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When it comes to your significant other, are you a pushover?

Asked by elchoopanebre (3074points) June 5th, 2008

I definitely am. She can get whatever she wants out of me.

And recently she’s even been pretty catty sometimes and I instantly forgive her the moment she apologizes.

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marinelife's avatar

No way. Relationships have to be give and take. I love to do little nice things for my guy, but I am not a pushover who provides anything and everything.

MisterBlueSky85's avatar

Definitely not. My girlfriend and I have a very respectful relationship in which we both give and take equally, and it’s one of the reasons I love her.

And by the way, human nature shows that when people get what they want, they typically want more. Maybe being a pushover is reinforcing some bad behavior of hers. I don’t mean to be critical in any way, it’s just a thought.

Harp's avatar

No. Different relationships have different dynamics, of course, but my wife is very much a “take charge” personality. She is great at organizing and seeing that what needs to get done gets done, which is a great asset to our family. But I find that I have to be wary about how far I let that need to control extend. There are times when I just have to say “back off”.

We’ve been married 26 years and both of us are aware of this tension, and are even comfortable with it. It rarely leads to hard feelings, though there was a certain period of adjustment way back when we were both learning the ropes.

scamp's avatar

No. We are both too stubborn to be pushovers for each other!!

DeezerQueue's avatar

I’ve seen it, but it’s not something that we experience in our relationship. Why are you being a pushover, what makes you behave that way, what’s driving it? I think in general both parties need to recognize and work on their shortcomings in order for a relationship to reach its full potential.

AstroChuck's avatar

Without a doubt. Any guy in love who says he’s not is just lying to himself.

elchoopanebre's avatar

I second that notion, AstroChuck.

kevbo's avatar

I’m the pushoverer (sic).

susanc's avatar

Always liked being pushed over. Always liked the enjoyable pushing back.

ninjaxmarc's avatar

balance and compromise.

Sk8rchick1001's avatar

I am. I forget everything bad about them and let them take my heart away. It’s prob a bad thing tho

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