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Scarlett's avatar

What is the best adivce you've ever gotten?

Asked by Scarlett (915points) August 2nd, 2010

What is the best advice, or words or wisdom, that has stuck with you, or has really helped you out ?

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SamIAm's avatar

don’t do anything you can’t own up to.

Parrappa's avatar

Treat others as you want to be treated aka the golden rule.

silvermoon's avatar

Listen to your mother – even if you don’t want to listen to what she has to say because you know that sometimes what she says will hurt.

TexasDude's avatar

“Other people being dicks to you is a sign of their own personal defects, not yours.”

Austinlad's avatar

My college English prof advised me to leave Texas after one semester and study and work in New York. I did it, and it set me on a path I’m still on today. I don’t even remember his name, but I’ve never forgotten nor ceased to be grateful what he did for me.

gypsywench's avatar

I was once told “Never take advice from a lemming”.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

You’re not the first nor are you the last to deal with something like this so you will get through it ~ my mother.

gypsywench's avatar

“to thy own self be true” Polonius’s advice to Laertes

WestRiverrat's avatar

my top 3

1. Never fire a weapon if you don’t know where the bullet will go once it leaves the barrel.
2. Never aim a loaded weapon at something you are not willing to destroy.
3. Always assume any weapon you handle is loaded.

mrentropy's avatar

“There is always someone smarter than you.”


“Stop singing that or I’ll push you out of the car.”

doublebogie's avatar

“Know your limitations, but don’t let them get in your way”

SPerrina's avatar

1) EVERYTHING in moderation
2) You do one thing to ruin your reputation….its ruined forever!

FutureMemory's avatar

Don’t burn your bridges.

doublebogie's avatar

@SPerrina My grandfather always said that but added one more line “including moderation itself” which is actually included in EVERYTHING!

AmWiser's avatar

1. It’s a bad wind that never changes.
2. The truth will always prevail.

Cruiser's avatar

Never wash red shirts with your tidy whities.

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LuckyGuy's avatar

She’s not the one.


If you do it, or say it, you own it.

Facade's avatar

You reap what you sow.

eden2eve's avatar

Never judge a man until/unless you’ve walked a mile in his moccasins.

laureth's avatar

When I was in middle school and desperate to be popular, I briefly considered trying out for cheerleading. My mom told me that I could if I really wanted to, but to consider this: if I want to do something, do something – don’t just cheer for the people who are doing something.

lillycoyote's avatar

Not to waste a lot of time and energy on regret and self-recrimination. If I made the best decision I could with the information and experience I had at the time, then that’s that; no one can expect more of you and you can’t expect more of yourself than that. If I screwed something up then fix it as best I can, if I wronged someone then try to make it right it as best I can and when that’s done, let it go and move on. My dad’s advice.

DarlingRhadamanthus's avatar

“A man will let you know exactly how he feels and what he’s about….when you first start dating him…but you have to pay attention.”

Example: If he says, “I really am not a romantic.” Guess what? He’s not.
If he says, “I don’t want to settle down.” Guess what? He doesn’t.
If he says, “I have not been able to commit to one woman.” Guess what? It’s true.

The difficulty comes when….women don’t believe what they hear or worse they think they can change the person.

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

My mother said not to touch the stove.
Great advice!I don’t cook.;)

janbb's avatar

My Dad used to tell me, “When you need less, you get more.”

Pandora's avatar

Don’t expect to get something for nothing. Theres always a catch.
You only look a fool if you act like a fool.
If something smells fishy than it something probably is wrong.
Trust your instincts. Odds are they probably will be right 9 times out of 10 and its better to be a live fool than a dead fool.

perspicacious's avatar

As long as you do what you do, you’ll get what you get.

boffin's avatar

Never say no to a free lunch… or dinner!

KhiaKarma's avatar

Just get the piece of paper (diploma). You can figure out what you want to do later.

Rarebear's avatar

Always make sure I have the correct spelling, grammar, and punctuation in anything I write.

superneil21's avatar

Grandpa said; use your brain, i hope its enough.

aprilsimnel's avatar

“Before you speak, think -Is it necessary? Is it true? Is it kind? Will it hurt anyone? Will it improve on the silence?” -Sri Sathya Sai Baba

I heard it in another way, and didn’t know it was his. But it’s excellent advice.

ETpro's avatar

@eden2eve And the corollary to, Never judge a man till you’ve walked a mile in his moccasins.” is, “If you still decide to judge him, you’ll already be a mile away and have his shoes.”

I’ve been told free advice is always worth what you paid for it, and often no more.

