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[NSFW] Have you caught a spouse/mate in the act of cheating?

Asked by Hypocrisy_Central (20297 points ) December 16th, 2013

disclaimer No, it was not me. Please answer as to what you would do, not what someone else did. Don’t use names if you will bust someone out and blow their secret (especially if it is another Flutheronian). If you were the one boinking the attached person who was cheating, you do not have to say

How would you handle catching your spouse or partner you thought loved you and you trusted them if you caught them in the very act of cheating? If due to an occurrence on the job they had to close up and send everyone home early. You drive home and notice your partner’s car is home when it should not be. You enter in the house but no one greets you, and you hear noises from the bedroom. You go and open the door and there is your mate/spouse boinking someone you have never seen before. What would your reaction be?

Same scenario but your spouse/mate come jaunting into the kitchen buck naked, and upon seeing you seem flabbergasted. Before any of you speaks the person they were boinking pops into the kitchen telling your spouse/mate not to forget ice for their drink, before noticing you there. How would you handle that?

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RealEyesRealizeRealLies's avatar

I thought “boinking” was spelled with two g’s.

wangker

ragingloli's avatar

I caught my priest doing it with another choirboy.

Hypocrisy_Central's avatar

^ Surely you jest…..

Jonesn4burgers's avatar

Not notice me? How could she not notice someone in the process of sawing off her lover’s salami with a butter knife?

hearkat's avatar

I caught my ex in 1989 – before cell phones were commonplace – but not ‘in the act’. We had been dating for a few years. I went to his place and her car was there. I went in and confronted her. She lied and told me nothing happened between them, she just needed place to get away from her bad situation. When I saw him later, I told him that I had seen her here and talked to her. He admitted having slept with her, thinking that she’d been truthful, I laughed at him and told him that she had lied. We broke up for several months, then reconciled. We eventually got married and had a kid together; but sadly, his bond to alcohol was stronger than his commitment to his family. His was a tragic life.

creative1's avatar

I walked in on my boyfriend in bed with another woman and I just turned around and left never to see him again. He tried to call and talk but I told him I don’t need that type of guy in my life. Last I heard of him he was with the girl he I caught him in bed with and he’s cheated on her several times since.

Glad I walked away

poisonedantidote's avatar

I’d go get a weapon and force them to finish while I film it, then I would post it to the internet for all to see. Once that is done, I would probably mentally torture them both by making them think I am going to murder them, and once they shit enough bricks I would probably piss on them and walk out.

AssyrianKing9's avatar

Call my laywer and divorce her.

bolwerk's avatar

I would just want proper safety measures to be taken. Otherwise, I wouldn’t really care. I think monogamy is boring and silly, and pretty much everybody who cheats (probably most people) votes the way I do even if they don’t admit it.

KaY_Jelly's avatar

Yep. I got stood up and I was sick of being
stood up he was supposed to meet me and 2, 3 hours go by and he never showed up, this was not the first time, so this unlike the others when I would stay out and just come home later, I decided to go pick him up…what a good idea I thought that was, lol.

I was so submissive in the relationship, being 17, I basically let him do whatever he wanted and walk all over me and I never stood up for myself this was a big change and took a lot of guts for me, I was facing who knows what when I got there. All along I think I knew he was cheating, I also think my going to pick him up was a way for me to blow it up.

Anyway whatever it was, this night I decided I’d had it.

I got there and I saw thru the window he was sitting with this other girl like they have been together forever.

After the abuse and torture I suffered with this guy I was so ticked off.

I knocked on the door so he’d answer and I could surprise him, they were not expecting me and surprised he was!

When they (yes she came to lol) came to the door I said along the lines of “HEY! Thanks for lying to me, she can have my sloppy seconds..if you want to see your daughter, I’ll see in court! :P Have fun with him lady, he’s a liar, a cheater, a rapist, and an abuser, seeing you are with him now, I guess he’s pretty much your dream guy! I’m glad you took him off my hands! Thank you.”

Then I ran out to my car pretty much in fear and knowing that saying any of that stuff out loud he’d make me pay for it some how.

Well, he came running after me, but I got in my car started it and spit gravel I’m hoping in his face and got around the corner and then got pulled over by the cops for speeding. :/

But after explaining the situation I luckily did not get a ticket.

The guy hasn’t seen his daughter since. He has never tried to contact her not until ironically she was 18 at which time she wanted nothing to do with him not because of his past with me but because of the past they had together and she remembers him and her first 3 years she had with him and a horrible night in her own words where he tried to punish her for not eating something she did not like. That something he would of known she didn’t like if he had of taken the time to ask her instead.

I tried very stupid on my part, but being 17 I had no clue to let him have a relationship with her and I quickly learned her safety was more important.

I never spoke ill of him and I actually let him take her a few times without a court order more stupidity on my part I know that’s why they fled to Niagara falls without my permission and didn’t come back on any scheduled time basically giving me mini heart attacks and then it was clear to me, this guy could kidnap my daughter at any time, so I cut the visits off and told him that going to court was now back in effect and if he wanted to see her that’s how he would have to do it.

And even after that I still never spoke ill of him because I wanted my daughter to form her own opinion.

It’s unfortunate for the guy and my daughter because if he could of just got some help maybe he could of been a good person and father but he refused help so my daughter did form her own opinion and luckily I found her a great father figure in her life when she needed it so I guess in the end if her sperm donating father never cheated I may never of had the guts or the chance to leave the situation, learn from my stupid mistakes and my daughter may of been raised in a life of torment instead of a life of stability like she was.

After I found out he was cheating I fled to a women’s abuse shelter until I got on my feet.

KaY_Jelly's avatar

and I just have to clarify I said my car like I had use of a car of my own and like I could leave at any time, but I could not, I actually borrowed the car from a friend where we were well where I was that night seeing it was a new years eve party out in the country overnight…‘the guy’ was supposed to get a ride there to spend the night with all of us and his daughter by a friend who was at the house when I inconveniently came home, seems they were having their own new years party.

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