Should i meet somone I met on the internet?

Nope. Haven’t you ever seen To Catch a Predator?

I’ve had my fair share of wondering the same question when I was in high school, and looking back on those situations now, my advice to you is also no.

First, learn how to avoid run-on sentences.
After that, just be careful. You don’t really know this dude. Doesn’t sound like a very good idea to me. But what do I know? I’m only six.

Personally I feel that persons wishing to have a relationship that may evolve into an intimate one (based on his seemingly flirty nature), should both be within certain age limits. Until both are over 20 then I think a 2 year difference rule can apply.

Also if he found you then I think it is most unwise.

No.

A 20-year-old man who is pursuing an unknown 16-year-old woman has issues. My Spidey sense would be warning me off. Also, being drunk is never an excuse for changed behavior.

Yes… I mean no.

Just make sure you have others with you and make sure he knows it. If he doesn’t like that then you probably should stop talking to him.

NO NO no

@pdworkin I agree. I can’t see any normal guy being able to justify such an age gap. During the teens every year makes a big difference.

Bruce Campbell strongly does not support meeting strangers from the internet irl.

Who is Bruce Campbell?

Absolutely not.

Who isn’t Bruce Campbell
3/10, nice try, bro.

Definitely not given the age difference – he could be “grooming” you

@Mike_Hunt You are very cryptic. I have no idea what you are talking about.

Does anyone that you know actually know this person in RL? I’m hoping the answer is yes, because if not, here’s a guy who says he’s 20 years old, knows where you go to high school, knows what you look like, maybe knows your cell phone number, maybe knows your address. He’s been talking to you via FB, has gained your trust by telling you you have pretty eyes, and that he (who has never met you) is in love with you.

You explain to me how this is not a guy in a white van, with a picture of a puppy, asking you to come over to the van and take a look at it so you can help him find it?

I no one you know actually knows this person in RL, delete him. Immediately. Never, ever, ever add people to FB that you can’t make a RL connection with before you add them.

Just ask him if he is willing to meet you for dinner with your parents at home.

His reaction to that idea
should tell you everything.

If either of you doesn’t like that idea, something is very wrong.

Plus he’s telling you that he’s twenty ON THE INTERNET. Most likely he is in his thirties or forties IF even that young. Chances are extremely high he’s a perv. Haven’t you watched “To Catch A Predator”
The stories these guys told compared to the reality of who they were would make your hair curl. Most 16 yr. olds are using Facebook to keep in touch with their REAL LIFE friends, ya know, like classmates, cousins, etc.

Oh my lord. Why would you trust anyone who says “Love ya” and doesn’t know you? Then you say he’s to be excused because he’s a little drunk? And this is someone with whom you want to spend time, possibly in a relationship? Does it not occur to you that there are all kinds of behaviour that you’ll end up having to excuse due to his drunkenness? He sounds like a schmuck to me. Finish high school, find a boy your own age who ISN’T a loser and take a nice, slow roll into adulthood. Maybe even go to college so you don’t end up depending on a schmuck who gets drunk and does stupid sh**. Good luck sweetie. I wish I had had someone around to give me some advice like this when I was sixteen. I hope your tendency to listen is better than mine was.

@Mike_Hunt The evil dead pussy horrific thought.

@pdworkin He’s an actor with a cult following that’s known for being in the Evil Dead trilogy. Really, it’s something else. wiki

Thanks, @Sampson.

@Sampson

Thanks for the additional info on Bruce Campbell.

I’ve only known him in his role of Sam on Burn Notice (which just finished a fab marathon yesterday.

I might get freaked on for this response. However, we can tell her “No” all we want and give her that sort of advice. But what about looking at the other side? What if she is going to no matter what? I feel that I need to gain “peace of mind” and give her advice in case she does go meet him. For the record I do NOT agree with meeting him.:

Okay, I’m going to go back to my 16 year old self (I’m only 21 so it was not long ago) and basically take this as “you’re going to no matter what advice you are given”, this is how my brain functioned. You’re 16 and discovering life and the world, whether it’s bad or not you’re gonna make mistakes. But lets not make it a deadly one.. So, if you are set on meeting this guy then take all the necessary precautions in order to keep yourself as safe as possible.

I’d like to say, firstly, that if he objects to any of these “rules” or tries to change the plans last minute; cancel. Do not go along with it, do not let him talk you into changing anything. And most importantly; trust your gut.

- Someone (perferably a parent) MUST know where you are going, this is why you cannot change anything last minute. Put a time limit on your “meeting” and the person who knows where you are can call your cell or come to that location if you are not back by your set time. Having someone “informed” on the outside is crucial to keeping you safe.

- Get there on your own; he might have a spiffy car, woo for him. Get dropped off, take a bus, ride a bike. Do not let him pick you up!

