA between same-sex couples. I hope those people will come to their senses soon.

Megs, you can post your photo and hers on our Photobucket page.
Once you have done that, just let us know on this question, and we can check you guys out. ;-)

All done! its on that photobucket thing you told me to do.

http://s687.photobucket.com/albums/vv231/meegs21/

the first 4 is my girlfriend last 2 is me.:D

Wait, who’s disgusted?

Anybody i see looking at me looks disgusted..:S

Did you all see the pictures?
Sorry it took so long.

Very nice pics.

Ever hear the saying, there’s two sides to every coin? When private meets public, it works both ways, though differently. What I mean is you and your partner never come to the public experience empty of thought because you have a past that is somehow connected to your present self. Likewise for the gawkers. For every eye, notion, response—there is history. You have your reasons and they have theirs. Imagine this: the two of you are walking by someone who scowls (can’t spell) in your direction. You think, “I am with her and everybody ELSE seems to notice.” Even if this is true, this does not mean the lowered eyebrows are meant for you.

If you think others need to be careful of how they respond in public, maybe you and your girlfriend can work on how you interact/act as well. Healthy compromise can settle future frustrations.

*Nothing said by me is to be taken as judgement. It’s called perspective taking.

People tend to be retarded when confronted with something outside of their social paradigm.

Oh yeah, I’m sure the geezers staring at you think “OH SO DISGUSTING” hahaaaaaa.

I don’t care what people say, no man in the world thinks two girls are disgusting :)

Everyone has missed the one question that can provide a lot of insight – @megs, where do you live? If your profile is correct and you live in Canada, that’s a bit different from if you live in Afghanistan :)

Regardless, they are either staring because you are beautiful (very true) and are sad they cannot get with you, or because they think girls dating girls is a sin or abhorrent. To them, I say eff off. If you are happy, that’s all that matters! Life’s too short to care about what strangers think of you and your girlfriend. Just know that some of it, I would say most of it if you live in Canada (but maybe less if you live in Alberta, the “America” of Canada) is outright jealously. I say this based on my personal experience with Canada as well as people of all types who live here. While some people, especially the elderly, find homosexuality offensive, the vast majority don’t see any problem with it and thus disgust would not be the primary cause for their looks. So when you see someone doing this, just smile to yourself, for you have won over them, you take their hate and deflect it while also observing it and thus taking away any power it has.

And if by any chance you live in Alberta… consider moving to another city that embraces your lifestyle a bit more if you wish to reduce or eliminate the looks of disgust. Montreal’s just a bit too spicy in my opinion, but if spice is what you like, it has plenty for you. I can’t recommend Toronto as I detest the city, but it is the biggest, many lifestyles going on there. Ottawa, my city, is much calmer and a bit slower than Toronto or Vancouver, but has plenty of fun activities and is very welcoming.

@megs: After reading over you other questions; maybe they’re confused because they saw you last week with a guy? So in reality, they may be perplexed and not really judging you.

The people are starring at your good looks. The look of disgust is jealousy, from women who wish they had those looks.

I’m sorry people stare at you. Maybe it’s the area you live in, because where I live, same sex couples don’t even get noticed. It’s just something you have to be proud of and deal with.

@megs: This, and some other answers you’ve posted seem very contrary to each other.

Hmm, I’m not really understanding. Did you mean “girlfriend” as in a friend that is a girl? Maybe we all misinterpreted as a girlfriend that you are dating. I do refer to my friends as “girlfriends” as well. I’m trying to give you the benefit of the doubt.

Tag says bisexual…

I am not saying that there is anything wrong with it, but I bring this up since you express concern with the staring.

Are you and your girlfriend doing a lot of PDAs? That will make people stare whether it is two girls or a heterosexual couple.

I don’t know if maybe you live in a small town, sometimes smaller towns are a little more conservative.
I’ve walked down many streets with many girls in many different cities, and we don’t get disgusted looks unless we are acting rediculous.
When two people of the same sex are holding hands or showing affection in public, there will be reactions. Unfortunately not everyone in the world agrees with it even though it’s none of their buisness. This happens to all sorts of people, not just same sex couples. Most people face discrimination at one time or another.
I have a feeling you may be seeking the attention if the reactions are consistently extreme. If you are looking for a reaction you will get one. Possibly its because you and your friend behave poorly.
Just my opinion.

Just jealousy! Let ‘em eat their hearts out!!!

I only see two pictures, yet 4 are mentioned?

@bythebay Hmmm, interesting…

I can never tell if people are staring at me because I am holding my wife’s hand or if they are staring at all my tattoos. Either way, if people are excessive I always give them a “can I help you?”. A lot of people don’t realize they are staring.

@tinyfaery: Teehee, I never imagined that you’d have so many tattoos with a username like “tinyfaery.” It makes me like you EVEN MORE :D