Have you come across people who blame others for their troubles?

Yes; I know someone very well who has never been responsible for his problems in his own mind. It is always someone else’s fault. I think this is a trait which one cannot change.

very often. just let them blam whatever they like. They sooner will be estranged and isolated from others and they have to suffer from their own fault.

”come across”

Try – lived with for twenty-five years.

@cprevite : How do you overcome yourself from that? because you are used to live in such situations.

Yep….

Yes, I have met people like that. My sister thinks her problems are always caused by other people, and she never learns. To her, each time she falls for a loser, it is completely different from the last time. She does not see the similarities.

We call them “blamethrowers”. You should try to avoid that type of person as much as possible.

Have you excogitated at this paradigm from the kings perspective? Is it indubitably the malfeasance of the King who projects his comeuppance to his battalion, or is it perhaps the incompetence of the cavalry? If the King was undefeated until now, & a king is never enmeshed in barrage, then who’s to say the King is at culpability rather then the regiment? If anything, the brigade is sooner at animadversion. One loss is a loss to many. Now, look at this in current times, if you dishevel a multimillion dollar transaction for a company you work for, what do you think will happen to you? Not only will you get layoff, but criminal charges will be inscribed against you for such extreme incompetence & I’ve seen it happen more then once. How about a lengthy friendship that comes to an immediate end for an unforgivable action? I will repeat, one loss/wrong is one loss/wrong to many. I am not condoning the Kings killings, I am merely indicating that don’t always surmise that it is A projecting his troubles to B, when B can may immensely well be at accountability(You could be B, rather then faulting A).

@meatheadbox :Great answer! :)

I know a couple of people who blame the whole world for their problems. Anything but standing up and taking responsibility for the way their life is going, eh. It’s the most draining thing to listen to, so the solution is to avoid such people. The truth is when you’re wrapped up in the blame game, you’re the only one that’s losing out.

@stardust : but if anyone is working into such environment & has to face such type of situations everyday.then he must endure the blame either in front of someone or in absence of someone.

It is me who I meet every day.It is my self the blame on the go.Do you lought

Yesterday, I knew 838 people like that :)

Inmates blame everyone else for their troubles. I’ve actually had some tell me it’s all my fault they’re back in custody. Even if I had them arrested for warrants, I’m not the one that made them behave badly in the first place.

I think depression and other mental issues have a lot to do with people blaming others for their problems. I also see the other end of the spectrum; the cutters and suicidal persons who blame themselves for everything and can’t find a better solution.

I have a couple relatives that I have to hear their bitch and moan BS at holiday gatherings all the others I turn around and walk the other way.

Yes. I call them Congress, the President, his Chief of Staff, and his Cabinet.

I have worked around many of these types. You make a modification on a piece of industrial equipment, it works good and everyone praises you. Down the road a simple component breaks and all of a sudden you are cursed and badmouthed for not knowing what you are doing and then the same people that originally agreed with your idea will claim to others they told you not to do it that way all because they were too stupid to figure out how to troubleshoot a simple problem that would have taken 5 minutes to correct.

The workplace can be the greatest source of “cut throats” when it comes to shifting blame on others.

I’ve met a few. I don’t usually become friends with them. I try not to work with them, either.

However, they often seem to be standing behind customer service counters. Or they did, in the past. Things are getting better these days. Except in cable companies. ;-)

Yes, i am one myself.
Together with most of my colleagues, we always blame this one guy who quit about a year ago.
Whenever somebody is searching for a tape measure and it appears to be missing, or tools are scattered on the floor, or someone has sawed the beam at 80 cm length instead of 85 cm, we always say: “Must have been Joe.”
Seriously though, yes, don’t we all come across them?
I maybe (probably) have done so myself in the forty-three years that i am around now.

Some years ago I got a great lesson in the value of taking ownership for my own mistakes. On one of my jobs, I released an ad to the printer that had a bad typo in it. One of my co-workers told me my boss, who had a pretty explosive temper, was on the warpath for me. Next morning I walked into his office and before he could say a word I said, ‘Phil, that typo was nobody’s fault but mine. I apologize and I guarantee such a mistake won’t happen again.” His face relaxed, he smiled and he said, “Don’t worry about it. Happens to us all.” And that was the end of that. I’ve made many mistakes in the years since and have always made it a point to admit when it was mine, and to be very careful about pointing the finger at someone else when it wasn’t. Time and time again the result has been positive.

@rebbel Funny you mentioned about blaming “Joe” for everything lol. I have the funny feeling that I am this “Joe” at the last place I have worked at.