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If you have to decline a wedding invitation, do you still send a gift?

Asked by simpleD (3644points) June 11th, 2009

I’m good friends with the bride’s father, but I’m not able to attend the event. I don’t know what the expectations are.

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chyna's avatar

I would send a gift anyway, since you are friends with the brides father. I’m not sure what the ettiquette really is here. Maybe just send a check.

gailcalled's avatar

I always send a gift for parties, weddings, Bar MItzvah’s… anything celebratory that I am invited to and have to decline.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

It definitely depends on how close I am with the bride and groom – I don’t usually send a gift, no and for all my close friends, I’ve been able to attend

The_Compassionate_Heretic's avatar

You’re not expected to buy a gift even if you do attend, but it is a nice gesture of goodwill.

seekingwolf's avatar

Well, you certainly don’t have to, but it’s always appreciated. It may be best just to send something and and err on the side of caution.

Perhaps you could send a Visa giftcard or something? They can be used anywhere just like a credit card and can be bought to have amounts like 25 dollars, 50, 100+...

shadling21's avatar

Ooooh GQ – It’s wedding season, already!

simpleD's avatar

Thanks for the opinions. I think I’ll send a gift card.

ycc2106's avatar

It depends on the culture – in some countries it’s very very rude to not send a gift: it could mean many things, like you are against the marriage, you don’t want to know them… to be on the safe side: just send a gift.

sandystrachan's avatar

You are all invited to all parties for this household of the birthday and anniversary type , since non of you can make it a gift will suffice .lol

cookieman's avatar


Fresh baked cookies are always nice.

assuming I’m the recipient, of course

Skippy's avatar

I was always taught that if you got an invite, you should send a gift, even if you don’t attend the wedding.

It’s always a nice thing to do, since they thought enough to invite you.

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