For instance remember, “Everything in moderation, nothing in excess.” and while you’re at it, be sure to include, “Whatever you do, do it with all your heart.”

lillycoyote's avatar

@aprilsimnel Yes, I know that one but I didn’t know who said it originally. I always thought it was one of those things our mothers were taught to say in Things Mothers Say 101. :-) Thanks for posting it, with the source. These days, when people like to say: “I’m not mean, or cruel, I’m just “brutally honest…” Yeah, are you? Are you sure you’re not just a jackass? ... Well, they are words to consider, words to live by, I think.

shpadoinkle_sue's avatar

Take care of one thing at a time. It kills panic and anxiety instantly.

cockswain's avatar

The least you can pay is attention.

Pied_Pfeffer's avatar

1.) “The definition of ‘insanity’ is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result.”
2.) (When having difficulty letting go of someone else’s comment or behavior) “Build a bridge…and get over it!” – Amanda Gore
3.) Sometimes it is better to use The Platinum Rule, which is, “Do unto others as they want done unto them.”

WestRiverrat's avatar

Another one I heard from the same drill sgt…

There is nothing that cannot be solved with the judicious application of a sufficient quantity of C4.

cookieman's avatar

“If you’re gonna do something, take the time to do it right.”
my dad

“Nothing is impossible. The hard stuff just takes longer.”
college professor

“If you’re gonna draw an ass, draw an ass!”
friend and fellow teacher

FutureMemory's avatar

“Do as I say, not as I do”


Ron_C's avatar

Don’t do something just because your friends do it,

Do the best job you can.

Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

It is easier to remember the truth than a lie.

Dr_C's avatar

Don’t shit where you eat.

stranger_in_a_strange_land's avatar

A wise man recently told me not to worry about age differences or what others may think, to follow my heart.

augustlan's avatar

Do the right thing. Period. Paraphrased, by Spike Lee

JilltheTooth's avatar

@lillycoyote : Amen to that. There’s a reason it’s called ”brutally” honest. Being a brute is being a brute.
From my 4th grade teacher: “You don’t have to memorize the truth.”
@augustlan : Yeah, My Dad was absolute on that one.

BoBo1946's avatar

Don’t get married so young.

Ron_C's avatar

@BoBo1946 I think that advice is wrong. We got married when we were 18 and had our forst kid when we were 22. That’s a good thing because I don’t think I could have kept up with the kids when they were in high school if I was in late middle age.

BoBo1946's avatar

@Ron_C just my opinion. Glad your situation worked out, most don’t.

Ron_C's avatar

@BoBo1946 I have heard that. Back when we got married, people typically married shortly after high school and sometimes in college. I guess the marriage age has increased in the last 20 years or so. I agonized over it, we never (at least I never) considered divorce because marriage is a life time commitment. People looked at divorce as a failure. We have only one divorced couple in my family, my grandmother because my grandfather would hit her. He was essentially ostracized from the family. We have a no-hitting rule. That rule, however did not apply to children, we did, very occasionally, spank our kids. It was usually a swat on the butt when they were very young and about to do some major damage to themselves or the house.

Neizvestnaya's avatar

“Sometimes you do for someone else even if you don’t feel like doing whatever that thing is for yourself”.

My ex husband and I attended “Engaged Encounter” through the Catholic church and years later much of what we discussed there still makes sense but better than that is I’ve actually taken action and tried some of what makes sense. Funny how that works.

SamIAm's avatar

another: “Do You”

Ron_C's avatar

@Neizvestnaya we went to a “Marriage Encounter ” group sponsored by the Catholic church. I bought right into it all. My wife was and is extremely skeptical. Everybody was supposed to go back in to their rooms and work through the exercises. We argued, instead. Then we had some of the best make up sex….ever.

I don’t think that is how they planned it but we aren’t too good in following a group.

woodcutter's avatar

if you laugh the world laughs with you, if you cry, you cry by yourself

Neizvestnaya's avatar

@Ron_C- We were voted the couple most likely to succeed and maybe it’s true… years later and down the road with others :)


Mind your own business.

cockswain's avatar

Oh, I love this one too:

“If A equals success, then the formula is A = X + Y + Z. X is work. Y is play. Z is keep your mouth shut.”—Albert Einstein

Lizabette's avatar

Try to find the BALANCE in everything and within yourself. Find out the worst thing about someone and whether or not you can live with that and ACCEPT that person for exactly who they are, otherwise it probably won’t work out. Don’t have unrealistic expectations or magical thinking about anyone “changing”. “Loss makes artists of us all as we weave new patterns in the fabric of our lives. Greta W. Crosby”. Practice tolerance, but don’t tolerate real abuse. Listen to people. Be aware of your inner self. Pay attention. Think first. Keep it simple. Become spiritual-minded for enlightenment in Life.

Smashley's avatar

Don’t worry about how you compare with others. The race is long, and in the end, it’s only with yourself.

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