General Question

essieness's avatar

Are there any personality traits you wish you had but don't?

Asked by essieness (7693points) March 23rd, 2009

Here’s mine:

I wish I was witty. You know, AstroChuck and Asmonet style. I don’t have it.

Observing members: 0 Composing members: 0

55 Answers

syz's avatar

I wish I was a morning person (is that a personality trait?). I’d love to be able to wake up in the morning and have energy and enthusiasm.

VS's avatar

Maybe not really a personlity trait, but I do wish I had some kind of (ANY kind of) musical talent.

adreamofautumn's avatar

I wish I could just take things in stride without letting them rile me up.
and @syz I agree with that morning person thing!

essieness's avatar

@syz I do too… As I type this I’m having my first cup of coffee for the day.

AstroChuck's avatar

Yeah. I’d like to be light-hearted. I wish I wasn’t so damn serious all the time.
But whuddya gonna do?

Judi's avatar

Keeping order. I am a little to much of a free spirit and smell the roses a bit to much. I wish I saw more value in laundry and dishes.

jeanna's avatar

I wish I was known as the “nice one”. I’ve never had that quality, apparently.

aprilsimnel's avatar

I wish I weren’t so self-conscious IRL. Or ruminative. Too much thinking and not enough doing – because I’m so self-conscious, hey, whaddya know! :P

janbb's avatar

Courage and more determination. I feel like I’m too fearful of many things and that I give up too easily – or just don’t work hard enough at them.

jeanna's avatar

@AstroChuck I’ve been told that I am way too serious for my own good, oh well!

adreamofautumn's avatar

@jeanna you’ll learn in time that Astrochuck is about as far from “too serious” as you can get. :). He’s a witty-one (as referenced by @essieness in her details of this question!).

jeanna's avatar

@adreamofautumn Ah, gotcha! I’m brand-new to the site, so it’ll be nice learning everyone’s personalities.

essieness's avatar

@jeanna You’ll have a lot of fun getting to know everyone… Welcome!

adreamofautumn's avatar

@jeanna like @essieness you’ll have a lot of fun getting to know everybody. Welcome to the collective! :)

kenmc's avatar

I wish I would have more confidence. Unoriginal, yes but it’s true.

EmpressPixie's avatar

Ease of socialization, please. I can be friendly and chatty online, but in person I’m very… socially awkward. I’d love to have it easier.

Aethelwine's avatar

I’m too nice most of the time. I wish I could learn to say no and not feel bad about it and second guess myself.

jeanna's avatar

@boots The thing is, we can have more confidence or be nicer or whatever. At least these are things we can control.

A_Beaverhausen's avatar

yea, i wish i didnt get so nervous. i stutter a lot. lol.

essieness's avatar

@A_Beaverhausen Aw hunnie! I do that some when I get overexcited and start talking really fast.

A_Beaverhausen's avatar

exactly. when im really into something, i get really passionate about it and stuble over my words.

EmpressPixie's avatar

@A_Beaverhausen: I stutter verrry rarely. But my boyfriend (who I am referring to so often today, I’m tempted to go undercover and call him a friend instead) stutters as part of his personal dialect—which is to say, on purpose. I’ve noticed my (non-purposeful) stuttering has gone up since knowing him. Luckily, I can camo it as his kind.

A_Beaverhausen's avatar

its not so bad anymore, after being in musicals in high school, it kinda of eased my stage fright.

A_Beaverhausen's avatar

but when giving speeches i have a tendancy to say ‘um’ a lot

essieness's avatar

@A_Beaverhausen I always lose the word I’m looking for when I’m speaking. I’m a much better writer than speaker.

Hey, maybe I should add that to my list of personality traits I wish I had.

Aethelwine's avatar

@A_Beaverhausen
@essieness I’m the same way. Once I was in a heated argument with my husband and I got so nervous and upset (I hate confrontation) that I just came up with a terrible reply. I yelled “you fuckin fucker fucker fuck”. It became a new saying at his work the following day. sorry for so many f-bombs

A_Beaverhausen's avatar

@jonsblond ha! i love it. yea, being an only child, i hate confrontation too. i just get really pissed. lol. my boyrfrind puts up with a lot. hehe!

essieness's avatar

@jonsblond I also hate confrontation for that very reason! My ex husband and I once got into it over something he wanted to buy (that something was going to require a loan) and I just couldn’t express to him in words why I wasn’t on board with the idea. I actually had to write him a letter and number off each reason so I could get my point across. He laughed as he read it, but ultimately, I won! It’s so frustrating though to become frozen like that in an argument.

Mr_M's avatar

Actually, no. I like the package of traits I have.

_Liz's avatar

I’m satisfied with the ones I have

Ender's avatar

A little modesty wouldn’t hurt.

tinyfaery's avatar

Follow through. I give up to easily.

3or4monsters's avatar

self discipline.

adreamofautumn's avatar

@Ender I have that issue too haha.

marinelife's avatar

I wish I was a little more open and trusting.

Ender's avatar

@adreamofautumn
It happens to the best of us.

AstroChuck's avatar

@ender- Modesty is overrated. Look at me. My modesty is second to none. I’d trade it all to be less important. That way I could fit in more.

augustlan's avatar

Like @3or4monsters, self-discipline sums it up nicely. I have zero motivation most of the time, and it affects everything in my life! If I only had some self-discipline, maybe my house would be clean, my taxes done, and that book written. Sigh.

sdeutsch's avatar

I wish I was better at making small talk. I would love to be one of those people who can engage anyone in conversation, but I’m just too shy – unless I know someone really well, I can never think of anything to say. I’m a little bit in awe of those socially-adept people…

Bluefreedom's avatar

My idiosyncracies fit me well so I really don’t have much to add to that. If I had to pick something, I guess I’d like to feel more comfortable meeting new people and engaging in conversations with them right from the start. In essence, being a little less shy I suppose.

cak's avatar

I can be a tad controlling, at times. I would love to just let that go, but then I wouldn’t be in control! See the problem?

JellyB's avatar

Many! I wish i were funny, and more talkative, and less shy, and more confident, and not so lazy, and more patient and tolerant, and more caring towards those i don’t know.

Judi's avatar

@cak; That’s funny because you think your to controlling and I feel like I lack control. Put us together and we would probably have the perfect person!

cak's avatar

@Judi now we need to resolve the east coast/ west coast issue and we’ll have it made!

Dutchess12's avatar

@JellyB you wish you were funny and more talkative and less shy? OH PULEASE!!!

Dutchess12's avatar

@cak Well….somebody has to be in control, and it might as well be us, right!? Or….my Mom.

JellyB's avatar

@DutchCat LOL! ‘Tis true! If we ever meet, you’ll be surprised! ;P

cak's avatar

@DutchCat – oh…..I’m contemplating sharing control. I’m sure my husband would get a kick out of the idea. or he’ll faint. He knows what a control freak I truly am!

Dutchess12's avatar

cak…LOL!! But, we know the men can’t REALLY handle it!! So we must maintain it, right?!

cak's avatar

@DutchCatNo, they can’t, but every now and then, we need to let them pretend that they can. ;~)

jo_with_no_space's avatar

I wish I had true patience and more tact.

OpryLeigh's avatar

I wish I wasn’t quite so neurotic, paranoid, scared, impatient, insecure ( my list could go on!)

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

Patience!I’m good with kids,not so with adults.

Answer this question

Login

or

Join

to answer.

This question is in the General Section. Responses must be helpful and on-topic.

Your answer will be saved while you login or join.

Have a question? Ask Fluther!

What do you know more about?
or
Knowledge Networking @ Fluther