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Have you ever just felt like your getting sick of being with your S.O?

Asked by kayysamm (435points) May 21st, 2009

My oyfriend and I have been together for about 7 months now. We had a tough spot and I did everythign in my power for us to be happy again. It worked and now we are happy as hell, but I feel like sometime I’m getting sick being around him. Like him being close to me just is like eh, whatever.

Is that normal ? Does anyone else ever feel this way ?

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Dog's avatar

My Grandmother had a saying “Absence makes the heart grow fonder”
Perhaps you need a bit more alone time in order to appreciate him more.

Bobbilynn's avatar

Try spending less time together. If your happier when your apart, it’s a good sign to to tell him you would just like to be friends

Lothloriengaladriel's avatar

Never. I have no advice to share but I can’t imagine this is a good thing, do you still love him? Does the relationship still interest you?

kayysamm's avatar

I love him to pieces and our relationship is amaing and i want to keep moving foward with it.

Sometimes though i get so annoyed with him being around.

casheroo's avatar

@Lothloriengaladriel really? thats all I can say to you answering a relationship question.

@kayysamm Of course I get sick of my husband, he can annoy the snot out of me sometimes. That’s completely normal. This doesn’t mean we don’t love each other, no one can be together 24/7 and be happy the entire time, of course there will be ups and downs. Maybe do more things by yourself. This doesn’t mean you have to take a break or even talk about it, you can just hang out with friend, he hangs out with his friend, just have some more space. Not a big deal. You’ll start missing each other and it’ll be better.

Lothloriengaladriel's avatar

Cash lol I didn’t really try to give my advice geesh, take a chill pill but although we’ve had our up and downs, I do know I’ve never felt like this about my bf )=

Dog's avatar

I get sick of my spouse often. Then one of us leaves for a business trip and when we are together again the passion is on high.

Everyone needs a certain amount of space to just be. It makes a much healthier and happier relationship.

spresto's avatar

Well if you don’t feel like being with your “S. O.” dump him.

OpryLeigh's avatar

I never get sick of my boyfriend but we are not together 24/7 which is probably a good thing. People need their own space and its rarely healthy to be in each others pockets. Maybe you should try having set days each week were you are not together and you can both make plans without having to worry about what the other is up to.

Dog's avatar

@spresto I do not think you understand what @kayysamm means.

She loves being with him but just like with chocolate and campaign too much can make a person want to take a break from indulging.

My spouse and I are soul mates and are very much in love but both of us are at home much of the time. After a long stretch of time we just need to step back to breathe. When we do our relationship is stronger.

spresto's avatar

@Dog Good for you. That is a healthy tactic.

Clair's avatar

Everybody gets sick of their spouse. Time away helps alot and makes you realize how much you care. But your relationship is young, give it time and follow your heart

Darwin's avatar

I get frustrated by my husband’s lack of get-up-and-go at times and by his insistence on watching UFC and WEC, but I am never sick of being around him. Besides he naps a lot these days so I just go to some other part of the house for a bit and do something that needs doing. Or I take out a book and read.

We’ve been married for almost 20 years.

cwilbur's avatar

It could be that this is a sign that you’re not well suited for each other, in which case the best thing to do is split before you hate each other. It could also be that this is a sign that you’re spending too much time together and doing too many things together, in which case the best thing to do is to cultivate your interests that do not involve him.

Many people seem to think that a couple need to be joined at the hip at all times. Their relationships do not tend to last—their partners suffocate.

Loried2008's avatar

Have some you time and encourage him to also. Too much time spent together can be idle time. Spice it up or use some distance.

evelyns_pet_zebra's avatar

familiarity breeds contempt, absence makes the heart grow fonder, and you can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make him drink.

All great sayings, and they all probably apply here. You need to figure out what is amazing about your SO, and whether you can put up with his quirks, and foibles, and outright faults for the next twenty years. Because if you get married and have kids, twenty years is what it will be. Does that sound like a prison sentence?

I have been married twenty years, been with my SO seven years before that, (so that is almost thirty years) and I may get annoyed with her at times, but I can’t imagine not being with her. You have some very serious thinking to do before you go much further. And please, be realistic about it, because it ain’t all rainbows and butterflies after the passion fades.

people who get married, have unrealistic expectations, and then get divorced because they now hate that person for nothing more than things they should have seen earlier, are to me, idiots. If you can’t be a realist about your companion, you really shouldn’t marry them. Divorce is, you know, the number one threat to a marriage.

tinyfaery's avatar

Yes. Sometimes I just want my wife to go away and leave me be. But she better come back like 15 minutes later.

hug_of_war's avatar

I don’t get sick of my boyfriend. But just because we spend a lot of time together doesn’t mean we are in each other’s face all the time. Sometimes being together might be one person watching tv while the other reads a magazine. And we have seperate interests and spend time on those interests. But I’m never like, “we’ve been together too much, I need to get away from you for a while”.

My point is, if you mean you like to do things without him…that’s normal. If you have sperate interests…that’s healthy. But if you mean that you’re tired of being around him sometimes, well I feel that isn’t a good sign. There’s a difference between I want to hang out with my friends or I want to cultivate this interest and I don’t want to be around you.

LKidKyle1985's avatar

@dog my grandma had a saying to, absence makes the heart grow fonder… of someone else.
But uh, its hard to say, some people just drive you crazy but you love them anyways. I don’t have much advise for you either. but think about it like this, if you think hes annoying now, whats it gonna be like when hes pushing 50.

skfinkel's avatar

You have only been together seven months. Either you need to get some space, and then see how it is. Or, he isn’t the person for you. Lucky for you you’re not married and even more fortunate that you don’t yet have kids. T

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

I think it’s normal – it happens to me, in that we spend so much time together, sometimes I want to spend time with someone else, but it doesn’t mean I don’t want to be next to him

Blondesjon's avatar

You are both young. If you are ever going to “just follow your feelings” do it now. These are the years you can get away with it.

Bluefreedom's avatar

I felt that way with my first wife and that probably explains the divorce. Life is better minus her.

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