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How do I prove to someone ?

Asked by kayysamm (435points) April 3rd, 2009

How can I prove to someone that I’m worth his time ? That what we have is good and he can’t just throw it all away.

My ex and i were together a long time and spent alot of time together. We soon got sick of one another so we decided to give one another space. It helped alot for our relationship because I got to do what I wanted to do, as well as he did. But now the little thigns I do makes him tick. He treats me like his girlfriend still, but at the same time treats me like shit and talks about me to all his friends.

It’s like he is two different people. I just want to show him that we are good together and he needs to realize that, how can i get that through to him.

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cak's avatar

Why would you want to be with someone that treats your poorly and talks about you – I’m guessing poorly, around his friends?

You don’t do anything to prove you are worthy of his lousy way of treating people. What you do, is move on. Eventually, you will meet someone else, and hopefully someone that treats you much better than he does.

Please understand that you deserve to be treated in a respectful way, and what you described, is not respectful.

kayysamm's avatar

Moving on would most liekly be the best things to do. It’s hard to let go- I guess.

It’s like i want to give him one more shot to show things can be good and dandy. And if he can’t see that I have to leave.

Lupin's avatar

So let me get this straight. You’re friends with benefits, he treats you poorly, and you want to give him another chance? That sound like the setup for an abusive realtionship.
Grow a pair and dump the SOB. That would prove you were worth it. Clearly he is not.

dynamicduo's avatar

You already gave each other space to have a second try, based on your question.

Don’t waste your time with someone who doesn’t want and crave to be with you. You should not have to be the one to figure out why he’s being two different people!! The bottom line, he’s not treating you with respect. That to me is the #1 deal breaker.

cak's avatar

@kayysamm – It’s done. No more chances. You want something that is not there. Don’t hang around waiting to get hurt, again, by him. This is not the person for you.

He will never see that there is something there – believe me on this one. Just walk away. Don’t text him, call him or seek him out. It doesn’t do anything except make you look desperate. I think you are above that, right?

I know it sucks, but it happens. Just walk away from the entire situation.

qualitycontrol's avatar

He should be the one to prove to you he is worth your time. Leave the jerk and go for a nice guy.

basp's avatar

You deserve better.

kayysamm's avatar

@qualitycontrol: Your right. He should be the one proving to me that he is worth my time. I don’t know it’s like I feel if he would just open his eyes and stop being a prick he could get his head straight.

All you guys say the same thing, that I should walk away. Which trust me I’ve tried and I’m trying to do it in the most mature way I can. But sometimes I crack and give him to him.

@lupin: no, we are not friend with benfits. We are friends that see each other when we were are in a large group of our friends. Other then that I try not to see him.

veronasgirl's avatar

I know it’s hard to walk away from someone that you have strong feelings for. But trust me, as someone who has done it. It IS going to be hard, but you will feel so much better about yourself and you will be happier without him.

kayysamm's avatar

I think every one one here is right. Walking away may be the best thing, but also the hardest !

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