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Have you ever felt like excluding people?

Asked by The_Inquisitor (3158points) July 21st, 2008

I know this is kind of mean, but some of the time, I just feel that I don’t want someone there, they’re nice and all, but the feeling of not wanting them there keeps coming up. Has that ever happened to you?

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iwamoto's avatar

yes, i’ve felt like telling people they should leave before, but i guess i’m too nice to do so…

jamzzy's avatar

yeah i slowly cut them off..not calling them..not picking up their calls..its not fun but its for the best.

trumi's avatar

You just have to decide if it is worth making a fuss over. Sometimes you can’t help but.

flameboi's avatar

Yep, and I tend to transmit such feeling to the person I don’t like :s

ninjaxmarc's avatar

only the true kill joys.

ezraglenn's avatar

absolutely, but sometimes you just can’t be that mean.

The_Inquisitor's avatar

haha, i don’t act mean to them. I act like i don’t mind at all, but there are those times where i have a certain group of people i want to be around…

marinelife's avatar

This is tough if you and the person you want to exclude are all in the same place every day. If you having a party, it is OK to only invite friends. It would not, however, be OK to invite every single person in a certain group (like a class or your department at work) and exclude one or two people.

Yes, everyone feels that way at one time or another. It is best to remember how you would feel if you were the one being excluded, and let that inform how you handle the decision to exclude or not to exclude.

Adina1968's avatar

Yes… I am having a party and none of you are invited. Just kidding! :-p

scamp's avatar

I just try to be as boring as possible when I am around them, so they don’t want to stay.

Knotmyday's avatar

I start charging them for every unwanted minute in my presence. Hey, lawyers do it, and they want you there. Plus, I’m more fun.

ebenezer's avatar

I try to spend most of the time alone so I never have to be the guy that doesn’t get the subtle hints and cuddles up to the cold shoulder.

susanc's avatar

How about excluding people because they’re different from the rest of a group? That kind of exclusion worries me at a cultural level. When I’m conscious enough, I like to invite a mix of “dissimilar” people over so that everyone meets someone they didn’t know they’d find interesting.

flyawayxxballoon's avatar

Yes, I actually get that feeling quite often… I’m pretty nice, so I don’t usually do anything about it, but sometimes I just don’t want that person looking right over my shoulder or hanging around me all day. I try subtle hints, but they usually don’t pick up on it…

Miss_Lys's avatar

oh yah and i just have to sometimes deal with it or i will slowly blow them off on things like because i make up other plans or sometimes i find an excuse to leave.

babygalll's avatar

Yes. Sometimes I make the plans when I know they are going to be busy and can’t make it.

AxSqrd's avatar

Yes. Usually I go through phases of hating someones guts and being really friendly with them. It’s like my social life has MPD…

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