- Coffee; first time meeting do it over coffee. Just agreeing to coffee does not lock you in to a long “date”. THIS IS NOT A DATE. Now, with that being said, if you meet up, things go smashingly; schedule another “meeting” over LUNCH. Stick to your time limit for the coffee meeting.

- People, people, people. You want to meet for coffee in a populated area. Busy coffee shops are perfect.

- Do not leave the coffee shop, do not let him drive you home. He might be a total sweetheart, and give you big puppy dog eyes or say a slick line to make your heart melt but you have all the time in the world to get to know him. (If this leads to that..)

Sweetie, be careful. I’m telling you all this with tears in my eyes because I made a mistake once. Met a guy.. and almost died. He tricked me, used my innocence and nearly took my life. I made stupid choices, trusted a guy I thought I had “all figured out”. Well, you cannot “figure” someone out till you have met them in person. But meeting them in person without being careful can cost you your life. Predators have a way of covering up their true selves until they have a chance to strike.

If you need someone to talk to, I’m always here and always available ^.^

GA, @ElleBee – a million times over!

No.Why bother?I can’t imagine getting all excited to go meet a drunk.

I met my husband online and went to meet him randomly but we have talked a whole lot more, webcammed, exchanged “I Love Yous” all before that happened…I was 23, he was 26…it worked for us…in your situation, I’m thinking wait a bit

Didn’t you say that you have heaps of mutual friends? Find one of them who actually knows him, and ask for their opinion. Then ask them to introduce you.

If he’s added loads of your friends but none of them actually know him that well, I’d be very cautious. Not necessarily because he might be dangerous, but because he sounds like an ass.

Having met people in real life after first becoming acquainted with them online, I can honestly say that there’s a chance he’s not creepy. Each case is different though, and his online image isn’t exactly flawless. Arrange to meet him in a well-frequented public place, bring a couple of friends along, and make sure you get their opinions of him afterwards.

Are you interested in a romantic relationship or just friendship? The former may be difficult, especially as he’s able to drink and go out and you aren’t. There’s not much else that I can say, but to trust your gut instinct. He’s on facebook, you’re on facebook, do a little bit of investigation and see whether he’s the real deal.

I agree with ask him to meet with you and your parents, and maybe a couple of other mutual friends at a fun restaurant. Do not under any circumstances agree to meet him somewhere alone.

P.S. In the US the legal drinking age is 21, so it sounds like this guy is a scoff-law in addition to being a drunk. Use caution.

Ah….the young British woman wanting to date yet another yob of a drunken guy…why am I not surprised? Why do young girls in this country settle for the dregs? Why? Why? Why?!!

You don’t know him.
He drinks and tells you “love ya” when he’s drunk.
He is 21 and you are 16. (For the Americans, there has been a slew of 16 year olds in this country running away and marrying 44 year old and older men, by the way…giving you some background.)

But…I can already tell…you are probably going to meet him no matter what we say….right?

You are probably a lovely young woman….and can do a lot better, but….

1. If you meet this guy, let someone know exactly where you are going to be, even if you take a friend.
2. Meet him in a public place and not after dark. Meet him in the morning or afternoon.
3. Keep your cell phone on and have your friends call to check in with you.
4. Do not get in his car, do not follow him to his flat, no matter how cuuuute he is or what he says to you.
5. Don’t sit there and giggle and say nothing. Ask him the questions that mean something….“Are you going to college? Are you learning a trade? What do you want to do with your life? Do you have a job? Do you have a girlfriend? Do you have a criminal record?” (Okay, maybe not that.)

Please know that it isn’t enough for a guy to be cute and tell you love ya. I realize that you want to date and meet someone nice and all that…..but I’ll bet you can do a lot better.

What I really want to say to you is this:

Study. Pass your exams. Go to university or learn a trade. Become a woman that does not need a man…..and good men will find you….and they won’t have to be drunk to tell you that they love you.

Good luck…....and if you go…...please, please be careful.

(Read ElleBee’s posting…she’s got good information.)

thanks guys, taken your advice and havent met him. Told him the reasons why and he said I should “put faith in others and myself” and sent me texts saying ” im sorry its not you. (because when i was talking to him he went saying he needed to lie down because i was confusing him and his head couldnt take it) ive been through such a hard time im taking antidepressents. im not trying to make you feel guilty. i just really hoped we could be friends or more. x” and when i just signed onto msn he had sent me a message saying “im sorry i just really thought we could be great friends”, He wont leave me alone. Keeps telling me i should trust him which obviously makes me think I cant, other wise hed understand rather than fight me on it right?

Absolutely right. He betrayed himself.

He’s trying to make you pity him and make you feel guilty. (Antidepressants) oh boo hoo. This is classic manipulation.

It hasn’t worked yet, so dont let it. He is a manipulative jerk trying a last ditch play.

Cut him off and be done with it already. Block him and continue to ignore him.

@laureth : Thank you so much for your support in my answer! Much lurve to you ^.^