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How do you deal with people that are extremely hyper?

Asked by Cecratedlin (30points) November 5th, 2009 from iPhone

Okay, so I consider myself a pretty chill dude. I like to have nice conversations with people and just enjoy everything little by little. Here’s the problem, there’s nothing more that I can’t stand than an annoying, hyper little teen that’s constantly talking about something stupid. I know I sound paranoid, but I can’t stand the sound of this girl rambling on and on about stuff I could care less about.

Do you have any ideas on how I could match her ‘intensity’ level? She’s cute and outgoing, but I can’t stand her when she goes on a talking rampage. She makes me look stiff when she acts like that because I have no way to react or reply to what she says and does. She likes me, and I have feelings for her, but how can I make myself feel more confident with myself when I’m around her? I’m very relaxed and quite, and she’s very talkative and hyper. We’re the exact opposite and I’m tired of her making me feel bad about my natural personality.

I DO like this girl, but she doesn’t seem to acknowledge that I’m naturally calm and quite. Not shy, just chill… I want to find a way to connect with her without having to tell her that she annoys the crap out of me sometimes or by changing my personality.
Any tips?

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Samurai's avatar

The steps of learning how to socialize.

PretentiousArtist's avatar

You grasp her tightly and yell

holden's avatar

Ignore them?

buckyboy28's avatar

When she’s not looking, inject a high-dose horse tranquilizer into her.

Ailia's avatar

Hmmm. Well how about matching her intensity level by getting hyper yourself? For instance whenever I get really hyper it makes it easier to talk to others who are hyper as well. Of course this probably won’t work if you don’t get hyper easily. Although sugar and energy drinks do if for most people, it might not work for you. If so then my suggestion is to just leave the situation politely(e.g. I need to go to do so and so…).

PretentiousArtist's avatar

Repeat after me:
I am the pack leader

PandoraBoxx's avatar

Ask her if you make her nervous. Talking too much is usually a symptom of being nervous around someone that you want to appear friendly towards.

Sounds like the Energizer Bunny!

Facade's avatar

I distance myself from them. If I’m not drunk, I can’t deal with hyper people.

Cecratedlin's avatar

She’s far worse than the energizer bunny. I mean, I love her personality but it gets old after about 2 minutes. I don’t think I make her nervous, she’s just the exact opposite as me. I want to be in a relationship with her, but she’s so hyper that I can’t think of anything to say. It’s sort of like a vicious cycle, she’s always bouncing off the walls and I get to tighten my lips and shake my head. I love this girl, but I can’t find a way for us to just connect.

PandoraBoxx's avatar

You should tell her just that.

PandoraBoxx's avatar

Perhaps she’s gotten it into her head that she’s coming across as “vivacious” and “perky” .

Cecratedlin's avatar

I don’t know how I could tell her to stop being herself, i love her personality but it’s too much. I don’t think it’ll work between us, because we’re far too different. But that’s what I love about her. Sometimes she’s judgmental and annoying, other times she’s caring and understanding. I don’t know what it is, it sounds to me like something that can’t possibly work out.

faye's avatar

If you’re talking about her like this you ‘re right -it’s not going to work. Let it go before there’s too much hurt, and you’ll probably verbalize this anger in not a nice way.

Cecratedlin's avatar

Did I come across as angry?

Samurai's avatar

@Cecratedlin It sounds like you already made up your mind, not that your angry.

YARNLADY's avatar

If being around this person make you uneasy, I do not see any long term relationship to build on.

FutureMemory's avatar

From what you’ve told us, it seems fairly clear that your personalities just don’t mesh. When you start looking for methods that will enable you to deal with her, which is a far cry from enjoying her company, well… let’s just say it’s not a good sign.

faye's avatar

maybe it’s me that would be angry, sorry. I would whisper this if I could figure it out.

PandoraBoxx's avatar

@Cecratedlin, most people do grow out of it. Many people grow out of it because someone tells them they’re being annoying. Usually, it’s your siblings, or a parent, after a long car trip.

tomkat's avatar

just chill out dude

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